Compliance 101 - Have I got it right guys?

[Orgasmatron]

Hey guys

@topcat @PalmaSailor @Will_V @Fluxcapacitor

Obviously, I'm more than happy to hear from anyone else too, so not just these cool dudes mentoined above.

So let's see if I have this correct...

1. Compliance is when she positively engages

2. Approval/reward from me is giving her some sort of attention or granting her access to my time

3. I should give approval/reward to encourage her to comply further when she complies

4. I should withhold approval/reward when she does not comply

5. This is the opposite of what most guys would do because they see her as the prize and have no other options

6. Non-compliance on her part could be a test to see if I am a needy loser who is just going to agree with anything she says, go along with whatever shit she pulls and leave it unchallenged, chases her, and tries to seek her approval

7. If I do the opposite of what most guys would do, then she'll view me as someone who has more important things going on in my life that take precedence over her

8. So she will feel that she has to do more to get my attention away from these things and will engage positively to do so

9. This is not about her, it's about me - I should be someone that has shit going on in his life that I want to do, and other ppl/chicks have to either get in the queue or do something extra special to dazzle me

10. So for example, for the last few Tuesdays, I've been going to the driving range with my brother because I want to start playing golf again - so if she says I can see you on Tuesday, then I still go to the range with my bro - and just tell her I'm busy that night - and I don't say why I'm busy until she offers to make herself available to me at another time that is suitable for me, or provides some other benefit to me - so she could say something funny that makes me laugh for instance, doesn't have to be a big thing - although maybe she should have to do something more than that - what's the base level for her to do something valuable enough for me to share my itinerary with her?

11. So it's all on my terms and she has to get in line because I'm the sort of guy that has loads of hot chicks who want to suck my dick, so she isn't special and she has to compete with the rest of them to get attention and time from me, and they all have to wait until I have done whatever it is that I want to do before they get anything

12. I'm the prize here, not her

13. I make that clear to her through approaching her, being a confident, cool, fun, interesting dude who challenges her to prove her worth to me by probing deeper when asking questions like "what kind of music do like" for instance

14 Me: "what kind of music are you into? Her: "EDM" - the old me would say - "wow I don't know much about that, I'll have to check it out, where would you recommend I start? as I try to get her to like me which posits her as the authority on good music and me as the student

15 The new me: "Cool, you like EDM, I don't know much about that, I'm a heavy metal guy, so what is it about EDM that's so good?

16. If she provides an interesting answer, I'm all, okay, that sounds pretty cool, maybe you're worth talking to for a bit and now you've proved you think at a deeper level so your opinion on what's good is worth something, so it's now worth my time and energy to continue

15. If she fails to pique my interest with a dull answer, "I don't know, I just like it" and I am less and less invested in continuing to interact with her because she is basic and bores me, so she has to do something else to get my attention and prove she is worthy to me

16. So I'm Alice Cooper and she's Wayne and Garth! and I tell her if she's worthy or not before she can get up off her knees! - Hopefully, she looks a bit more like Tia Carrera than Mike Myers and Dana Carvey, well she'd need to otherwise I wouldn't even notice her in the first place

Is that the basic idea?
Is there anything really obvious or basic that I've missed?

 

[PalmaSailor]

Hey guys

@topcat @PalmaSailor @Will_V @Fluxcapacitor

Obviously, I'm more than happy to hear from anyone else too, so not just these cool dudes mentoined above.

So let's see if I have this correct...

1. Compliance is when she positively engages

Nearly there. Compliance is when she does as asked - hold my drink but positive engagement counts.

2. Approval/reward from me is giving her some sort of attention or granting her access to my time

Yes

3. I should give approval/reward to encourage her to comply further when she complies

It’s more of a reward for compliance but you’re getting the picture

4. I should withhold approval/reward when she does not comply

Yes

5. This is the opposite of what most guys would do because they see her as the prize and have no other options

Correct. Most guys give free attention whether she complies

6. Non-compliance on her part could be a test to see if I am a needy loser who is just going to agree with anything she says, go along with whatever shit she pulls and leave it unchallenged, chases her, and tries to seek her approval

Could be a shit test. (Which would be better named a fitness test) shit tests are good, they only shit test men they are interested in otherwise they don’t

7. If I do the opposite of what most guys would do, then she'll view me as someone who has more important things going on in my life that take precedence over her

Yes it’ll have that effect. But it’s more to do with actually having more important things to do

8. So she will feel that she has to do more to get my attention away from these things and will engage positively to do so

If she’s attracted yes

9. This is not about her, it's about me - I should be someone that has shit going on in his life that I want to do, and other ppl/chicks have to either get in the queue or do something extra special to dazzle me

Yes it is more about you

10. So for example, for the last few Tuesdays, I've been going to the driving range with my brother because I want to start playing golf again - so if she says I can see you on Tuesday, then I still go to the range with my bro - and just tell her I'm busy that night - and I don't say why I'm busy until she offers to make herself available to me at another time that is suitable for me, or provides some other benefit to me - so she could say something funny that makes me laugh for instance, doesn't have to be a big thing - although maybe she should have to do something more than that - what's the base level for her to do something valuable enough for me to share my itinerary with her?

Correct. You don’t have to share it at all. If you don’t share it and she likes you her imagination will convince her that you’re banging a dozen 20 year old au pair girls, any that is only a good thing. Let her think that and don’t share the truth.

11. So it's all on my terms and she has to get in line because I'm the sort of guy that has loads of hot chicks who want to suck my dick, so she isn't special and she has to compete with the rest of them to get attention and time from me, and they all have to wait until I have done whatever it is that I want to do before they get anything

Yes

12. I'm the prize here, not her

Yes

13. I make that clear to her through approaching her, being a confident, cool, fun, interesting dude who challenges her to prove her worth to me by probing deeper when asking questions like "what kind of music do like" for instance

Yes

14 Me: "what kind of music are you into? Her: "EDM" - the old me would say - "wow I don't know much about that, I'll have to check it out, where would you recommend I start? as I try to get her to like me which posits her as the authority on good music and me as the student

15 The new me: "Cool, you like EDM, I don't know much about that, I'm a heavy metal guy, so what is it about EDM that's so good?

Yep

16. If she provides an interesting answer, I'm all, okay, that sounds pretty cool, maybe you're worth talking to for a bit and now you've proved you think at a deeper level so your opinion on what's good is worth something, so it's now worth my time and energy to continue

15. If she fails to pique my interest with a dull answer, "I don't know, I just like it" and I am less and less invested in continuing to interact with her because she is basic and bores me, so she has to do something else to get my attention and prove she is worthy to me

I have this problem if they bore me. But quite a lot are just boring until you get them in bed. If they come up with a dull answer, just make fun of them.
“wow I bet you’re a laugh at parties” and laugh

16. So I'm Alice Cooper and she's Wayne and Garth! and I tell her if she's worthy or not before she can get up off her knees! - Hopefully, she looks a bit more like Tia Carrera than Mike Myers and Dana Carvey, well she'd need to otherwise I wouldn't even notice her in the first place

Is that the basic idea?

It’s the basic mondset that’s right yes. It needs tweaking and you haven’t covered IOI’s DHV’s etc. But you’re getting there fast.

at this rate I might even jump the train to Edinburgh for a day out!

Is there anything really obvious or basic that I've missed?

 

[Orgasmatron]

Brilliant!

Thanks mate, much appreciated

Nearly there. Compliance is when she does as asked - hold my drink but positive engagement counts.

Cool. It's not my drink I want her to hold though but understood, cheers

Correct. You don’t have to share it at all. If you don’t share it and she likes you her imagination will convince her that you’re banging a dozen 20 year old au pair girls, any that is only a good thing. Let her think that and don’t share the truth.

I'd better get working on the 20 year old au pairs then - maybe that'll be this weeks project!

I have this problem if they bore me. But quite a lot are just boring until you get them in bed. If they come up with a dull answer, just make fun of them.
“wow I bet you’re a laugh at parties” and laugh

Yeah, I see how that is better, thanks

It’s the basic mondset that’s right yes. It needs tweaking and you haven’t covered IOI’s DHV’s etc. But you’re getting there fast.

Glad to know I'm on the right track, brilliant.
IOIs - she's interested - looks in my direction a few times, plays with hair, stuff like that - know a small amount - will learn more
DHVs - demonstration of higher value - need to look into that and find out about it

at this rate I might even jump the train to Edinburgh for a day out!

Anytime man. I'll buy you a pint - actually I probably need you buy about 20!

I'll need to come down to London sometime and see how it's done in the Premier League - I imagine it's a bit of a higher level than the SPL

That's all great, thanks a lot, moire reading to do for me

Cheers!

 

[PalmaSailor]

Brilliant!

Thanks mate, much appreciated


Cool. It's not my drink I want her to hold though but understood, cheers


I'd better get working on the 20 year old au pairs then - maybe that'll be this weeks project!


Yeah, I see how that is better, thanks


Glad to know I'm on the right track, brilliant.
IOIs - she's interested - looks in my direction a few times, plays with hair, stuff like that - know a small amount - will learn more
DHVs - demonstration of higher value - need to look into that and find out about it


Anytime man. I'll buy you a pint - actually I probably need you buy about 20!

I'll need to come down to London sometime and see how it's done in the Premier League - I imagine it's a bit of a higher level than the SPL

That's all great, thanks a lot, moire reading to do for me

Cheers!

 

[PalmaSailor]

@Orgasmatron

you’re spinning off too much content for me to keep up with.

I’ve got a day job dontyaknow.. plus im banging birds myself!!

 

[Orgasmatron]

@Orgasmatron

you’re spinning off too much content for me to keep up with.

I’ve got a day job dontyaknow.. plus im banging birds myself!!

Ahhh, that's what the problem is.

I've got the day job, but nothing else to keep me occupied.

It would be funny if it wasn't true.