Whats up everyone! I have decided to take on Chase's Newbie assignment!
My Story:
I'm 25. I live in a larger midwestern town in the United States. I no longer have a job as I discovered alternative sources of income but still live with my family due to me starting my own business and trying to save money. I have already graduated college. I recently got dumped (sorta) by my ex-girlfriend because I could not ultimately give her what she wanted and craved which was marriage. The break up left me feeling so low and apathetic for life that I felt like crawling in to a hole and never coming out. I have been using Girlschase materials for years now and had the mastery package, and also currently One Date. I used a lot of the techniques and mindsets on this site to land my ex and I always thought she was quite beautiful, and every other guy I would come in contact with felt the need to tell me that as well LOL. I met her through social circle however and haven't really cold approached before.
What you need to know about me is I LOVE beautiful women. I view them as art almost but not in a weird "let me put you on a pedestal" way. I think I have read a post by Hector where he kind of talks about the same thing and this just primal sense of love and attraction to them and I totally get that. I love being around them and I love their energy, I need them in my life! Anyways, approximately 2 days after the breakup while I was crying in my bed I realized something terrifying. A certain amount of luck came in to play to bring my ex and I together. And while I took that chance meeting and maximized the opportunity to the fullest, I realize that with no job, no real social circle (friends all moved after college), and no reason to necessarily leave the house, I am pretty much up shit creek without a paddle in the hopes that some beautiful girl will magically fall in to my lap again! This is no good and I sense a depression coming on.
Part 2 of why I'm deciding to cold approach happened at this party I got invited too shortly after my breakup. The dude that invited me was hosting a house party and earlier in the year he was asking me advice on how to get a hot girlfriend so I figured what the hell he had to of learned something by now, why not go and meet some beautiful girls. I show up and people start trickling in. I start talking to everyone and quickly realize "Jesus, these chicks are the opposite of attractive" then after not seeing this dude for like a year he told me that his chick was super sexy and she finally walks in and I find her repulsive lmao. Looks wise she was a solid OK but her personality was kind of like a rock being stuck in your shoe: annoying and unwanted. While I was spitting some game on this one chick and leading and moving her around and getting compliance I suddenly stopped myself and thought "WTF am I doing" I don't even think I can bang her. Suddenly, my life flashed before my eyes and I saw myself only being able to date the chicks that come around in this social circle and I almost gagged. Maybe cold approach really is the only way to do this....
I excuse myself from the party and go home. Depression was better than wasting my time flirting with those chicks. I quickly start figuring things in my head on the drive home. "How do you get a hot girlfriend? First you have to meet a hot girl. Why do most guys not have a hot girlfriend despite there being an abundance of beautiful women seemingly everywhere I go? Because they never meet hot girls or mess it up when they meet one. Why do most guys never meet hot girls or mess it up when they finally do? Because guys really only meet women through their work or their friends and rarely are these girls hot, and even more rare are they what the guy wants, so he gets nervous when he finds the unicorn. OK so the solution to my problem seems simple: meet more hot women. But how if I have no job and no real successful friends?" The solution slapped me in the face. Chase has been telling me for years to meet more women through cold approach and I finally understood why: You can meet all the hot women your little heart desires without having a job, or friends simply by going and talking to them yourself!
What really sold me was the math. Lets say the average guy meets 5 really hot women a year through work/friends/etc. This means he has 5 chances to man up and smash/wife up a beautiful girl per year. Those odds suck. But through cold approach you can meet 5 beautiful women per DAY or for me my goal is 3. Meeting 3 beautiful girls per day means in one month I will have meet over 90 beautiful girls which is more than most guys ever meet in their lifetime. And by pure odds at-least one of these chicks is going to LOVE me
Thanks for reading! Before I found out about the newbie assignment my short term goal was to approach 3 beautiful women daily, and my long term goal is to be able to go out and find a high quality girlfriend in a reasonable amount of time anytime I want. I have been approaching for 5 days now and I started the newbie assignment 3 days ago so I'm just going to tie both together somehow!
My Story:
I'm 25. I live in a larger midwestern town in the United States. I no longer have a job as I discovered alternative sources of income but still live with my family due to me starting my own business and trying to save money. I have already graduated college. I recently got dumped (sorta) by my ex-girlfriend because I could not ultimately give her what she wanted and craved which was marriage. The break up left me feeling so low and apathetic for life that I felt like crawling in to a hole and never coming out. I have been using Girlschase materials for years now and had the mastery package, and also currently One Date. I used a lot of the techniques and mindsets on this site to land my ex and I always thought she was quite beautiful, and every other guy I would come in contact with felt the need to tell me that as well LOL. I met her through social circle however and haven't really cold approached before.
What you need to know about me is I LOVE beautiful women. I view them as art almost but not in a weird "let me put you on a pedestal" way. I think I have read a post by Hector where he kind of talks about the same thing and this just primal sense of love and attraction to them and I totally get that. I love being around them and I love their energy, I need them in my life! Anyways, approximately 2 days after the breakup while I was crying in my bed I realized something terrifying. A certain amount of luck came in to play to bring my ex and I together. And while I took that chance meeting and maximized the opportunity to the fullest, I realize that with no job, no real social circle (friends all moved after college), and no reason to necessarily leave the house, I am pretty much up shit creek without a paddle in the hopes that some beautiful girl will magically fall in to my lap again! This is no good and I sense a depression coming on.
Part 2 of why I'm deciding to cold approach happened at this party I got invited too shortly after my breakup. The dude that invited me was hosting a house party and earlier in the year he was asking me advice on how to get a hot girlfriend so I figured what the hell he had to of learned something by now, why not go and meet some beautiful girls. I show up and people start trickling in. I start talking to everyone and quickly realize "Jesus, these chicks are the opposite of attractive" then after not seeing this dude for like a year he told me that his chick was super sexy and she finally walks in and I find her repulsive lmao. Looks wise she was a solid OK but her personality was kind of like a rock being stuck in your shoe: annoying and unwanted. While I was spitting some game on this one chick and leading and moving her around and getting compliance I suddenly stopped myself and thought "WTF am I doing" I don't even think I can bang her. Suddenly, my life flashed before my eyes and I saw myself only being able to date the chicks that come around in this social circle and I almost gagged. Maybe cold approach really is the only way to do this....
I excuse myself from the party and go home. Depression was better than wasting my time flirting with those chicks. I quickly start figuring things in my head on the drive home. "How do you get a hot girlfriend? First you have to meet a hot girl. Why do most guys not have a hot girlfriend despite there being an abundance of beautiful women seemingly everywhere I go? Because they never meet hot girls or mess it up when they meet one. Why do most guys never meet hot girls or mess it up when they finally do? Because guys really only meet women through their work or their friends and rarely are these girls hot, and even more rare are they what the guy wants, so he gets nervous when he finds the unicorn. OK so the solution to my problem seems simple: meet more hot women. But how if I have no job and no real successful friends?" The solution slapped me in the face. Chase has been telling me for years to meet more women through cold approach and I finally understood why: You can meet all the hot women your little heart desires without having a job, or friends simply by going and talking to them yourself!
What really sold me was the math. Lets say the average guy meets 5 really hot women a year through work/friends/etc. This means he has 5 chances to man up and smash/wife up a beautiful girl per year. Those odds suck. But through cold approach you can meet 5 beautiful women per DAY or for me my goal is 3. Meeting 3 beautiful girls per day means in one month I will have meet over 90 beautiful girls which is more than most guys ever meet in their lifetime. And by pure odds at-least one of these chicks is going to LOVE me
Thanks for reading! Before I found out about the newbie assignment my short term goal was to approach 3 beautiful women daily, and my long term goal is to be able to go out and find a high quality girlfriend in a reasonable amount of time anytime I want. I have been approaching for 5 days now and I started the newbie assignment 3 days ago so I'm just going to tie both together somehow!
