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Hey guys, this is my field report that occured on Friday. Lots of thanks to Mr. Rob for excellent advice on how to proceed when stuck, truly appreciated.
Background
This girl was a classmate who used to give me IOIs last year. i went for the date but by then l had not discovered girlschase so l went quite slow. went for a date and took her back to hers, no escalation, no nothing. of course the Inevitable happened and she lost interest quickly. There was even a situation where she texted me asking what my intentions were, but being the chode l was l did some word play and didnt answer her.
Fast forward to the new me(post GG) and l see her in class. l decide to act like last year never happened and say hi. Second time we meet l give her a hug and twirl her around, she loves it. l get her number, but am still a pussy and dont utilise it. In comes MR.Rob, and l finally go for it.l meet her with her best friend, hug them both, look her in the eye and say:
Me: hey Sha, l want you for coffee, hows your schedule this week
Her: oh, l am free l guess, apart from the classes.
Me: great, how about Friday?
Her: l dont know if l'll be doing anything
Her frend: we are supposed to go shopping rem?but we can do it in the mornin
Me: great, then you'r all mine friday afternoon.
Her;okay, cool.see yah then
Friday
l was seriously anxious about this date,but again, l decided to go for it, whatever happens, l'll learn from it. So l tell her to come to the stage am gonna get her. In the mean time l go to my fav coffee spot. in order to get some experience, l had taken one of my best friends who is a chick there and she totally loved it. said that if any guy had brought her here, she would have given him mad props for thinking outside the box of a normal university student.
sha arrives and we head inside. l ask her what she feels like having, she chooses a red velvet cake so l say, " am getting the coffee but we will split the bill on the cake" she says ok
we talk a bit, convasation flows, though it isnt very relevant, we discuss books, l of course mention fifty shades and she says she loved it. l tell her l knew she had a naughty streak. barely 30 mins in, l see shes open for a bounce so l quite stalling and say,"get up, l want us to hit my place for a while".
l go to pay the bill and even forget to ask for her cash, though it isnt a lot, around 3 dollars(300 sh). we take the bus, l pay.(though it isnt a lot, l dont really know a tactful way of avoiding this,or how do l pay without coming across as a provider?)
My Place
we get in, shoes off and sit on my bed and am afraid to escalate, l take my phone and show her Nancy Friday's book. she loves it. we keep talking while l do a lot of kino. l discover she has a tummy piercing and lift her shirt,she pulls it back down. my hands are constantly moving, l lift the shirt again and kiss her tummy, she squeals and say shes ticklish. l keep playing around, put music on, try to dance with her. she sees a bottle of wine my roommate had brought and goes for it.
Now, l am normally not a drinker. l avoid it as much as possible. but l noticed that she kept saying "am not drunk yet" when l try to escalate. and she kept seeding going for drinks. She also kept saying she wished l wasnt her classmate. l am seeding non judgement and discretion, and go for manhandle kiss several times, no dice. but she doesnt stop me from exploring her body though no inside contact.
anyway, at around 9, a guy keeps calling asking for his laptop and the chicks roomate had left for home so she had to head back to uni( l stay outside) and give it to him. she seemed really pissed about it.
Lessons learned and Questions
I can pull of dates, they are not that hard. l just have to go for them. pulling is also not that hard.
l should concentrate of tonality and eye contact, body language and sexual framing am not that bad at.
Learn to qualify and neg.
My questions are:
I want to get a bottle of wine to keep in the room,but since l dont drink,wont it appeared fake?
How do l deal with paying the tab and disqualifying myself from BF to lover role.
How do l discuss freedom of sex without relationships burdens?or convey my thoughts about sex in a non degrading way?
Any advice appreciated, and again, thanks to MR.Rob for getting me off my ass
Background
This girl was a classmate who used to give me IOIs last year. i went for the date but by then l had not discovered girlschase so l went quite slow. went for a date and took her back to hers, no escalation, no nothing. of course the Inevitable happened and she lost interest quickly. There was even a situation where she texted me asking what my intentions were, but being the chode l was l did some word play and didnt answer her.
Fast forward to the new me(post GG) and l see her in class. l decide to act like last year never happened and say hi. Second time we meet l give her a hug and twirl her around, she loves it. l get her number, but am still a pussy and dont utilise it. In comes MR.Rob, and l finally go for it.l meet her with her best friend, hug them both, look her in the eye and say:
Me: hey Sha, l want you for coffee, hows your schedule this week
Her: oh, l am free l guess, apart from the classes.
Me: great, how about Friday?
Her: l dont know if l'll be doing anything
Her frend: we are supposed to go shopping rem?but we can do it in the mornin
Me: great, then you'r all mine friday afternoon.
Her;okay, cool.see yah then
Friday
l was seriously anxious about this date,but again, l decided to go for it, whatever happens, l'll learn from it. So l tell her to come to the stage am gonna get her. In the mean time l go to my fav coffee spot. in order to get some experience, l had taken one of my best friends who is a chick there and she totally loved it. said that if any guy had brought her here, she would have given him mad props for thinking outside the box of a normal university student.
sha arrives and we head inside. l ask her what she feels like having, she chooses a red velvet cake so l say, " am getting the coffee but we will split the bill on the cake" she says ok
we talk a bit, convasation flows, though it isnt very relevant, we discuss books, l of course mention fifty shades and she says she loved it. l tell her l knew she had a naughty streak. barely 30 mins in, l see shes open for a bounce so l quite stalling and say,"get up, l want us to hit my place for a while".
l go to pay the bill and even forget to ask for her cash, though it isnt a lot, around 3 dollars(300 sh). we take the bus, l pay.(though it isnt a lot, l dont really know a tactful way of avoiding this,or how do l pay without coming across as a provider?)
My Place
we get in, shoes off and sit on my bed and am afraid to escalate, l take my phone and show her Nancy Friday's book. she loves it. we keep talking while l do a lot of kino. l discover she has a tummy piercing and lift her shirt,she pulls it back down. my hands are constantly moving, l lift the shirt again and kiss her tummy, she squeals and say shes ticklish. l keep playing around, put music on, try to dance with her. she sees a bottle of wine my roommate had brought and goes for it.
Now, l am normally not a drinker. l avoid it as much as possible. but l noticed that she kept saying "am not drunk yet" when l try to escalate. and she kept seeding going for drinks. She also kept saying she wished l wasnt her classmate. l am seeding non judgement and discretion, and go for manhandle kiss several times, no dice. but she doesnt stop me from exploring her body though no inside contact.
anyway, at around 9, a guy keeps calling asking for his laptop and the chicks roomate had left for home so she had to head back to uni( l stay outside) and give it to him. she seemed really pissed about it.
Lessons learned and Questions
I can pull of dates, they are not that hard. l just have to go for them. pulling is also not that hard.
l should concentrate of tonality and eye contact, body language and sexual framing am not that bad at.
Learn to qualify and neg.
My questions are:
I want to get a bottle of wine to keep in the room,but since l dont drink,wont it appeared fake?
How do l deal with paying the tab and disqualifying myself from BF to lover role.
How do l discuss freedom of sex without relationships burdens?or convey my thoughts about sex in a non degrading way?
Any advice appreciated, and again, thanks to MR.Rob for getting me off my ass
