Conflicted

[Thinkingenigma]

This is sort of a further reflection on my previous post, but it is its own topic.The more I think about things at school, the more I'm realizing that I'm putting myself at serious risk of losing my scholarship, and even possible suspension or expulsion by putting the stuff on this site into practice. I've seen some serious growth and self-improvement since I found this site, but I've gotten myself in a fair bit of trouble due to my conservative school environment. At this point, I'm wondering if I might be better served to put the PUA stuff aside until I'm out of school. Of course, I will still work on my fundamentals (confidence, looks, conversation, etc.), but I think that staying away from sex might be the best option for me right now. On the other hand, I might be putting myself seriously behind as far as my self development goes, and I don't know if that is worth it. I'm a sophomore right now, which means that I have two more years before I leave school. How would you guys handle this?

 

[Tyme2k]

Sophomore in high school?

If so you definitely need to tread lightly. You have a long life ahead of you, if you are in highschool, I'd say stay away from forums and go OUT socialize, and enjoy life. You will have plenty of sex down the road.

 

[Whizzy]

Since he has a scholarship I feel like you are in college correct? If so how could this make you lose it? I myself go to a catholic college (pretty ironic), but all of my scholarships and whatnot are based off of my academics which are great still

 

[trashKENNUT]

This is sort of a further reflection on my previous post, but it is its own topic.The more I think about things at school, the more I'm realizing that I'm putting myself at serious risk of losing my scholarship, and even possible suspension or expulsion by putting the stuff on this site into practice. I've seen some serious growth and self-improvement since I found this site, but I've gotten myself in a fair bit of trouble due to my conservative school environment. At this point, I'm wondering if I might be better served to put the PUA stuff aside until I'm out of school. Of course, I will still work on my fundamentals (confidence, looks, conversation, etc.), but I think that staying away from sex might be the best option for me right now. On the other hand, I might be putting myself seriously behind as far as my self development goes, and I don't know if that is worth it. I'm a sophomore right now, which means that I have two more years before I leave school. How would you guys handle this?

Don't give up. You need to work with your environment. I know it sucks. I been in National Service and obey rules for two years. There, I can do shit, just not all shit. An experience i like to share, here.

Try working your environment, if you can't, Know that we here, to entertain you, with our words, at least. =_________________="

Zac,

 

[Thinkingenigma]

Since he has a scholarship I feel like you are in college correct? If so how could this make you lose it? I myself go to a catholic college (pretty ironic), but all of my scholarships and whatnot are based off of my academics which are great still

Yes, I'm in college, a Southern Baptist one no less. While my scholarships are primarily based off academics, which are in great shape, my main scholarship, which pays for my tuition, is also contingent on not breaking certain behavioral rules (don't smoke, drink, do drugs, have sex, etc.). My dilemma is that I don't want to lose my scholarship, but at the same time, I don't want to go out into the adult world without the necessary skills needed to be successful in my relationships. I feel like I'd be losing quite a bit of value as a mate if I abstained until adulthood.

 

[Whizzy]

You aren't even allowed to have sex while having that scholarship? That sounds painful...does it pertain to sex totally or just with girls at the school?

 

[Thinkingenigma]

You aren't even allowed to have sex while having that scholarship? That sounds painful...does it pertain to sex totally or just with girls at the school?

I'm not supposed to have sex period, even during the breaks. Same applies to drinking as well. Technically, I could be suspended or even expelled if I got caught more than once. Losing my scholarship would happen on the first offense, which would be the equivalent of being expelled, as I can't pay for school. Of course, This is all contingent on whether I got caught, of course, but our RA's can be pretty observant of that stuff.

 

[diegoC]

Do you live in a very small town that will make it difficult to keep up with your game?
If not, I guess you could go solo to places you are completely sure people from your college don't go. I'm sure you wouldn't be caught.

 

[Thinkingenigma]

Do you live in a very small town that will make it difficult to keep up with your game?
If not, I guess you could go solo to places you are completely sure people from your college don't go. I'm sure you wouldn't be caught.

Yes. As I said in another thread, I live in a small southern city, and you don't really want to walk around downtown unless you have a death wish. I've tried to pick up girls while running errands, but to be honest, there isn't much of a selection. Now, when I go back home for break, I have more options as I'm in a hub city, but then I have to deal with my parents constantly wanting to know where I am every time I breathe. Bringing girls home isn't an option. God, I can't wait to move out.

 

[diegoC]

Yes. As I said in another thread, I live in a small southern city, and you don't really want to walk around downtown unless you have a death wish.

Oh god! jajaja

Now, when I go back home for break, I have more options as I'm in a hub city, but then I have to deal with my parents constantly wanting to know where I am every time I breathe. Bringing girls home isn't an option. God, I can't wait to move out.

That's tough. I was lucky that my parents never bother me at all. Even my mother always told me I should date lots of girls and not fall in love. And my father was a direct guy ("Hey, would you like to leave with me later?", just like that, he blew with many but some would say okay)

You situation is hard. Maybe you should still practice (so you don't get rusty) but don't have sex if you are really worried about losing you scholarship. You could try online dating with independant girls (have their own place).

I feel for you Thinkinenigma, it really sucks.

Cheers!

 

[Anonymous]

Priorities.

No need to risk your future for a short lived pleasure(s). But that doesn't mean you cannot still work on aspects of your social charms. You can still work on your flirting. You can work on your conversation skills. You can work on your body language, your gait. You can improve your presence and your magnetism. You can still learn how to touch women in the right ways. While you won't be able to work on closing, you can pretty much work on everything else. But it is quite the predicament that you are in.