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Hey guys, back in my hometown for thanksgiving break, so I only have a week to workout in this gym. Since the gym is the only place I can meet women at home, I decided to approach one girl that I see occasionally, that I thought was very attractive and wanted the balls to approach before. Since were on thanksgiving break from college, I figured that doing a normal style approach wouldn't damage my reputation at all, normally I wouldn't cold approach girls at the gym, and treat it more like a social circle. This was just different circumstances, and I actually made two approaches.
P.S. Can anyone tell me how to condense the conversations? I understand people not wanting to look at the conversations, and only the summaries, but I don't know how to do that, will try to summarize the conversations.
Another P.S. Don't remember the conversations exactly, but will put main things.
GIRL 1
Went to put my hoodie away and saw her standing, resting in between sets. Decided to compliment her on her shoes, since its unique(for the gym) and I don't seem thirsty.
CONVO:
Me: Hey, where'd you get your shoes from?
Her: I got it from [place].
Me: I love your shoes!
Her: Omg, thank you!
We then proceeded to exchange names and chitchat a bit more.
Me: You back for break?
Her: Yea, I go to [school].
Me: No way, you look like you don't go there. What's your major? Actually, lemme guess.
Her: Okay go for it.
Me:[Tried 3 times, could not get it].
Her: I'm actually a pysch major, looking to become a speech pathologist.
I proceeded her to qualify and share a bit about how I needed one as a child, and she shared that she did as well. I told her it was a wholesome full circle moment for us.
Me: Guess my major.
Her: Your major is [my major].
Me: How'd you know that?
Her: It was obvious, when you guessed it for me.
We then proceeded to chitchat more, exchanging thanksgiving plans, more so I wanted to see her logistics for the coming week. Even if thanksgiving doesn't work out, there's always winter break.
Me: You free anytime this weekend, I have a cool ice cream place I can take you?
Her: I actually have a boyfriend.
Me: I actually have a boyfriend, I cheat on him all the time.
She proceeds to laugh.
Me: It's just two people getting ice cream together.
Her: No, I don't think that would be okay.
Me: Okay, that's alright. I guess now we're just gym acquittances.
Her: Yea, we are.
Me: Let me know if you end it with your boyfriend, I got you. For now though, we just say hi to each other whenever we see each other.
I then asked her about her workout, wished her well and gave her a fistbump. Last part was to save a bit of social grace on rejection, and make it sting less, makes me look less weak and needy, and more confident, that I'm able to stay in convo with a girl that just rejected me.
GIRL 2:
Saw her midworkout, and she immediately caught my eye. I said I wouldn't approach her, since I already got one, and she was far away. At the end of my workout, guess who starts working out on the machine right next to me? Her.
I decide to use the same opener, and she was even more receptive than the first girl.
Me: Hey, where'd you get your shoes?
Her: I actually got them from [shoe brand].
Me: I love your shoes, the design and everything is great.
Her: Thank you, your shoes are better though.
I accidentally give her a tap on the leg, which I just brushed off.
Saw her phone case, and said
Me: Do you go to [college name]?
Her: Yes, actually I do! How'd you know?
Me: It's on your phone. I'm just kidding, I'm actually a stalker(used this inside joke throughout the interaction, which she bought up).
We proceeded to talk more, learn more about each other and our thanksgiving plans, as well as use the stalker banter throughout the interaction, having a fun time teasing each other.
At one point, we talk about body parts to train.
Me: I bet your favorite body part to train is legs?
Her: Yes.
Me: All girls love legs, weirdos.
Her: I love training legs on girls, not neccesarily on guys.
Me: What's your favorite body part on guys?
Her: Everything.
Me: I gotta bring up everything then. What about the back?
Her: Ooh, I like a good back.
Me: Good cuz my back is really good but my chest is like nothing compared to my back. (Stopped myself from talking further, was qualifying myself too much).
Her: Yeah, I hate training chest.
Me: Yeah, I can understand why girls hate training chest.(I was thinking that girls don't men staring at their boobs constantly).
Her: Yeah, it's not really important.
Me: No, I was thinking of another reason. (During this I subtly glanced at her cleavage a couple times, made sure not to stare though).
Her: Why is that?(confused tone).
Me: Actually I'm not gonna say.(Didn't want to say anything too creepy and off putting, was already subtly glancing at her cleavage.
Her: Okay.
We talk a bit more, and eventually, I go for the ask.
Me: Hey, do you like icecream? Actually what am I saying everyone loves icecream.
Her: Agrees with me.
Me: I have a cool place for ice cream if you're free thanksgiving, if not we can always do winter break.
Her: Yeah for sure!
I proceed to get her number, although I realized I didn't qualify her enough. I asked for her major, asked if that was her dream, and told her I love when people chase their dreams.
Me: Well I need to let you get back to your workout, although I can talk to you anytime, I have your number, and I know where you live(not true, obvious joke). Have a good workout!
Her: You too!
I sent her an icebreaker text an hour later: Hey [GIRL 2] nice meeting you at the gym today. -Your stalker, [me].
We'll see what happens from here, if I don't receive a text back, I'm not doing anything till Friday, since I can't meet her till then anyways.
TAKEAWAYS
Anyways any advice? I know GIRL 1 I could've teased more, and GIRL 2 I could have qualified more, need to find the right balance. Both openers were done in a socially calibrated way where neither felt awkward. Also didn't touch GIRL 1 at all, and by the end, my hands were in my pockets. GIRL 2 I made sure to touch a bit more, but not too much since we were in the gym.
P.S. Can anyone tell me how to condense the conversations? I understand people not wanting to look at the conversations, and only the summaries, but I don't know how to do that, will try to summarize the conversations.
Another P.S. Don't remember the conversations exactly, but will put main things.
GIRL 1
Went to put my hoodie away and saw her standing, resting in between sets. Decided to compliment her on her shoes, since its unique(for the gym) and I don't seem thirsty.
CONVO:
Me: Hey, where'd you get your shoes from?
Her: I got it from [place].
Me: I love your shoes!
Her: Omg, thank you!
We then proceeded to exchange names and chitchat a bit more.
Me: You back for break?
Her: Yea, I go to [school].
Me: No way, you look like you don't go there. What's your major? Actually, lemme guess.
Her: Okay go for it.
Me:[Tried 3 times, could not get it].
Her: I'm actually a pysch major, looking to become a speech pathologist.
I proceeded her to qualify and share a bit about how I needed one as a child, and she shared that she did as well. I told her it was a wholesome full circle moment for us.
Me: Guess my major.
Her: Your major is [my major].
Me: How'd you know that?
Her: It was obvious, when you guessed it for me.
We then proceeded to chitchat more, exchanging thanksgiving plans, more so I wanted to see her logistics for the coming week. Even if thanksgiving doesn't work out, there's always winter break.
Me: You free anytime this weekend, I have a cool ice cream place I can take you?
Her: I actually have a boyfriend.
Me: I actually have a boyfriend, I cheat on him all the time.
She proceeds to laugh.
Me: It's just two people getting ice cream together.
Her: No, I don't think that would be okay.
Me: Okay, that's alright. I guess now we're just gym acquittances.
Her: Yea, we are.
Me: Let me know if you end it with your boyfriend, I got you. For now though, we just say hi to each other whenever we see each other.
I then asked her about her workout, wished her well and gave her a fistbump. Last part was to save a bit of social grace on rejection, and make it sting less, makes me look less weak and needy, and more confident, that I'm able to stay in convo with a girl that just rejected me.
GIRL 2:
Saw her midworkout, and she immediately caught my eye. I said I wouldn't approach her, since I already got one, and she was far away. At the end of my workout, guess who starts working out on the machine right next to me? Her.
I decide to use the same opener, and she was even more receptive than the first girl.
Me: Hey, where'd you get your shoes?
Her: I actually got them from [shoe brand].
Me: I love your shoes, the design and everything is great.
Her: Thank you, your shoes are better though.
I accidentally give her a tap on the leg, which I just brushed off.
Saw her phone case, and said
Me: Do you go to [college name]?
Her: Yes, actually I do! How'd you know?
Me: It's on your phone. I'm just kidding, I'm actually a stalker(used this inside joke throughout the interaction, which she bought up).
We proceeded to talk more, learn more about each other and our thanksgiving plans, as well as use the stalker banter throughout the interaction, having a fun time teasing each other.
At one point, we talk about body parts to train.
Me: I bet your favorite body part to train is legs?
Her: Yes.
Me: All girls love legs, weirdos.
Her: I love training legs on girls, not neccesarily on guys.
Me: What's your favorite body part on guys?
Her: Everything.
Me: I gotta bring up everything then. What about the back?
Her: Ooh, I like a good back.
Me: Good cuz my back is really good but my chest is like nothing compared to my back. (Stopped myself from talking further, was qualifying myself too much).
Her: Yeah, I hate training chest.
Me: Yeah, I can understand why girls hate training chest.(I was thinking that girls don't men staring at their boobs constantly).
Her: Yeah, it's not really important.
Me: No, I was thinking of another reason. (During this I subtly glanced at her cleavage a couple times, made sure not to stare though).
Her: Why is that?(confused tone).
Me: Actually I'm not gonna say.(Didn't want to say anything too creepy and off putting, was already subtly glancing at her cleavage.
Her: Okay.
We talk a bit more, and eventually, I go for the ask.
Me: Hey, do you like icecream? Actually what am I saying everyone loves icecream.
Her: Agrees with me.
Me: I have a cool place for ice cream if you're free thanksgiving, if not we can always do winter break.
Her: Yeah for sure!
I proceed to get her number, although I realized I didn't qualify her enough. I asked for her major, asked if that was her dream, and told her I love when people chase their dreams.
Me: Well I need to let you get back to your workout, although I can talk to you anytime, I have your number, and I know where you live(not true, obvious joke). Have a good workout!
Her: You too!
I sent her an icebreaker text an hour later: Hey [GIRL 2] nice meeting you at the gym today. -Your stalker, [me].
We'll see what happens from here, if I don't receive a text back, I'm not doing anything till Friday, since I can't meet her till then anyways.
TAKEAWAYS
Anyways any advice? I know GIRL 1 I could've teased more, and GIRL 2 I could have qualified more, need to find the right balance. Both openers were done in a socially calibrated way where neither felt awkward. Also didn't touch GIRL 1 at all, and by the end, my hands were in my pockets. GIRL 2 I made sure to touch a bit more, but not too much since we were in the gym.