Complacency

[Novacane]

Dipped into a little bit of online dating i.e. Tinder, HotorNot, OkCupid etc., and I must say using these apps made me very complacent with substituting real life approach for a quick message or two. Now what I mean by this is due to the fact its all online, "approaching" is more of looking at a well taken photo (leaving it up to your imagination to drum up an idea of said person) and either swiping left or right making things nothing more than an empty numbers game. I'd like to ask how do you guys find such sites? Personally due to the vast amount of people turning to online dating I feel still approaching whether it be day/night game helps one stand out more. I'm not sure if I worded that correctly but what I mean is just approaching in real life alone is such an uncommon occurrence that when you do decide to partake in the act you aren't just another profile to either reject or accept with the flick of the finger. Any thoughts or comments are always welcomed.

 

[ray_zorse]

Online dating is one of many tools you can use.

Personally it doesn't work for me. I don't find it as thrilling as the rush of overcoming approach anxiety and approaching. Also I cannot be bothered getting professional photos done etc. Maybe when I stick to my diet a bit longer and up the gym... another problem is it seems to be a bit of a young man's game, the hot women are probably setting their filter to 18-30 and not realizing a 39yo in good shape can satisfy them better.

I think basically if you prefer it over cold approach then use it (or use both) but if you're using it as a crutch cos you can't approach then get out there and challenge yourself

cheers, Ray

 

[Ross]

Dipped into a little bit of online dating i.e. Tinder, HotorNot, OkCupid etc., and I must say using these apps made me very complacent with substituting real life approach for a quick message or two. Now what I mean by this is due to the fact its all online, "approaching" is more of looking at a well taken photo (leaving it up to your imagination to drum up an idea of said person) and either swiping left or right making things nothing more than an empty numbers game. I'd like to ask how do you guys find such sites? Personally due to the vast amount of people turning to online dating I feel still approaching whether it be day/night game helps one stand out more. I'm not sure if I worded that correctly but what I mean is just approaching in real life alone is such an uncommon occurrence that when you do decide to partake in the act you aren't just another profile to either reject or accept with the flick of the finger. Any thoughts or comments are always welcomed.

Novacane,

I typically find the websites/apps by word of mouth. Friends and girls I sleep with will often mention these websites and apps to me, but you can also stay up to date just by peeking around these forums.

I personally feel like online dating is just another tool to be used, though it's definitely not a replacement for approaching women in person. Luckily, it has become a streamlined experience over the years, which provides a lot of positives to adding it into the general mix of strategies to meet new women.

Of course, this is no surprise, because it's generally easier to locate single women looking to date when they are specifically looking for other singles to form some type of relationship with. But a lot of amazing single women just aren't on these websites, and the numbers of men approaching these women during the day is still low. Someone has to give these girls orgasms, so be kind and approach them .