Chase, Franco, and Girlschase crew: How do I make my dream lifestyle a reality?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

As someone who is going to be in his mid 20s soon, I have this goal going that I would like to accomplish before I become too old for it.

Some of you who became familiar with me know my tough upbringing. I missed out on the college experience due to going to a no good southern university where if you weren't in a fraternity, it was hard as hell to party and get involved in that sort of a lifestyle of drinking, partying, sleeping around, and all of the drama.

I want to spend my 20s and if it takes the most of my life, then the most of my life, getting involved in that lifestyle that has me with a lot of friends, drinking, partying, sleeping around with random women, and has the drama with it as well. The getting shit faced drunk and partying thing is very important to me, how do I make this a reality for myself?

 

[Franco]

Re: Chase, Franco, and Girlschase crew: How do I make my dream lifestyle a reali

Altair,

I feel like I've definitely answered this one before, but here it is again in case it was missed:

• Move to a big city
• Train yourself in a useful skill like bartending
• Get a job at a bar/club; make friends and learn from the guys you want to emulate the most

The other option is to move to a college town that is within walking distance of a big area full of bars. If you can, find a roommate who's really into the bar scene, seems to have lots of friends, and likes to party a lot. If you get along well with him, you'll be able to accompany him to all the parties going on around town since you live with him.

Those are probably the best ways to emulate that lifestyle. You'll still need decent game though if you plan on sleeping with attractive women; there's no forgoing that aspect!

- Franco

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Re: Chase, Franco, and Girlschase crew: How do I make my dream lifestyle a reali

Ya Franco I think you actually have, I tried searching for the thread but I couldn't find it despite putting in keywords into google.

As for the bartending thing, dude I have always wanted to do that but I was hoping to do it as a side gig rather than a full time job. I am thinking of doing something along the lines of a 9 to 5 that's basic, nothing intense like medicine or investment banking, and leaves me the weekend free. On the weekends, I could get a bartending gig or something at a bar like barback. I did a ton of research on it, the night shifts are very competitive and go to the experienced bartenders so I will likely have to start somewhere from the bottom.

I have kept it on my bucket list for quite some time as I've always wanted to do it, looking to move to a big city to get some sort of a gig.

Thanks for spending the time to write out the advice man, you and Chase really take time in your responses and it has undoubtedly helped me somewhat better my life. I am still a virgin though but I am confident as soon as I move to a bigger city, it is going to change for me and I will have a lot more luck. Hope all is going well for you Franco, you've undoubtedly changed a lot of lives on here.

 

[Richard]

Re: Chase, Franco, and Girlschase crew: How do I make my dream lifestyle a reali

Aside from what Franco said,

You make it a reality by focusing on it, and by raising your standards. I can't remember who said it but there's quote out there that goes "Wants don't get met consistently, but standards do" and what that means is that what you "want" is usually passive-aggressive, it would be nice to have but you won't work hard for it, on the other hand you will work your ass off to meet your standards. If you have a standard of paying your bills on time but your short on cash at the end of the month you will do everything you can to find a way to pay that bill.

So, it's not enough to "want" a particular lifestyle. You need to raise your standards and then stick to them. There's no point moving to a big city with lots of people if you tolerate meeting low-life people, or if you tolerate being alone (you may not like being alone) then that's your standard of living. Raise your standards, decide what you will no longer tolerate and then stick to it and make progress towards that dream as much as you can.

The very last thing is don't even make yourself a victim; you're fully in control of your life so you're responsible for what happens or doesn't happen. If you never achieve this "dream" of yours it will be your responsibility.

Grab life by the fucking balls and just go for it regardless of what obstacles come your way. It takes tremendous courage.

-Richard