Completely lost composure, got nervous, redfaced today!

[perpetualsun]

Hi Guys,

I recently met a girl at a dining hall, talked to her, got her number, and then asked her out for coffee. She said yes and I had a great time with her and she looked liked she really enjoyed it. Now when I tried to set up a second date via text, she stopped responding. Today, I saw her again in the dining hall and proceeded to talk to her again. I asked her when she was available and then she said Wednesday next week.

At that point, because I had pulled an allnighter, my adrenaline was already kicking and my face turned completely red and I got nervous and I started to quiver in my voice a bit. Even though she said she might be available Wednesday next week for a dinner date, I could tell she was uncomfortable as she didnt really look in my direction a whole lot (not sure if this was caused by my nervousness). At this point, do I just give up on this girl? Would it even be worth to persist? Thanks guys!

 

[Jay]

Perpetual,

Just make sure the next time you interact with her you have yourself together, and you should be fine. Everyone has a weird/awkward moment every now and again.

Jay

 

[AfterMath]

I think you're overreacting a little but may be investing too much into this girl if you got that nervous while talking to her. I don't think it was the all nighter specifically that made you act nervous around her, it might have helped, but it wasn't the only reason. We all get nervous one time or another, like the poster above said, but be careful not to invest too much mental effort into any one girl. If your thoughts start drifting to her, try to snap it out and think about something else...having an abundance mentality and a busy lifestyle helps in this. Remember that the more you think about and invest into her, the more you will like her, it's a cycle that needs to be broken. And as for the girl, she was probably acting weird in response to your nervousness like you said... but do go ahead set up a date, just don't too caught up in the outcome and it's all good!

 

[Flames]

Don't worry by the 100th time it happens it's starts to tail off a bit.

 

[Knight]

That's alright dude, you just keep learning and practicing until that goes away. I remember when I was first putting this stuff to use properly and I had been relaxed all night until suddenly i started getting so cold that i actually was shaking. At that moment I knew that it was just mental so i grabbed the girl, pulled her in and made out. Problem solved. ;D