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As you can see from the post count, I'm new here but I've been following Chase's articles for quite awhile. It's simply the best out there.
Aside from some high school drama with the friend zone, I've always had other priorities so I am actually very inexperienced when it comes to women.
Recently I've been trying to push myself against my comfort zone and this is how the story goes. I approached this girl in class so its more of a social circle than a cold approach.
We share a class every day, but we only talk to each other during the odd day classes because both she and I have other friends to sit next to for the even day classes.
On average, there is only about 10 minutes of talking time each class split up into several intervals.
Day 1:
I sat myself next to a pretty girl in a lecture hall. She opened me when the professor asked us to do an exercise. Nothing fancy here, said our his and byes and went on our way.
Day 3:
I moved myself next to her again but she had forgotten my name. I said "I am pretty bad with names too but I just might remember yours... [name], right?"
We made some small talk and sat through the class. At the end of class, she asked to get my number (I don't think she was into me, but rather just wanted to collect numbers for the sake of collecting numbers).
So we exchanged numbers, and I sent her an icebreaker text later to which she responded warmly.
Day 5:
I texted a bit more over the weekend to build some rapport (about 5 messages back and forth) talking about weekend plans.
Day 8:
I tried to be a little playful by telling her that this class is a waste of time and we should just get out of here (since we knew the material), teased her a little about being such a model student with her printed notes and such.
I deep dive her a little bit (What do you do in your spare time) and found out about her interest for food, mentioned some cool restaurants that I'd like to show her someday. And slipped some notes around playing tic tac toe and teasing her with written messages while the professor was teaching.
I texted her later that day to ask if she wanted to study together in an hour. She said yes, but cancelled last minute cuz she forgot about an appointment. So I said something along the lines of study groups are overrated anyhow, why don't we go grab a bite after the exam instead? She responded really positively to that, I asked for her schedule and she said next Monday after class in good. So I had a date scheduled.
But the awkwardness starts here. There is a 5 day gap between then and Monday. But we see each other the next day in the class that we don't usually talk to each other, and there is some palpable tension in the air when we pass each other by with slight acknowledgement. I didn't want to seem overeager. But then I felt compelled to follow up with something physical after the text date arrangement. So on Day 10: After the exam, we finished about the same time and I walked with her a bit discussing the exam, and asked if she wanted to grab a quick coffee before she heads home. The seating wasn't very nice (long tables) and I got driven into sitting across from her in the middle of the table. We made some light talk about her extra curriculars, family, friends, and plans for the future. I tried to do a cold read based on her favourite color but I f'ed up on that and ended up telling her my favourite color instead which she didn't find very interesting. I asked for some physical investment but examining her watch (but she pulled away after about 2 seconds) and said something along the lines of I do enjoy a good sense of fashion in accessories which you don't see a lot around here. This lasted about 30 minutes and I ended it because I had to go, but not before confirming about Monday. I told her it's easier for me to drive and she said we can figure it out over the weekend. That was that.
I texted her during the weekend with time and place to meet but she said she was sick and can't make it on Monday. I accepted it and just told her to feel better. Her text responses at this point felt very aloof and didn't sound like she wanted to continue the interaction and I was left with the last text.
After that, I didn't get to sit next to her in class the next week for various reasons i.e. she came late to class, others took the spot next to her. She didn't seem like she wanted to talk to me either and her behaviour is like the very definition of auto rejection.
But why?
Aside from some high school drama with the friend zone, I've always had other priorities so I am actually very inexperienced when it comes to women.
Recently I've been trying to push myself against my comfort zone and this is how the story goes. I approached this girl in class so its more of a social circle than a cold approach.
We share a class every day, but we only talk to each other during the odd day classes because both she and I have other friends to sit next to for the even day classes.
On average, there is only about 10 minutes of talking time each class split up into several intervals.
Day 1:
I sat myself next to a pretty girl in a lecture hall. She opened me when the professor asked us to do an exercise. Nothing fancy here, said our his and byes and went on our way.
Day 3:
I moved myself next to her again but she had forgotten my name. I said "I am pretty bad with names too but I just might remember yours... [name], right?"
We made some small talk and sat through the class. At the end of class, she asked to get my number (I don't think she was into me, but rather just wanted to collect numbers for the sake of collecting numbers).
So we exchanged numbers, and I sent her an icebreaker text later to which she responded warmly.
Day 5:
I texted a bit more over the weekend to build some rapport (about 5 messages back and forth) talking about weekend plans.
Day 8:
I tried to be a little playful by telling her that this class is a waste of time and we should just get out of here (since we knew the material), teased her a little about being such a model student with her printed notes and such.
I deep dive her a little bit (What do you do in your spare time) and found out about her interest for food, mentioned some cool restaurants that I'd like to show her someday. And slipped some notes around playing tic tac toe and teasing her with written messages while the professor was teaching.
I texted her later that day to ask if she wanted to study together in an hour. She said yes, but cancelled last minute cuz she forgot about an appointment. So I said something along the lines of study groups are overrated anyhow, why don't we go grab a bite after the exam instead? She responded really positively to that, I asked for her schedule and she said next Monday after class in good. So I had a date scheduled.
But the awkwardness starts here. There is a 5 day gap between then and Monday. But we see each other the next day in the class that we don't usually talk to each other, and there is some palpable tension in the air when we pass each other by with slight acknowledgement. I didn't want to seem overeager. But then I felt compelled to follow up with something physical after the text date arrangement. So on Day 10: After the exam, we finished about the same time and I walked with her a bit discussing the exam, and asked if she wanted to grab a quick coffee before she heads home. The seating wasn't very nice (long tables) and I got driven into sitting across from her in the middle of the table. We made some light talk about her extra curriculars, family, friends, and plans for the future. I tried to do a cold read based on her favourite color but I f'ed up on that and ended up telling her my favourite color instead which she didn't find very interesting. I asked for some physical investment but examining her watch (but she pulled away after about 2 seconds) and said something along the lines of I do enjoy a good sense of fashion in accessories which you don't see a lot around here. This lasted about 30 minutes and I ended it because I had to go, but not before confirming about Monday. I told her it's easier for me to drive and she said we can figure it out over the weekend. That was that.
I texted her during the weekend with time and place to meet but she said she was sick and can't make it on Monday. I accepted it and just told her to feel better. Her text responses at this point felt very aloof and didn't sound like she wanted to continue the interaction and I was left with the last text.
After that, I didn't get to sit next to her in class the next week for various reasons i.e. she came late to class, others took the spot next to her. She didn't seem like she wanted to talk to me either and her behaviour is like the very definition of auto rejection.
But why?
