Childish's Newbie Assignment

[Childish]

Hey everyone,

So I'm Childish, a 17 year old kid who recently decided to drop out of high school and get his GED. Hell of an introduction, I know. When I decided to drop out of high school I had a bunch of different goals that I wanted to work on and this was one of them. So i figured it would be best to start off with the newbie assignment. Today is gonna be my first day, but I wanted to give a little bit of background. So with that out of the way, consider this shit started.

- Childish

 

[Howell]

Hi Childish, welcome aboard



-Howell

 

[Childish]

Thanks Howell!

Anyways quick update, today was supposed to be Day 1, but had some other things that kind of popped up so I instead just made a list of places I wanted to visit, and will go visit them tomorrow.
1. Library in nearby town
2. Indoor mall
3. Bookstore
4. Whole Foods

I am gonna try and make some rounds tomorrow at different times of the day, one when people my age would be in school, the other when they would not. Hopefully it goes well and I'll check in soon.

-Childish

 

[Childish]

Alright, day 1 is officially done. A couple of things I noted,

The library actually looks pretty promising, but it's gonna be hard because it is so quiet. It will be a good place to overcome AA I think.

The mall is kind of a mixed bag, on the one hand there are more girls than at the library, but most of them are in groups. Very rarely do I see solo girls at the mall, maybe I'll try a different time.

The bookstore was a bust, not much else to say.

Whole Foods seems to be an alright place, but I'm sure it could go either way depending on the day.

So overall not too bad of finds, and onto Day 2. Actually, I think that I might go straight to Day 3 because I already focus on posture a lot. I think eye contact might be a little difficult because whenever I focus on it, I find that I can't even hold it for long enough to say hi. I think I need to work on looking angry less (I've been told I look like that sometimes), and improving my fashion a bit. I'm curious how Day 3 will go if I work on those things before hand. I'll update soon.

-Childish

 

[Childish]

Okay, so I know it's been a few days since my last post but I haven't wasted too much time. Wednesday I went into the city to shadow someone, the timing was different so I got out a few hours later and WOW! On my walk to the train station I was going past another station (I think) and I must have seen 15 very attractive women walking around. I think I'm going to be spending a lot of time there but unfortunately I had to jet that night so I headed home.

When I was going to the other places to simply observe, I already spent a good amount of time focusing on posture and eye contact, but I noticed something very unfortunate. I know it is going to be much more productive to directly open girls who I've made eye contact with, but the issue is I either only get glances, or can't even catch their eyes. They never hold the eye contact and always look away immediately (less than a second). For Day 4 I can just say "hi" to girls who I haven't made eye contact with, but I need to get eye contact down eventually. Anyone have any suggestions or comments?

-Childish

 

[Childish]

Ugh, bad day today. I went out in shitty weather for about three hours wandering the streets and malls of my city. The goal was to say hi to five girls, I managed to get all of 0. Its funny, I can chat up girls I know and am a pretty social person but if I go out to purely approach I can't seem to do it. Left feeling like shit but mostly exhausted. I can't let this get the best of me though, I read one of Chases articles about AA and I think it might be good for me to have a set day or days for approaching. So I think that from now on I will approach on Wednesday and Saturday, with specific locations. The goal for Sat is still the same five "hellos." Hopefully it goes better then, update soon.

-Childish

 

[Childish]

Hey guys,

So I went out for about an hour and a half yesterday and the same thing happened. I don't know why it is so hard to just go and say hi to a girl. To overcome this I am going to simply try to move to Day 7 (direct openers). This is because when I have failed with the current assignment, it is because I find myself thinking it would be weird to just say hi to a girl, and that that would get awkward very quickly. I have actually done a few direct openers before but they have not gone anywhere so I am not expecting much, but its better than not even saying "hi". Hopefully this gets me to where I want to be. I'll be trying this when I go out next time, which will be Wednesday.

Wish me luck,
Childish

 

[BallIsLife]

Hey man, I know what you mean. Direct openers are tough and even saying hi can be like trying to punch through a wall. What helped for me was social momentum. I approached girls for the sole purpose of approaching. Screw the results. I started out by just asking attractive girls genuine questions like "What train line goes to this?" and then "Thanks." This actually really helps with the confidence. I used the same approach on a dime (but she had a fiance) and had a great conversation. When you're on this social momentum, saying hi just seems too little, and you start doing direct openers and closing for numbers. After you got confidence under your belt, you should be able to knock off the newbie assignments. Just know the effect of social momentum.

 

[Childish]

Holy F*** a month and a half since my last post, time flies so fast. Anyways I have been insanely busy lately and was having a really hard time with the newbie challenge so I am trying something else to get my social momentum up (thanks BallisLife!)

I actually just mention to girls as I am walking past them that I like something about them. I compliment anything that I can see, and then say no problem when they inevitably say thanks and I just walk away. That's it! My next step is to give more personal compliments as opposed to complimenting them on their outfit etc. I want to compliment them on there hair, or just say they are really pretty. Eventually I am going to stick in my name and stick around, and that's pretty much a direct opener!

For some reason starting this way is a lot easier and takes off the pressure that I was feeling during the newbie assignment. I'll try to post more often, I have just been very busy.

-Childish

 

[ray_zorse]

Don't forget to toss out a compliment and some conversation to the register chicks, serving chicks, salesgirls, receptionists etc, whenever you frequent a place of business. I did a shitload of this today and it felt good.
cheers, Ray

 

[Childish]

Yeah that's what I usually do, I'm going to try and do it more often though. Thanks for the advice.