Chasing a Girl with a BF

[FoleyBandit]

Hello to all! This is my first post, let's see how it goes.

Met this girl at a club about a month ago, a 10 by anybody's standards. We started talking that evening, everything was going well. Somewhere during the night, she lets me know that she has a BF. However, before this admission, she sure as hell didn't act it. Anyways, night ends, we make out, get the number, I am a peace. Next day or two, I text her, no answer. Wait a day, she answers, one liners, short responses, etc. I forgot to mention that she was at this club with her friend (guy), no threat. He himself, at the end of the night, made an admission of: "bro, I dunno how you pulled that one off." <-- (getting her number, grinding, make out, etc.). The night ended with everybody agreeing that we would meet up next weekend and go out again. So, naturally, I try to make plans with the girl (no answer). Meanwhile, the dude is reaching out saying that they (him, her and a few other friends) want to come out. Next weekend rolls around, they all come out to another club along with some of my friends. I go right for the girl, with her all night, close to each other, going well. While at this club, I ask her, "Hey do you want to get out of here just me and you and go somewhere else?" Surprisingly, she agrees to leave this club to go to another one, ditched her friends. We leave, get in the cab, all over each other while en route to Club 2. Night ends, take her home, nothing happens past that. She hits me the next morning saying thanks for last night, was fun blah blah. We go back and forth and then convo drops off. Pretty much same thing happens again 2 days later on a Monday night (Halloween.) I tell her that I want to take her out of the club scene and actually get to know her blah blah. She agrees that she wants to as well. Hit her the next day or two, nothing. Her friends reaches out says she lost her phone on the way home- fine. Don't hear from her for a week, than randomly one night she t bombs me at 1230 at night saying she's got a phone now, don't hate me. Anyways, long story short since then I've attempted to get her to come out only to have either no response or that she can't.

What do I do next?

 

[Smurf]

Yo dude!

Good shit getting her out again with a group, still a good play. The boyfriend thing doesn't seem likely at this point, sounds like a test.

I'd ask are you still approaching other girls in the meantime? Gotta make sure you're doing that so she doesn't feel the neediness coming off you.

To be honest in this situation I would befriend that entire group. Slaying her would be nice, yeah, but it would also be nice to bang her other hot friends, too. If that friend group likes you and she keeps giving you the run around, I would keep going out with them, using them for social proof, and drag other girls into the group with her. Worst comes to worst she gets jealous and you guys go home together at the end of the night. Best case scenario you find an even hotter girl that sees you're a cool guy with other hot girls around and you bang her. I say best because I value an abundant mentality over fucking the one hot one that you have to have.

That's my 2 cents, I'd love to hear other guys input.

Welcome to the boards!

Jake.

 

[FoleyBandit]

Yo dude!

Good shit getting her out again with a group, still a good play. The boyfriend thing doesn't seem likely at this point, sounds like a test.

I'd ask are you still approaching other girls in the meantime? Gotta make sure you're doing that so she doesn't feel the neediness coming off you.

To be honest in this situation I would befriend that entire group. Slaying her would be nice, yeah, but it would also be nice to bang her other hot friends, too. If that friend group likes you and she keeps giving you the run around, I would keep going out with them, using them for social proof, and drag other girls into the group with her. Worst comes to worst she gets jealous and you guys go home together at the end of the night. Best case scenario you find an even hotter girl that sees you're a cool guy with other hot girls around and you bang her. I say best because I value an abundant mentality over fucking the one hot one that you have to have.

That's my 2 cents, I'd love to hear other guys input.

Welcome to the boards!

Jake.

The boyfriend thing is real, it's on Instagram, so there's that. I went out with the group of friends 2 weeks ago and didn't invite her out (lol), she hit me the next morning asking how the night was blah blah.

Problem that I am having hear is that "the day after" communication never pans out, when drinks are flowing and we are out, she wants to go out again, dinner, coffee, etc. But when I follow up on it, she literally disappears and will not get back to me. It's the most fucked up thing which is why I came here to get some input.

And yes, always approaching other girls whenever out, we aren't completely hung up on this one, but the intrigue is real.

 

[Smurf]

Oh shit haha

In that case, my take would be that when she's full of energy in the club, she likes it and of course wants to keep it up. When she wakes up however, she's probably more down to earth emotionally and is thinking about her boyfriend. If you really want to I'd suggest trying to take her home at night if she never responds for a date.

 

[FoleyBandit]

Oh shit haha

In that case, my take would be that when she's full of energy in the club, she likes it and of course wants to keep it up. When she wakes up however, she's probably more down to earth emotionally and is thinking about her boyfriend. If you really want to I'd suggest trying to take her home at night if she never responds for a date.

Yeah I know that the drinks and such plays a part in this whole thing. But it wasn't just a one night thing, it happened on 3 separate occasions. She made the decision, at least twice, to come out and party, right? My only worry is, of course, not coming off as needy. I haven't reached out to her in over a week now, so maybe it's time? What do I say? How was your weekend? Lol. I'm usually not like this, but she has stifled me a bit in not being able to get a good read on her. Thanks for the replies.

 

[WayOfHand]

Why wouldn't she want sexy and fun company when out. Jumping into your bed from her boyfriends could be a thing from another dimension. Kisses and flirting might not be a big deal to her.

Trust Jake on this one and hit her while out at club and otherwise just pursue other girls. Mayby in the not so distant future she breaks up with bf. Who knows. Or just have great time with her.