I moved out of a house we got together like a year and a half ago because it was too much drama and the relationship had gotten bad. The only thing that was good was sex between us. She damaged some of my expensive things over a disagreement and showed numerous ways that I found highly unattractive. I’m not being bias, her family feels the same about her. She has some anger issues and just has shown me a lot of low character and doesn’t parent up to my expectations . I’m not playing the victim, I take responsibility for forming a relationship and having a kids before thoroughly getting to know her.
We continued having sex and somewhat of a relationship after I moved out until recently. It bothers me to think of her with someone else but she doesn’t meet my standards either as far as who she is. I know she loves me but I’ve brushed her off after a few of her bitchy outbursts recently. She wants marriage and has tried using stoppage of sex to get it out of me. I won’t let it work but now I think she has someone else 3 weeks after expressing love for me. It’s her life, I know I shouldn’t be concerned about that but it does bother me. I’m a great father , I keep my girls all of my days off and yesterday after I picked them up it just weighed heavy on me that she might be with someone else. She also made a post on Instagram at 1am that same night that made me think that may be true. She doesn’t know I follow her or look at her page so it wasn’t to make me jealous. It was basically saying something about her believing men actions instead of words. Which makes me think that at 1am that was definitely meant for someone else to see.
I guess over the years I let go of myself in certain ways in order to try to make it work and now I feel like I need to regain that strength that I came in the relationship with. Even if I wanted to I dont think I could get back with her after she’s with someone else which leaves me in a tough place. I guess sometimes I might be clouded by the thought of her with someone else and having high interest in someone else and I have to remind myself of who she is. I do feel sad though knowing that she really may be moving on. I still love her but I just dont think I can move back in or marry her, things she wants from me.
Any thoughts?
We continued having sex and somewhat of a relationship after I moved out until recently. It bothers me to think of her with someone else but she doesn’t meet my standards either as far as who she is. I know she loves me but I’ve brushed her off after a few of her bitchy outbursts recently. She wants marriage and has tried using stoppage of sex to get it out of me. I won’t let it work but now I think she has someone else 3 weeks after expressing love for me. It’s her life, I know I shouldn’t be concerned about that but it does bother me. I’m a great father , I keep my girls all of my days off and yesterday after I picked them up it just weighed heavy on me that she might be with someone else. She also made a post on Instagram at 1am that same night that made me think that may be true. She doesn’t know I follow her or look at her page so it wasn’t to make me jealous. It was basically saying something about her believing men actions instead of words. Which makes me think that at 1am that was definitely meant for someone else to see.
I guess over the years I let go of myself in certain ways in order to try to make it work and now I feel like I need to regain that strength that I came in the relationship with. Even if I wanted to I dont think I could get back with her after she’s with someone else which leaves me in a tough place. I guess sometimes I might be clouded by the thought of her with someone else and having high interest in someone else and I have to remind myself of who she is. I do feel sad though knowing that she really may be moving on. I still love her but I just dont think I can move back in or marry her, things she wants from me.
Any thoughts?
