I have a situation with a girlfriend caliber (age 28 for reference). Over the past couple of years if I get a girl alone at my place or hers I'm going to take action and it is usually going to end in a lay. Took action on this one just like any other but she hit me with resistance and "good girl" talk when I pushed past kissing like normal. This was real resistance too, I can normally get through the typical stuff...
I have still been able to push things a little farther each time I see her. For instance, got back to her place after first date and she was really into the kissing but then kept my hands from wandering when I tried....2nd time we ended up at my place and she let my hands feel her up but then stopped me from taking her top off....3rd time I got the top and bra off but she then stopped me in my tracks after that...said something like "it will happen soon if we keep seeing each other..." That is where we stand right now.
This girl has long term potential, extremely attractive so I'm sure there are other suitors, but I've tried to keep cool and make sure not to chase...regardless, I have had to be the one to initiate contact every time (is this right? I've spaced out probably about 3-5 days in between)....she's extremely receptive and upbeat with any texts/calls/effort I make...has never flaked on me or not responded. Seems really happy to hear from me and eager to meet up...but still, she has yet to initiate contact first at all, so I feel like I'm chasing even if I only contact her once a week or so. I have other girls texting me every couple of days wanting to hang out, but not this girl. If I get her alone again I think I'm probably able to push things all the way, BUT obviously a big difference in where I stand right now and actually reaching that milestone as we all know.....
How do I play these next steps to get to that point? Continue to reach out and initiate contact again to set up the next meet? Or do I need to wait her out now and put it on her to initiate contact? This way I'm not perceived as chasing and then that will set things in my favor so I can break through the resistance?? Thanks for any opinions! I always tend to overthink on the whole "not chasing vs taking action and leading women"
I have still been able to push things a little farther each time I see her. For instance, got back to her place after first date and she was really into the kissing but then kept my hands from wandering when I tried....2nd time we ended up at my place and she let my hands feel her up but then stopped me from taking her top off....3rd time I got the top and bra off but she then stopped me in my tracks after that...said something like "it will happen soon if we keep seeing each other..." That is where we stand right now.
This girl has long term potential, extremely attractive so I'm sure there are other suitors, but I've tried to keep cool and make sure not to chase...regardless, I have had to be the one to initiate contact every time (is this right? I've spaced out probably about 3-5 days in between)....she's extremely receptive and upbeat with any texts/calls/effort I make...has never flaked on me or not responded. Seems really happy to hear from me and eager to meet up...but still, she has yet to initiate contact first at all, so I feel like I'm chasing even if I only contact her once a week or so. I have other girls texting me every couple of days wanting to hang out, but not this girl. If I get her alone again I think I'm probably able to push things all the way, BUT obviously a big difference in where I stand right now and actually reaching that milestone as we all know.....
How do I play these next steps to get to that point? Continue to reach out and initiate contact again to set up the next meet? Or do I need to wait her out now and put it on her to initiate contact? This way I'm not perceived as chasing and then that will set things in my favor so I can break through the resistance?? Thanks for any opinions! I always tend to overthink on the whole "not chasing vs taking action and leading women"
