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Hey guys,
so I'm around here since a while but mostly reading, not so much writing. I think I don't suck with girls, my lay count is sth around fifty but recently I've hit a 3 months long dry spell and I'm troubleshooting what's groing wrong at the moment. My problem is that I think I've spent too much time in nightlife / party social circles which has kind of made me jaded. I used to - and still am with close friends - a very warm person but I think for years that I've gotten cut down by other guys while not even realizing it. I since then changed my vibe and I am pretty good now at fending off / ignoring tooling attempts but it came at the sacrifice of my warmth. I have a hard time being friendly to other guys, because I feel like 90% of them want to get to know me because they see me with girls.
The problem is this has kind of set my default interacting mode to adversarial and it recently started to be like this also when I'm talking to girls, like I'm always ready to defend against an attack, which obviously is counterproductive for seduction. My goal is to be friendly, inclusive and seductive while also being able to fend off tooling attempts but also without the need to be vigilant all the time.
Any ideas how to change that?
so I'm around here since a while but mostly reading, not so much writing. I think I don't suck with girls, my lay count is sth around fifty but recently I've hit a 3 months long dry spell and I'm troubleshooting what's groing wrong at the moment. My problem is that I think I've spent too much time in nightlife / party social circles which has kind of made me jaded. I used to - and still am with close friends - a very warm person but I think for years that I've gotten cut down by other guys while not even realizing it. I since then changed my vibe and I am pretty good now at fending off / ignoring tooling attempts but it came at the sacrifice of my warmth. I have a hard time being friendly to other guys, because I feel like 90% of them want to get to know me because they see me with girls.
The problem is this has kind of set my default interacting mode to adversarial and it recently started to be like this also when I'm talking to girls, like I'm always ready to defend against an attack, which obviously is counterproductive for seduction. My goal is to be friendly, inclusive and seductive while also being able to fend off tooling attempts but also without the need to be vigilant all the time.
Any ideas how to change that?
