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Hey guys,
So I just read Chase's article for today, https://www.girlschase.com/content/you’re-not-special-and-neither-she , and I realized that what the article talks about, identifying that we are nothing special, yet despite this reality, people want, chase, and cling to the idea of being entitled to feeling as such is something I've known for quite some time. Since coming to college, I rapidly grew as a person and learned many life lessons that many individuals my age are oblivious to. I credit much of my understanding to falling into depression over *drumroll....* a girl (I look back on the experience as one I am thankful for because of who I am now). Anyways, when I finally escaped the dark abyss of negativity I began to see and celebrate all that life is and has to offer me. I saw not only the whole, but EACH INDIVIDUAL PART of the system and CELEBRATED each parts uniqueness, each contribution to the universe!
A mantra of geneticists is "You get what you screen for." If you want to see the beauty and magnificence in people, it will help to focus on seeing such things not only in people alone but in all things. Such practice is similar to experts in seduction seeing opportunities while beginners usually identify all potential failures. Perceiving life in such a way allowed me to connect to other human beings much more easily. There was this understanding of what people needed and why they needed because I understood such things to be desired in my own self (to a degree relative to myself).
I am starting to see now that I've been on the right track along, I just needed to stop fulfilling the friend values, in regards to women, and exert lover values. I totally agree with Chase when he mentioned the bitterness and sense of entitlement that develops in human beings when things don't go their way. Understanding that we are entitled to nothing because we are but blades of grass, chaff, grains of sand in the outgoing story known as Life, releases us from the confines of society's expectations. Learning to see and think outside the box and question all that we've been given will allow us to become these "special" and "rare" human beings and catapult our value beyond the areas of seduction alone.
Celebrate others. Celebrate their uniqueness with a genuine appetite to learn and love who they are because people have this innate tendency to chase things, such as happiness, when in the end it doesn't really matter what you feel; we are just replicative machinery trying to give ourselves meaning because we cannot accept the truth. The meaning part is the most important part of that last sentence. People don't know why they are here. It is our job to define it for them WITHOUT abusing this knowledge. We as men are to lead other human beings by serving as the models and teachers for who they are to become, lovers of their fellow man. I've found that love is the most important quality needed to live a happy life. If you love then you will love people and things and life and the universe, which in turn will love you back. Sounds crazy, but that's how the universe works. You gotta give to get, and you will surely be given more in return. "To those who use well what they are given, even more will be given, and they will have an abundance. But from those who do nothing, even what little they have will be taken away." Matthew 25:29 NLT.
I went on a tangent(s) but I always want to help people grow and understand life's deeper undertones that we miss amongst the hustle and bustle of our daily business. Like missing the forest for the trees, we focus on the little, insignificant things which leads to us missing the big picture, and the big picture is a big one indeed (the universe).
As usual, I'd love to hear people's thoughts, feedback, own perceptions. I know it is foolish to make such generalized claims but my hunches are usually correct when they are filled with good intentions
- The Wise Fool
So I just read Chase's article for today, https://www.girlschase.com/content/you’re-not-special-and-neither-she , and I realized that what the article talks about, identifying that we are nothing special, yet despite this reality, people want, chase, and cling to the idea of being entitled to feeling as such is something I've known for quite some time. Since coming to college, I rapidly grew as a person and learned many life lessons that many individuals my age are oblivious to. I credit much of my understanding to falling into depression over *drumroll....* a girl (I look back on the experience as one I am thankful for because of who I am now). Anyways, when I finally escaped the dark abyss of negativity I began to see and celebrate all that life is and has to offer me. I saw not only the whole, but EACH INDIVIDUAL PART of the system and CELEBRATED each parts uniqueness, each contribution to the universe!
A mantra of geneticists is "You get what you screen for." If you want to see the beauty and magnificence in people, it will help to focus on seeing such things not only in people alone but in all things. Such practice is similar to experts in seduction seeing opportunities while beginners usually identify all potential failures. Perceiving life in such a way allowed me to connect to other human beings much more easily. There was this understanding of what people needed and why they needed because I understood such things to be desired in my own self (to a degree relative to myself).
I am starting to see now that I've been on the right track along, I just needed to stop fulfilling the friend values, in regards to women, and exert lover values. I totally agree with Chase when he mentioned the bitterness and sense of entitlement that develops in human beings when things don't go their way. Understanding that we are entitled to nothing because we are but blades of grass, chaff, grains of sand in the outgoing story known as Life, releases us from the confines of society's expectations. Learning to see and think outside the box and question all that we've been given will allow us to become these "special" and "rare" human beings and catapult our value beyond the areas of seduction alone.
Celebrate others. Celebrate their uniqueness with a genuine appetite to learn and love who they are because people have this innate tendency to chase things, such as happiness, when in the end it doesn't really matter what you feel; we are just replicative machinery trying to give ourselves meaning because we cannot accept the truth. The meaning part is the most important part of that last sentence. People don't know why they are here. It is our job to define it for them WITHOUT abusing this knowledge. We as men are to lead other human beings by serving as the models and teachers for who they are to become, lovers of their fellow man. I've found that love is the most important quality needed to live a happy life. If you love then you will love people and things and life and the universe, which in turn will love you back. Sounds crazy, but that's how the universe works. You gotta give to get, and you will surely be given more in return. "To those who use well what they are given, even more will be given, and they will have an abundance. But from those who do nothing, even what little they have will be taken away." Matthew 25:29 NLT.
I went on a tangent(s) but I always want to help people grow and understand life's deeper undertones that we miss amongst the hustle and bustle of our daily business. Like missing the forest for the trees, we focus on the little, insignificant things which leads to us missing the big picture, and the big picture is a big one indeed (the universe).
As usual, I'd love to hear people's thoughts, feedback, own perceptions. I know it is foolish to make such generalized claims but my hunches are usually correct when they are filled with good intentions
- The Wise Fool
