Confrontations & drama for dating a blonde but not brunette or redhead.

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

TLDR; Kenshin gets bothered by strangers a lot more (at times it can get nasty, story in the thread towards the end) and usually gets a lot of opposition from friends and some people somewhat in his circle when it comes to getting with a blonde, does not have the same issues with a brunette or redhead, wonder how many other guys have had this issue too.

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I initially didn't want to post this due to the drama that ensues from such threads, most of it resulting in guys bitching about blondes, but this is more relevant to something that has happened to me over the years and recently because I ended up dating a blonde. If things are really that bad with blonde threads then shut this one down, I have no objections to it, but I kinda wanted to share this and get the experience you guys have had with it.

First off, I want to say that I have no issues pulling the blonde bombshell type here in the USA at all but my issue is something else I've experienced over time after actually being in a relationship as well as going out on dates with them. I also think that confrontations might be a strong word here but it can apply in some situations, especially a recent one.

A lot of the issues come when I am actually dating the girl as opposed to just sleeping around with her or having a fling. My experience is limited but I wanted to get the experience you guys have had with it. I am South Asian and while I don't think it stops me being able to get these girls, a part of me wonders if it has an effect on the kinds of stuff I run into when I am actually going out with these girls on dates and pursuing long term relationships with them as opposed to a short fling.

I've dated brunettes and redheads, the hottest girl I ever dated was a brunette with very light tan and we didn't have any of these issues. I have also noticed that, at least in my area, it is significantly more common to see brunettes and redheads going interracial than blondes, might be confirmation bias on my part too. It's just that when I date a brunette or redhead (only dated one redhead though), it seems like everyone leaves us alone no matter how hot the girl is or has something positive to say and I prefer that but when I am dating a blonde, that is not what happens.

When it comes to blondes, I notice that things start to get a lot more, dramatic for a lack of a better word.

[*] My friends and circles don't take too kindly to it, most of them say she isn't a "good fit" for me and I should not be going for "those kinds of girls". I've argued with some friends over it and have lost some guys who I thought were friends because I ended up dating a blonde.

[*] Just going out to eat and going out in public, I notice we get more people staring at us. A couple of times the blonde I have dated has noticed this and pointed it out on a date. I remember the one time we had these two guys, middle aged, just stare at us with that Ron Swanson look on their face, I mean I love the character from Parks and Rec and all but it was just kinda discomforting (and they were looking like right at us and then at me when I glanced over at their direction). We also get started at a lot by people in general while when I am with a brunette or redhead, it is hardly that intense.

[*] A lot more guys in public, when I am out with a blonde, who approach us and talk to us. It doesn't happen when I am with any other kind of girl, always happens when I am with a blonde. Usually she ignores them and then they try to talk to me and I remember one of Chase's posts about dealing with AMOGs by just saying something minor to them and quickly turning back to your girl when you do instead of trying to talk to them or AMOG them. In a couple of cases, the guy has persisted and said something out loud like "she's only with you for the money dude!".

[*] More hostility when we go out at nights, a lot more aggressive guys coming on to her and then losing it when they see that she is with me. I will already make the thread longer than it is by sharing all of them so I will just share a recent one, it has happened a few times to me. Just a week ago I was out to see a movie with a girl I am dating now (tall blonde) and these two guys tried to game her when I was gone to the restroom. I look off at a distance when I get out of the restroom and she did not seem interested at all, was looking away from them as they tried to talk to her.

Then I come back and when I do, one of them shouts "Oh my god is this your boyfriend?", she says "yes" while barely looking at them and then turns to me. We ignore them but they start talking loudly in an Indian accent, we ignore them again. Then one of them shouts "when Trump gets into office and deports him, you're going to be all alone" (funny because I actually love Trump and will be voting for him). We ignore them but one black lady confronts the two guys, they defend themselves by talking about how they love black people, have black friends, but are just concerned about my girlfriend's well being and then say they were just "kidding" (attempt to shake my hand but we just keep ignoring them).

The guys cooled down after that as we continued to ignore them, I mean seriously. Minus the racism, I have to deal with aggressive douchebag guys trying to test me every single time when I am out with a blonde on a date but almost never when I am with a brunette or ginger.

It's not the first time either, I just notice that when I am dating a blonde, the people around me start to get more hostile and I have some of these kinds of annoying and at times dramatic run-ins with strangers. The douchebags tend to come out of the woodworks in that situation but never when I am with a brunette or redhead.

I wonder if you guys have also had similar experiences. Maybe it's an American thing and maybe it has to do with the douchebag bro types being heavily into blondes and those guys in general are very forward and hostile when it comes to their behavior. I feel my race has to be playing somewhat of a minor role in it too but I am wondering if even the white guys on here have had similar experiences, minus the racism of course but I mean the other stuff.

Maybe it's my race and maybe it's not but I wanted to ask, do you guys also notice having more issues with strangers and in public when you're out with a blonde that is hot as opposed to a brunette or redhead?

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I strongly think this varies based on location going from my own experience.

In the state I am currently in (Georgia), even white guys that don't quite fit the mold of high status in Georgia have to deal with a lot of issues for being with a hot blonde. People in Georgia tend to adore blondes to an obsessive level, more so than any other state I've lived in, so they expect these girls to go for certain kinds of men.

The social climate in the state generally expects hot blondes to be with country boys ("bubbas") who wear camo hats or wealthier white guys who were likely in a good fraternity at a university in the SEC and grew up in suburban Atlanta. When the hot blonde starts going away from that, it starts to get heated. Usually when people see any guy with a hot blonde, they get curious and try to make friends with the couple and they will come on overly nice at first too. As soon as they do that, they want to see if the guy fits their view of high status (bubba or wealthier southern guy). When the guy doesn't fit the social view of high status, the people who made friends with the couple will try to pull the blonde into leaving the guy and try to introduce her to a southern man who she would look good with in their view. I have witnessed these situations turn very nasty to the point that I am disgusted by the social culture of this state.

People here don't care who brunettes date, I've seen top notch brunettes go interracial and it was hardly an issue.

I think this has to do in large part with the fact that people in the Atlanta are more image conscious than anywhere else in the south. Everyone is trying to be cool, look high status in public, and snag that hot blonde to have as their trophy girlfriend. Maybe in image conscious areas loaded with aggressive guys trying to climb the social ladder, these kinds of problems involving hot blondes are going to happen.

I don't even want to get into how bad guys that aren't white have it if they end up with a hot blonde in this state, lets just say it's pre-Loving vs Virginia bad but some black guys can get away with it if they are football players or very high status. People will definitely gossip about the couple in a negative way but they're too scared to mess with the couple because blacks have a lot of power in Atlanta, usually the blonde has a thing for black culture and hangs out with a lot of black people. Guys of more foreign (not sure if this is the right term) minority groups are in for a very rough time.

When I lived in Tennessee and Florida, it was hardly an issue. I met hot blondes dating and married to Asian guys, Indian guys, black guys, and Hispanic guys; no one gave the couple a tough time. One couple I was friends with in Nashville involved a hot blonde that looked a lot like Doutzen Kroes with an Indian guy, the two were great people who were constantly told that they would make beautiful kids. In Florida, it was almost a thing for hot blondes to go for swarthy Hispanic guys. In both of these places, no one cared at all and the couple rarely faced an issue but in Georgia, it is beyond horrible for even white guys that don't fit a certain mold.

I cannot wait to leave this horrible city.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

You need to be strong when you date hot blondes, both on the inside and the outside. The reason so many hot blondes end up with guys that have athletic bodies and a solid emotional frame is because this type of stuff happens. Hot blondes have the most aggressive guys coming on to them on the regular and in most parts of the United States at least, if you're a brown dude with some hot blonde, you're going to face some hell for it so you better be prepared. You will have to deal with the typical aggressive and entitled white guy who thinks he can snatch her away from you. In modern day America, nothing pisses off the racists more than to see a hot blonde going interracial, just look at all the hell Terrell Owens (football player) got for the commercial with the Desperate Housewife a while back.

When I see Asian and Indian men getting with hot blondes, the guys are usually in great shape, taller than average for their race, and a far cry from the shy guy with oppressive parents stereotype. I say knowing MMA helps, you need to be able to throw down with some aggressive guys who will undoubtedly bother you. The only exception to this rule is if the guy is filthy rich and the woman is a gold digger, you know what that means.

Get used to it, the areas where you won't get a lot of shit for dating interracially with a hot blonde are rare in the USA.

I live in NYC and I mainly see brown guys who work in finance (typically banking and consulting) end up with the hot blonde types, the guys live in wealthier parts of Manhattan where everyone is too rich and successful to care. One reason that athletes, frat bros, military guys, and guys who get into trouble with the law is because the hot blonde types feel safe around them. The blonde is always going to have her stalkers and other men in her circle scheming to get with her, she has to have a strong guy by her side to protect her because of all the women in the world, she is going to need it.

As for me, I don't care, the racism and anger is also one of the main things that keeps me going after these kinds of women and I've been having a good bit of luck as of late (be on the lookout for my upcoming lay reports!).

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Wow, that made a lot of sense after reading this thread. I guess now I know why it is mostly rich guys and buff guys that get with these girls most of the times as opposed to your normal average joe, guess I'll just have to learn to deal with it.