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Hi fellows,
Just before I start, I want to thank GirlsChase for everything they have done and I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for this website.
I have found myself in a complicated situation, and would love advice from experienced guys.
I met this girl one week ago at a shooting range. I got her number, we met up a few days after then she told me she has a bf and she has cheated on him before. At that time, I didn't say anything and just nodded because I didn't know what to say, and later that night she texted me saying she's sorry. I told her I appreciated her honesty but we probably can't see each other anymore. She then replied that she doesn't want to stop seeing me but I told her I can't be her friends and I won't wait around forever. We met up the next day to talk about it but then we got intimate and started making out. She said she shouldn't be doing this but she also told me she was unhappy in her relationship. I told her she has a choice, which she needs to make it fast, and being unhappy is not the way to live, but in the end she decided to stay in her relationship and I was disappointed but fine about it. The next day, she texted me "hey...am I still allow to talk to you?" and I replied "yea only if we meet up", then she came over, we talked and made out then she told me she broke up with her bf. I was very surprised to hear that....but here's where it gets complicated.... she's still living with her bf and 5 of his friends. She told me they broke up during a big fight and they both took their own stuff back to their room. I asked her what if you guys got back together?. She said I will try not to, which doesn't sound very assuring to me. At the end of that day, she left my place crying for god knows what reason now, and at 10.30pm she called me and apologize and saying she was scared to go home to her now ex-bf. At this point, I don't think she's over him yet and I started to feel a little insecure. I saw her the next day at the shooting range and feeling a little weird about our situation. I asked how are things with her ex? she said they are talking now but it's over, and she said she's helping him to buys some shit from the internet because she has the account, and he is sleeping in her bed now because his room doesn't have a blanket. I was a bit pissed, but didn't want to show it at the shooting range because other people were around. After we left the shooting range, I asked to come over a bit so we can talk. She told me she's still not over him yet because she doesn't want to seem heartless, but she's trying to move on. I told her I don't wanna waste my time, and what if someone better come along who can offer me things I want, e.g. a long-term relationship? She told me she wants me to be happy. I asked her But what do you want?. she said I want you!. Then we made out and talked about some other things! I told her to not let her ex sleeping in her bed again and she should get her own heater from now on so she doesn't have to borrow it from him.
Throughout the whole thing, it was her doing the chasing most of the time. Now I'm scared she might go back to her ex bf....because she has a history of getting back to her ex. I can see I have two options, stick with her and try my best to keep her attracted, or just simply next her. What are your guys opinion on this?
Cheers
The smith
Just before I start, I want to thank GirlsChase for everything they have done and I wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for this website.
I have found myself in a complicated situation, and would love advice from experienced guys.
I met this girl one week ago at a shooting range. I got her number, we met up a few days after then she told me she has a bf and she has cheated on him before. At that time, I didn't say anything and just nodded because I didn't know what to say, and later that night she texted me saying she's sorry. I told her I appreciated her honesty but we probably can't see each other anymore. She then replied that she doesn't want to stop seeing me but I told her I can't be her friends and I won't wait around forever. We met up the next day to talk about it but then we got intimate and started making out. She said she shouldn't be doing this but she also told me she was unhappy in her relationship. I told her she has a choice, which she needs to make it fast, and being unhappy is not the way to live, but in the end she decided to stay in her relationship and I was disappointed but fine about it. The next day, she texted me "hey...am I still allow to talk to you?" and I replied "yea only if we meet up", then she came over, we talked and made out then she told me she broke up with her bf. I was very surprised to hear that....but here's where it gets complicated.... she's still living with her bf and 5 of his friends. She told me they broke up during a big fight and they both took their own stuff back to their room. I asked her what if you guys got back together?. She said I will try not to, which doesn't sound very assuring to me. At the end of that day, she left my place crying for god knows what reason now, and at 10.30pm she called me and apologize and saying she was scared to go home to her now ex-bf. At this point, I don't think she's over him yet and I started to feel a little insecure. I saw her the next day at the shooting range and feeling a little weird about our situation. I asked how are things with her ex? she said they are talking now but it's over, and she said she's helping him to buys some shit from the internet because she has the account, and he is sleeping in her bed now because his room doesn't have a blanket. I was a bit pissed, but didn't want to show it at the shooting range because other people were around. After we left the shooting range, I asked to come over a bit so we can talk. She told me she's still not over him yet because she doesn't want to seem heartless, but she's trying to move on. I told her I don't wanna waste my time, and what if someone better come along who can offer me things I want, e.g. a long-term relationship? She told me she wants me to be happy. I asked her But what do you want?. she said I want you!. Then we made out and talked about some other things! I told her to not let her ex sleeping in her bed again and she should get her own heater from now on so she doesn't have to borrow it from him.
Throughout the whole thing, it was her doing the chasing most of the time. Now I'm scared she might go back to her ex bf....because she has a history of getting back to her ex. I can see I have two options, stick with her and try my best to keep her attracted, or just simply next her. What are your guys opinion on this?
Cheers
The smith
