Cheating partner and second chances

[pks391]

Hey guys,
Is it normal for a girl and a guy to give second chances to their cheating partner in a marriage to try to make the marriage hold?
Is that healthy? Is some amount of cheating from your S/O normal in a marriage? Should it be forgivable only the one time? Will it lead to more problems?
I'm talking only second chances and not more than that.

 

[trashKENNUT]

pks391,

Is it normal for a girl and a guy to give second chances to their cheating partner in a marriage to try to make the marriage hold?

Depends on who is the demographics. Depends on the purpose too, whether to stay for children or any other purpose, like Megan Fox right now, she's pregnant. She needs the guy around.

Depends on how long they stay together. Most people avoid the reconciliation period because it is well known that it doesn't always last. So goes to the prior or cheating on each other.

Zac

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

This is one of my super hard rules now: she cheats, I'm gone. End of story.

If you stay, the fear will always be there and she'll know she can get away with it. My last ex kissed a guy at a party and admitted it to me the next day, and I forgave her (but not after telling her I needed a day to think about it and then ignored all her texts/calls). It's much less an offense than if she sucked his dick or fucked him, but I probably should have broken up with her all the same (and there's always the possibility she did do more; I love women, but they're chronic liars. Just something you have to accept about them and love them anyways; their morality just works differently than ours, in general).

Hector

 

[trashKENNUT]

Everyone,

I love women, but they're chronic liars. Just something you have to accept about them and love them anyways; their morality just works differently than ours, in general).

Here's a quote that struck me recently.

"You either live a cruel life or die a cruel death"

p.s: it's exaggerated but yea...

Zac

 

[pks391]

pks391,

Is it normal for a girl and a guy to give second chances to their cheating partner in a marriage to try to make the marriage hold?

Depends on who is the demographics. Depends on the purpose too, whether to stay for children or any other purpose, like Megan Fox right now, she's pregnant. She needs the guy around.

Depends on how long they stay together. Most people avoid the reconciliation period because it is well known that it doesn't always last. So goes to the prior or cheating on each other.

Zac

Zac,
What if the purpose of the marriage is simply social reasons or what will everyone else think kinda scenario....the kind that exists in a conservative society.....
Do you think it would be right? And like i asked, is some amount of cheating in a marriage normal at any given point of time?

 

[pks391]

This is one of my super hard rules now: she cheats, I'm gone. End of story.

If you stay, the fear will always be there and she'll know she can get away with it. My last ex kissed a guy at a party and admitted it to me the next day, and I forgave her (but not after telling her I needed a day to think about it and then ignored all her texts/calls). It's much less an offense than if she sucked his dick or fucked him, but I probably should have broken up with her all the same (and there's always the possibility she did do more; I love women, but they're chronic liars. Just something you have to accept about them and love them anyways; their morality just works differently than ours, in general).

Hector

True, a lot of valuable and insightful points you quoted there Hector, thanks .

 

[trashKENNUT]

pks391,

What if the purpose of the marriage is simply social reasons or what will everyone else think kinda scenario....the kind that exists in a conservative society.....
Do you think it would be right? And like i asked, is some amount of cheating in a marriage normal at any given point of time?

The purpose of marriage is and will always be fundamentally social reasons, for social stability. You can look at it differently but it still serve the government. Not that the government are bad people. I will not want to dive deep because i prefer to not destroy people's childhood in a sense, but when i am annoyed when i see something online, i will post facts on Facebook. The facts are normal to me but can wreck people's brains because society is not used to question their own beliefs.

If you mean "it would be right" as in "right"? It is not, even in the essence of pure being, because aren't already people put in systems and later be blame for it, like what is happening today? Cunning society can be.

is some amount of cheating in a marriage normal at any given point of time?

If you listen to mainstream society, you think that cheating is everywhere. If cheating is define by sex, it doesn't happen too often, maybe once every two to four years but even if she do it, you will not know.

To most people, their "cheating" is actually heavy flirting, kissing on the cheek, meeting out for dinner in private, meeting and hanging out but actually went back late. That's society's definition of "cheating", for most of them.

I like to think society is better if we all are free but finding out how the world works and there's more to learn, without being bias. i will always say or often say this. "Society can't handle it".

Zac

 

[pks391]

pks391,

What if the purpose of the marriage is simply social reasons or what will everyone else think kinda scenario....the kind that exists in a conservative society.....
Do you think it would be right? And like i asked, is some amount of cheating in a marriage normal at any given point of time?

The purpose of marriage is and will always be fundamentally social reasons, for social stability. You can look at it differently but it still serve the government. Not that the government are bad people. I will not want to dive deep because i prefer to not destroy people's childhood in a sense, but when i am annoyed when i see something online, i will post facts on Facebook. The facts are normal to me but can wreck people's brains because society is not used to question their own beliefs.

If you mean "it would be right" as in "right"? It is not, even in the essence of pure being, because aren't already people put in systems and later be blame for it, like what is happening today? Cunning society can be.

is some amount of cheating in a marriage normal at any given point of time?

If you listen to mainstream society, you think that cheating is everywhere. If cheating is define by sex, it doesn't happen too often, maybe once every two to four years but even if she do it, you will not know.

To most people, their "cheating" is actually heavy flirting, kissing on the cheek, meeting out for dinner in private, meeting and hanging out but actually went back late. That's society's definition of "cheating", for most of them.

I like to think society is better if we all are free but finding out how the world works and there's more to learn, without being bias. i will always say or often say this. "Society can't handle it".

Zac

Thanks Zac, That cleared up most of what i had to ask.....