So I went to a country music concert at our local fair that was free with admission. Spent 30 minutes before on the phone with the woman I am meeting for 3 nights over the Holiday in a week. I'd come from work and was wearing a button down collared shirt under a UA Softshell jacket, and a straw cowboy hat. I hit the beer booth and wandered through the crowd. Lots of young girls "on display". Way to young and immature for me. Chatted with folks I knew as I drifted through the crowd. Thinking about how the woman on the phone had told me how much we were going to screw in a little over a week.
My newly single status had not been widely broadcast, so I made mention of it to a few people who asked. All were supportive.
In the crowd, I saw one of my High school classmates who had children the same age as mine. I'd known her (and her mother) as a bitter, gossipy shrew who married one of my classmates and typified the nagging wife. Despite that she is a Facebook friend and our children go to school together.
She was in a group with a few other married women, and her single older sister. The sister I'd seen around attending Kid's events at school. We had matched on Tinder and when I realized who she was I deleted the match. She was attractive, tall and slender. I approached and chatted with the women as the music act played on stage. I introduced myself to her and her response was "Yes, I know..." The sister stood next to me as the other women stood in front of us. We talked, as she swayed to the music and bumped hips with me. I slid my hand on her hip and swayed along.
In all honestly I was wondering how into me she was going to be and if she was going to reciprocate Kino.
In the middle of the concert another couple of women approached to greet her. They both looked me up and down and one asked "Where'd you get the cowboy?". I grinned and replied "Oh we grow on trees..." She explained they were a couple of newly divorced (or separated) women after they left. So throughout the concert we kinda danced side by side. I got a nice feel of her hips and butt and noted no muffin top along her hips and belly. She made an awkward kiss attempt over her shoulder as I held her hips from behind when her family wasn't looking. I think we both were self conscious about them.
At the conclusion of the concert her family made a rapid departure and we had a moment alone in the crowd. She invited me to join them at a dive bar down the street, and gave me a quick kiss. I told her I'd consider it , but in my mind I was thinking of all the reasons I didn't want to pursue this.
I reminded myself I had more value than a quick drunken hookup with a woman who came from a line of women I don't respect.
She was not frigid but lukewarm and clumsy in her physical affection. Her actions didn't say "hot in the sack" to me.
She wanted me to move to her new location (the bar with her group) rather than isolate with me at that moment.
She felt "skinny fat" not athletically skinny when I felt her rear end.
She was inebriated to a point where I wasn't sure that she might get sloppy.
I was uncomfortable with the group witnessing (I had some ASD feelings!)
I think what I did accomplish though is:
I established myself as a hookup option with her if the need arises in the future.
I created the murmur in the community that I am single and available.
I have another data point on escalating physical touch at concerts.
I'm waiting for her sister to make a comment about that night. Especially the fact I flaked on meeting her later that night.
My newly single status had not been widely broadcast, so I made mention of it to a few people who asked. All were supportive.
In the crowd, I saw one of my High school classmates who had children the same age as mine. I'd known her (and her mother) as a bitter, gossipy shrew who married one of my classmates and typified the nagging wife. Despite that she is a Facebook friend and our children go to school together.
She was in a group with a few other married women, and her single older sister. The sister I'd seen around attending Kid's events at school. We had matched on Tinder and when I realized who she was I deleted the match. She was attractive, tall and slender. I approached and chatted with the women as the music act played on stage. I introduced myself to her and her response was "Yes, I know..." The sister stood next to me as the other women stood in front of us. We talked, as she swayed to the music and bumped hips with me. I slid my hand on her hip and swayed along.
In all honestly I was wondering how into me she was going to be and if she was going to reciprocate Kino.
In the middle of the concert another couple of women approached to greet her. They both looked me up and down and one asked "Where'd you get the cowboy?". I grinned and replied "Oh we grow on trees..." She explained they were a couple of newly divorced (or separated) women after they left. So throughout the concert we kinda danced side by side. I got a nice feel of her hips and butt and noted no muffin top along her hips and belly. She made an awkward kiss attempt over her shoulder as I held her hips from behind when her family wasn't looking. I think we both were self conscious about them.
At the conclusion of the concert her family made a rapid departure and we had a moment alone in the crowd. She invited me to join them at a dive bar down the street, and gave me a quick kiss. I told her I'd consider it , but in my mind I was thinking of all the reasons I didn't want to pursue this.
I reminded myself I had more value than a quick drunken hookup with a woman who came from a line of women I don't respect.
She was not frigid but lukewarm and clumsy in her physical affection. Her actions didn't say "hot in the sack" to me.
She wanted me to move to her new location (the bar with her group) rather than isolate with me at that moment.
She felt "skinny fat" not athletically skinny when I felt her rear end.
She was inebriated to a point where I wasn't sure that she might get sloppy.
I was uncomfortable with the group witnessing (I had some ASD feelings!)
I think what I did accomplish though is:
I established myself as a hookup option with her if the need arises in the future.
I created the murmur in the community that I am single and available.
I have another data point on escalating physical touch at concerts.
I'm waiting for her sister to make a comment about that night. Especially the fact I flaked on meeting her later that night.
