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FR+ Christmas Party
Went to my work Christmas party and it roughly marks 3 years on since I began to improve myself with women. It an interesting field report because I deal I come across having to deal with the “player” reputation. I still find it rather silly judging by how inexperienced I still am. Anyway the party was ok, I got laid both the last two previous ones and really wanted to do so again…
The night progressed and there wasn’t much real opportunity, a girl who was too drunk, a girl who continually just tried to shit test me just for the sake of it and a couple of other interactions. The real one that stuck came near the end when we were in the club. I started a conversation with a fairly cute girl from the department and could very quickly see she was interested.
The conversation was built around her talking a majority of the time and me building her up genuinely about her accomplishments, whilst being modest and mysterious myself. I used quite a few pregnant pauses as well to get her to invest into the conversation. As the vibe escalated I started using Kino more running my hand down her back. I complimented her for the first time saying her dress looked sexy (not the best but what I came up with on the spot).
She then says wait here, anchors me by giving her my drink and goes to the toilet. I busy myself with other women until her return. She gets accosted by other men but does work her way back to me. I don’t chase. Not long after this the lights come on in the club. I remember reading from a narrow J report that he suggested getting food with his girl in order to isolate her. So I suggested food and she pounced on the idea.
She tried to invite other people too but when we went wandering around only one person followed, who started holding her hand, clearly trying to get in there. I just played it cool and then mentioned we we’re getting food. He then turned and walked away. Up to this point the seduction was all very smooth and accomplished, something I can feel good about however I drop the ball at some point going forwards.
Once I had isolated her we started walking down the street chatting. I push her up against the wall and start kissing her. We then continue walking. At one point I mention I have some food back at my house, as that was what we supposedly after. I order a taxi and she complies by getting in it.
The taxi took longer than expected, but during this time I was doing what I usually do which is to try and escalate the vibe with some passionate kissing, where the girl leans into me and invests in me. However in this situation it didn’t work as well because she was not 100% committed.
Once we got inside I told her to take her shoes off, as suggested on this site. From there I faced a large amount of resistance to escalation and only really kissed her. I took small step backs when I faced resistance but then approached it in the same way, trying to kiss, rather than trying other methods such as running my hands up and down her body. I used the line I’ve read before regarding taking action now otherwise we’ll never see each other again, but that didn’t work either. In hindsight I should have done what Drexel suggests and completely disengage, turn on the television and allow her to re-engage on me. However I feel part of the resistance was down to me being perceived as a player and if she doesn’t sleep with me she’s won, or whatever.
Anyway its annoying I failed at the last hurdle; eventually she said she wanted to call a cab so I let her call a cab and showed her to the door. There was no animosity in the departure and I believe I still may have a shot with this girl because I completely respected her boundaries. The failed physical escalation is an interesting one because sometimes girls put up walls they WANT you to tear down and other times they have legitimate walls where they are simply not going to have sex with you and WON’T let you tear them down. It’s in these cases where I think you get another chance. I’m hoping today was one of those scenarios.
Feedback welcome.
Cheers,
HipHop
Went to my work Christmas party and it roughly marks 3 years on since I began to improve myself with women. It an interesting field report because I deal I come across having to deal with the “player” reputation. I still find it rather silly judging by how inexperienced I still am. Anyway the party was ok, I got laid both the last two previous ones and really wanted to do so again…
The night progressed and there wasn’t much real opportunity, a girl who was too drunk, a girl who continually just tried to shit test me just for the sake of it and a couple of other interactions. The real one that stuck came near the end when we were in the club. I started a conversation with a fairly cute girl from the department and could very quickly see she was interested.
The conversation was built around her talking a majority of the time and me building her up genuinely about her accomplishments, whilst being modest and mysterious myself. I used quite a few pregnant pauses as well to get her to invest into the conversation. As the vibe escalated I started using Kino more running my hand down her back. I complimented her for the first time saying her dress looked sexy (not the best but what I came up with on the spot).
She then says wait here, anchors me by giving her my drink and goes to the toilet. I busy myself with other women until her return. She gets accosted by other men but does work her way back to me. I don’t chase. Not long after this the lights come on in the club. I remember reading from a narrow J report that he suggested getting food with his girl in order to isolate her. So I suggested food and she pounced on the idea.
She tried to invite other people too but when we went wandering around only one person followed, who started holding her hand, clearly trying to get in there. I just played it cool and then mentioned we we’re getting food. He then turned and walked away. Up to this point the seduction was all very smooth and accomplished, something I can feel good about however I drop the ball at some point going forwards.
Once I had isolated her we started walking down the street chatting. I push her up against the wall and start kissing her. We then continue walking. At one point I mention I have some food back at my house, as that was what we supposedly after. I order a taxi and she complies by getting in it.
The taxi took longer than expected, but during this time I was doing what I usually do which is to try and escalate the vibe with some passionate kissing, where the girl leans into me and invests in me. However in this situation it didn’t work as well because she was not 100% committed.
Once we got inside I told her to take her shoes off, as suggested on this site. From there I faced a large amount of resistance to escalation and only really kissed her. I took small step backs when I faced resistance but then approached it in the same way, trying to kiss, rather than trying other methods such as running my hands up and down her body. I used the line I’ve read before regarding taking action now otherwise we’ll never see each other again, but that didn’t work either. In hindsight I should have done what Drexel suggests and completely disengage, turn on the television and allow her to re-engage on me. However I feel part of the resistance was down to me being perceived as a player and if she doesn’t sleep with me she’s won, or whatever.
Anyway its annoying I failed at the last hurdle; eventually she said she wanted to call a cab so I let her call a cab and showed her to the door. There was no animosity in the departure and I believe I still may have a shot with this girl because I completely respected her boundaries. The failed physical escalation is an interesting one because sometimes girls put up walls they WANT you to tear down and other times they have legitimate walls where they are simply not going to have sex with you and WON’T let you tear them down. It’s in these cases where I think you get another chance. I’m hoping today was one of those scenarios.
Feedback welcome.
Cheers,
HipHop
