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Kent

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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I’ve spent the last year completely focused on my career as an investigative journalist. The hard work has paid off with positive impact on peoples’ lives, a body of work that has been cited in major academic publications, federal lawsuits against corrupt entities, and public validation from respected veterans in my field.

But while I’ve made this dream come true it has come at the cost of my dating life. I’ve been very busy and haven’t dated a woman I’m genuinely interested in for years. I seem to get less interest from the women I’m genuinely attracted to than I used to when I approach. Women generally think my job is cool and respect that I work hard and am trying to help others, but I don’t think it has any positive impact on attraction or dating.

I’m losing motivation to continue down this path due to loneliness and the desire for a cool, attractive girlfriend I love who loves me back. I know a lot of guys on here are high achievers in multiple domains in life, and wanted to ask if anyone has been in a similar position or has advice. I’m thinking about applying to some easier jobs so I can put my energy towards meeting a girl I like. Thank you for reading and considering this
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

TwoNameGame

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I’ve spent the last year completely focused on my career as an investigative journalist.
Major props, man!

But while I’ve made this dream come true it has come at the cost of my dating life.
It seems you are asking to trade a dream for a wish. I think I need more detail.

Women generally think my job is cool and respect that I work hard and am trying to help others, but I don’t think it has any positive impact on attraction or dating.
Prosocial, authoritative, adventurous, rebellious, and interesting enough to publish. What do you mean it doesn't help with attraction? It certainly seems high value.

I’m thinking about applying to some easier jobs so I can put my energy towards meeting a girl I like.
How much free time do you have? How much time do you typically devote to pickup? What kind of girls do you want to go for? Do you go for instadates or number farm? Is the issue scheduling a date?
 

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Modern Human
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I’m an opposite in that regard, I’m now adays retired.

I’m not sure you are looking at this problem the right way though. Could reframe it instead. From the way I’m reading it is that work keeps you very busy, so where is a low effort, relaxing environment where I can meet quality chicks. Without having to have social proof.

For me this is hanging around the private clubs. *[The ones I’m thinking of are like private community centers]

I go there sit around in the co-ed sauna. Shoot the shit about work, go drink a beer then depending on who’s around talk and pull back to my place. And the great thing about these types of places is since the $ is lined up the pre-selection portion is covered.

Bonus is that you get two birds one stone and can get a little exercise in, *[Swim, massage etc]

Cheers
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Derek da man

Cro-Magnon Man
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Women generally think my job is cool and respect that I work hard and am trying to help others, but I don’t think it has any positive impact on attraction or dating
The fact that you have a job is a bonus compared to a lot, that fact that it pays ok, you enjoy it, are good at it are all bonuses too.

From your writing you sound interesting and very capable of good social interaction. Therefore, it's something else. Most liekly either:
-your fundamentals (dress sense, fashion, grooming, etc), or
-your not in the right place(s) to meet potential women looking for dates.

Ask a female friend or even a co-worker for an honest appraisal of your dress sense or your date-ability. That should help address the fundamentals.

Finding places to meet women isn't so hard, they are all over the place. The only place they are not is where you live, and often very limited in workplaces. Finding time to go out and do social activities may be more of an issue that you need to look at if your working long or unsociable hours. Ultimately this comes down to work-life balance.
 
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