Casual relationship, losing interest?

[Zoro]

Last time I texted her I told her to let me know when she is free next since she said she was busy. Now I realized I put unwanted pressure on her to make things happen.

Also we've had sex a few times seems but now she seems to be a little less interested in meeting up than she has been.
I might blame our kind of closed off attitude towards sex. We never talk about it. I just bring her to my room and we get started.
I think there is an awkwardness that I have attempted to break but kind of froze up.

I say our attitude towards sex, but really the responsibility lies with me. She probably feels awkward being so closed up about it, I don't blame her for losing interest in having more sex.

I also think I'm giving her just okay sex and if I were to open up and get us talking about what we like, we would both enjoy it a lot more.

Thinking this was a sinking ship, I was going to move on and rely on preselection to jumpstart things later, basically writing us off as a lost cause. Though now digging deeper and understanding what is going on I think we may be salvageable.

Thoughts?

 

[thejourneyman]

sounds like me..

although the preselection thing should work, it assumes that she will be in a position with you where she can see you gain value from others.
In the real world, that might be hard to arrange. Ask her to an event where you will get hit on? She might not turn up, or start saying "shes busy" and have no compliance. Once she starts saying "no" twice.. she gets into a habit of saying no. tough to turn around. might have to get lucky where you guys end up in the same place at the same time.

 

[john]

Last time I texted her I told her to let me know when she is free next since she said she was busy. Now I realized I put unwanted pressure on her to make things happen.

Is it really a bad thing? I usually do the same after a few failed attempts to meet a girl...

 

[Zoro]

John,

unless she is really into me, I doubt she'll make the move.

And if she does then she probably might initiate contact anyway, regardless if I asked her to do so.