Case study Asian Women:How to respond to rejection over text...

[surfer11]

Hey Fellas:

I have a question about responding to rejection over texts and am curious how you would respond:
I have had this happen multiple times and it is starting to get annoying.
I need some advice on how to handle it in the future.

According to Chase I have tried to just act cool and not get upset or angry but I am not sure if it is resulting in getting the result I want which is to get the pussy wet and laid.

Girl #1: She is a beautiful Korean/Russian mix a clear 9/10 probably could get any man she wanted in a heartbeat likes salsa dancing etc. When I saw her I new I wanted to take her from the beginning.

Date: Went to coffee. I deep dived and kept the conversation fun and exciting. Escalated into light touching etc built up the sexual tension.
I tried to stay cool and calm tried to move fast with her and take her that night but it didn't happen.
Next Day: Sent this text:
Me: Good morning XXX. I enjoyed meeting you yesterday.
Her: Good morning XXX )) I enjoyed it also))

I didn't want to ask her out then because I felt the date was an okay one. According to Chase I waited 2-3 days since it was an okay date.

2nd day: Sent this text:
Me: Hey XXX, hope your week's going great. Enjoyed hanging out with you Sunday, you're very pleasant to talk to. Let's grab dinner sometime this week what's your schedule look like?
Her: Hi XXX ) Very busy week and I'm going to Russia this Friday for Holidays))
Her: Let's meet after I'm back. I really enjoyed your company too ))
Me: Hi XXX Cool. Sounds good. I am not sure if this is the correct response or not? - I don't want to sound needy or come off desperate but she is rejecting me.
How would you handle it?

Girl #2: Another sexy Asian/has her choice of any man she really wanted: 8/10 I took her out twice and missed my opportunity which I am pissed about but oh well.
However, currently we have still been contacting each other and she drunk called me last night so I sent this text:

Me: Where did you go last night?
Her: XXX Just drank beer. How many hours did you sleep?
Me: 10 I have been busy with work. What's your schedule like today?
Her: Yeah, finish 6, and start from 8-9:30.
Me: There is a cool new French restaurant I want to try. Why don't we grab dinner tonight at 10:00? We can meet at XXX exit 2 and go from there. Cool?
Her: How about we meet on Thursday. I don't work till 8 pm. I have a holiday.
Me: Awesome. See you Thursday - Is this the correct response or should I tried to have got her out sooner?
Her: K

Girl #3: Another cute Asian...at this point I think you see I have a bad case of yellow fever 7/10 took her out twice on the second date I bedded her and gave her great sex.
Tried to get her out that week but was rejected so went radio silent for the next week then sent this text:

Me: Good morning XXX- How was your weekend? I went to a cool Christmas Party.
Her: Good! Did you have a good time?
Me: It was a great time! I'd like to tell you about it I'd like to cook dinner for you. What's your schedule like this week?
Her: Oh that is good for you, I want to go with you. Maybe I am busy this week. I'm sorry.
Me: It would be nice to enjoy together Well when your not busy maybe we can meet again. Have a good day. - I wasn't sure if I should have sent this or not she is rejecting me but I don't want to come off as needy or desperate. How would you guys handle it?


What do you guys recommend is there a better way to handle it instead of just responding with- Cool.
Once again thanks for taking the time to respond-

Surfer

 

[Grand Pooba]

Hey man,

I see you're posting the same thread(s) in multiple parts of the boards. Don't do this - pick the category that's most appropriate and post each topic just once. People get annoyed when you ask the same thing multiple times without learning - it's needy behavior, which is highly unattractive. What's better to learn is to ask the question(s) in a way that prompts people to respond to them.

Now, for this thread:

Quick note that I've learned as far as texting goes - you definitely have to adapt to style and context that suits your personality - create a "flavor" of texting that's uniquely you but also works to get what you want - which is to get the girl excited to meet you and also moving forward. I've also found out that for my style, shorter texts are way more powerful than longer winded texts - maybe something you should try experimenting with.

Date: Went to coffee. I deep dived and kept the conversation fun and exciting. Escalated into light touching etc built up the sexual tension.
I tried to stay cool and calm tried to move fast with her and take her that night but it didn't happen.
Next Day: Sent this text:
Me: Good morning XXX. I enjoyed meeting you yesterday.
Her: Good morning XXX )) I enjoyed it also))

I didn't want to ask her out then because I felt the date was an okay one. According to Chase I waited 2-3 days since it was an okay date.

You could try to ask her out again - something really casual like "free at all tonight?" if you want to probe for a second date then and there. However, it's more advanced IMO and what you did here is fine.

2nd day: Sent this text:
Me: Hey XXX, hope your week's going great. Enjoyed hanging out with you Sunday, you're very pleasant to talk to. Let's grab dinner sometime this week what's your schedule look like?
Her: Hi XXX ) Very busy week and I'm going to Russia this Friday for Holidays))
Her: Let's meet after I'm back. I really enjoyed your company too ))
Me: Hi XXX Cool. Sounds good. I am not sure if this is the correct response or not? - I don't want to sound needy or come off desperate but she is rejecting me.
How would you handle it?

She is not rejecting you. She said she wants to meet you after she's back from the holidays because she's busy that week, and she likes you. Those are all good things! Quit being so needy and desperate to meet her ASAP.

Here's an area I think you can experiment with a shorter text:
"Hey XXX, hope you're doing great. Enjoyed hanging out Sunday. Let's grab dinner this week, how's your schedule?".

Even shorter:
"Hey! Sunday was fun Free at all for dinner this week?"

Even shorter:
"Enjoyed hanging out Sunday. Grab dinner this week?"

Different Strategy:
"Sunday was awesome How's your week shaping up?" - This strategy (or similar ones) probes her schedule without inviting her yet - you're not getting rejected. If she says she's busy and going to Russia on Friday, then you say "That sounds awesome! Want to hear about it Let's grab dinner when you're back."

Even shorter:
"Free at all for dinner this week?" - this a colder style, better if your vibe is more sexy douchebag, or if she's a very busy girl.

Mine would have been: "Sunday was fun Grab dinner this week?" or "Had a great time Sunday how's your week shaping up?"

As for your response, you should say something like "Sounds good, have a great time in Russia!" which acknowledges all the parts of her texts. "Cool, sounds good" also works but it's less warm because you're only acknowledging half of her text.

Me: Where did you go last night?
Her: XXX Just drank beer. How many hours did you sleep?
Me: 10 I have been busy with work. What's your schedule like today?
Her: Yeah, finish 6, and start from 8-9:30.
Me: There is a cool new French restaurant I want to try. Why don't we grab dinner tonight at 10:00? We can meet at XXX exit 2 and go from there. Cool?
Her: How about we meet on Thursday. I don't work till 8 pm. I have a holiday.
Me: Awesome. See you Thursday - Is this the correct response or should I tried to have got her out sooner?
Her: K

Her going to work at 8pm on Thursday sounds like bad logistics - when were you planning to go to this restaurant?
Your response was fine, you could also do "Thursday works, how's 2pm?" or something else that clearly leads. The only thing you didn't do is set a time, but there's also an element here where she's leading and you're following because you really want to meet her and you have nothing else going on. Do you see that?

Me: Good morning XXX- How was your weekend? I went to a cool Christmas Party.
Her: Good! Did you have a good time?
Me: It was a great time! I'd like to tell you about it I'd like to cook dinner for you. What's your schedule like this week?
Her: Oh that is good for you, I want to go with you. Maybe I am busy this week. I'm sorry.
Me: It would be nice to enjoy together Well when your not busy maybe we can meet again. Have a good day. - I wasn't sure if I should have sent this or not she is rejecting me but I don't want to come off as needy or desperate. How would you guys handle it?

This whole text exchange seems pretty needy and weak to me - she doesn't seem that into you. What I would do:

Me: Morning How was your weekend?
Her: Good! How was yours?
ME: Good, went to a Xmas party, how about you?
HER: Sounds fun, did you have a good time? I did XXX
Me: It was delicious, so much good food . I'd like to show you, free for home cooked dinner this week?
Her: Oh that is good for you, I want to go with you. Maybe I am busy this week. I'm sorry.
Me: No worries, next time

Then radio silence for a week.

Another way:

Me: Morning How was your weekend? I wound up at a great xmas party <- you're leading her into a story
Her: Good! Did you have a good time?
Me: It was delicious, so much good food . I'd like to show you, free for home cooked dinner this week? <- Finishing the story, creating value and intrigue by wanting to show her the food, then offering a home cooked dinner which you were going to do anyway.
Her: Oh that is good for you, I want to go with you. Maybe I am busy this week. I'm sorry.
Me: No worries <- Leave her hanging in a non-needy way, while also saying you're not worried that she's busy.

Then radio silence for a week.

 

[surfer11]

Grand Pooba-

Thank You for taking the time to reply to my thread.

I appreciate your guidance and insight.

This definitely is a learning process and I have to experiment to see what works for me and create my own style.

I can see where I am weak and need to improve- especially in the area of neediness- and be more leading in regards to woman.

The key now is to meet more woman and experiment with it but having a -guide and tools to work with definitely helps- instead of being in the black hole of confusion.

I will adopt a texting style that works for me and my personality.

Thanks again!

Surfer