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Hey guys,
So, for those of you who understand college game, I have a question:
When I go to parties, is it necessary that I know people/ am connected/ am part of the "in" crowd in order to even have a shot with girls? I ask this because I go to a lot of college parties. For the last couple of weekends, I've been more or less mass approaching at these parties. And I get shot down pretty much every time. I was talking to my friend about this who had some success in college prior to transferring to a different school. Its important to note that this friend has no pua training and doesn't actually have any "formal" education on seduction/socializing. In fact, he strikes me as a very "friendly/nice guy" type of person. Despite this, he got laid relatively often at his old school. He believes this is because he was connected/knew a lot of people there. In other words, his positive reputation seemed to boost his value in the eyes of women. Now, at this new school, he knows no one. And he's had only one lay all year. And it was with a girl from his work. He attributes his lack of results to his belief that its necessary to know people and be connected and be "popular" in college to get laid by girls who are a part of these social circles. He also argues that the lack of connections/reputation is the reason why I keep getting blown off by girls at parties.
I told him I believe this is false. I think that if a good impression is made, its very possible to completely cold approach girls even in a social circle-ish. environment like college. Having said that, I see a lot of guys at these parties who have a lot worse fundamentals than me and a lot less "game" who seem to at the very least get the attention of women and keep them in conversations. And I'm sure at least some of them do more than just that. On the other hand, when I approach, I always end up getting blown off just on my opener. Like, I'll open direct with "Hey, I really like x about you (typically an article of clothing)". And she'll just say "thanks" and walk away or go back to talking with her friends.
So I definitely think that he's at least partially right: being connected helps. But I'm beginning to wonder if its the deciding factor in my success? In other words, does "game" and fundamentals take the back seat in college? Or is the reason I'm getting blown off completely unrelated to all this?
Also, just as background info: my college has 15000 people. My impression is that people kind of know each other. Like, not everyone knows each other by name, and not everyone has an impression of everyone else. So its not like HS or like how most Frat/Sorority systems are. But at the very least, I seem to see a lot of the same people when I go out to these parties. And it seems that there always are one or two people who know most the people there.
So, for those of you who understand college game, I have a question:
When I go to parties, is it necessary that I know people/ am connected/ am part of the "in" crowd in order to even have a shot with girls? I ask this because I go to a lot of college parties. For the last couple of weekends, I've been more or less mass approaching at these parties. And I get shot down pretty much every time. I was talking to my friend about this who had some success in college prior to transferring to a different school. Its important to note that this friend has no pua training and doesn't actually have any "formal" education on seduction/socializing. In fact, he strikes me as a very "friendly/nice guy" type of person. Despite this, he got laid relatively often at his old school. He believes this is because he was connected/knew a lot of people there. In other words, his positive reputation seemed to boost his value in the eyes of women. Now, at this new school, he knows no one. And he's had only one lay all year. And it was with a girl from his work. He attributes his lack of results to his belief that its necessary to know people and be connected and be "popular" in college to get laid by girls who are a part of these social circles. He also argues that the lack of connections/reputation is the reason why I keep getting blown off by girls at parties.
I told him I believe this is false. I think that if a good impression is made, its very possible to completely cold approach girls even in a social circle-ish. environment like college. Having said that, I see a lot of guys at these parties who have a lot worse fundamentals than me and a lot less "game" who seem to at the very least get the attention of women and keep them in conversations. And I'm sure at least some of them do more than just that. On the other hand, when I approach, I always end up getting blown off just on my opener. Like, I'll open direct with "Hey, I really like x about you (typically an article of clothing)". And she'll just say "thanks" and walk away or go back to talking with her friends.
So I definitely think that he's at least partially right: being connected helps. But I'm beginning to wonder if its the deciding factor in my success? In other words, does "game" and fundamentals take the back seat in college? Or is the reason I'm getting blown off completely unrelated to all this?
Also, just as background info: my college has 15000 people. My impression is that people kind of know each other. Like, not everyone knows each other by name, and not everyone has an impression of everyone else. So its not like HS or like how most Frat/Sorority systems are. But at the very least, I seem to see a lot of the same people when I go out to these parties. And it seems that there always are one or two people who know most the people there.
