Community service: A place to meet women?

[Verisimilitude]

This might sound crazy to most people, especially when I say that church trips are great place to meet girls. Sounds crazy right? Aren't most girls on these trips reserved Jesus freaks? Actually...no. In fact, when I was in high school, I saw more relationships come about as a result of church trips than anything else (classes, parties, proms etc.). Every year, I would go on a trip to do community service with my church. And every year, I would have a new romantic relationship that came out of it. And it wasn't just limited to this one weekly trip. Whether it was volunteering at a soup kitchen, a weekend retreat, or a day trip, I would always find that there was some girl who was being very clear about her interest in me, more so than anywhere else.

Still aren't convinced? Well let me give you some examples:

I've seen two girls hop into a sleeping bag for the night with a guy on a church trip

I've had a girl ditch her sick boyfriend for me the trip, being so clear about it she was touching me suggestively and dancing with me in front of him

I've seen a girl "help" me practice a speech by wearing a very low cut shirt and rubbing her legs on mine the whole time (which didn't really help lol)

I had one trip where I could have had the pick of any of the 15 girls who were on the trip. I've never had a feeling like that in any social situation ever since then (I can remember salsa dancing with a good amount of these girls and each time their hands visibly trembled as soon as they touched me)

I made dirty calls to a girl two floors down in the hotel (and having her come up later for more fun and drinks)

And I've had one of the best talks of my life halfway up a mountain with a girl as the sun came up.

These were all in high school over the course of about 8 church themed trips. I wish I had read this site sooner so I could have gone about these the right way, but c'est la vie.

Now the reasons for this are pretty simple: Girls like being bad. And there's nothing more bad than getting crazy on a church trip . You also have the opportunity to talk and build rapport for a long time. I'm sure there are other things as well, such as with a value gain and the good feelings from helping people.

Now the problems with this are that after the event ends, you have to work quickly to keep the energy going. There's a feeling like coming down from a high that sets in after these, and it can be easy for these things to fizzle. The other bigger problem is that these situations require you to handle yourself perfectly not to get slotted as a boyfriend.

All things considered though, I have trouble thinking of a trip where I DIDN'T have a girl making her interest very clear to me and chasing me hard. And if I can do it, so can you. A service club in college is a GREAT way to meet high quality girls.

 

[Humpert]

I agree. Not only that, these girls do tend to have a more traditional, patriarchal mindset.

Since you're a churcher, xcrunner, do you have any tips for gaming girls AT church? I'm not religious and could never be, but my last few girlfriends have been, and I actually really like it. So I've been wanting to go to church just for the prospects... Any tips for a nonbeliever?

 

[Verisimilitude]

In church, I don't really try to look out for those type of things. But I do find there's possibilities for eye contact, I've never tired to game girls there because it just feels wrong. But I think its better to approach or flirt outside of church. Maybe after it ends. I think you could do things better in other groups such as community service or things like that.