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Chase I have a question about this article... Herein you make a distinction between two kinds of girls.. Girls who are shunning you out of awkwardness/uncalibratedness, but also girls who went hostile on you due to social ladder climbing or because you have maneuvred them into a precarious position.
The girls who went hostile I understand their motives and how to handle them.. Honestly I find them EASIER to handle than the first group, since the first group is much more ambiguous.
When you make a move on a girl and she rejects you implicitly or explicitly, at the very least enough to feel awkward themselves about and you go neutral on them and show that you are not occupied with them, as clockwork they will come up to you, this has been my experience too. Here is where things start to become vague. The girl has rejected you. You have reversed the status frame by putting them on a backburner. You don't "care". Then they come up to you again.
If you make a move here, you are in a big position to get rejected again, strengthening the first rejection. She might even believe that you have been waiting for your golden chance. In the article you have mentioned that girls start "hinting" that you should get together... but usually it is flirtation (which we know can be used for attention whoring as well).
What I want to ask is, what is the ideal process to handle these girls. Where and how do you decide that you should give them a second chance at getting with you.. How much chasing from their part is "enough". Because the risk is going for it too fast, or overcooking it because you do not trust them to be sincere. I am not sure what to look for here, simply because of the initial rejection frame which was strong enough for a subsequent awkward phase on their part.
I don't know if I have articulated this in a way which makes sense, but given your way of reading minds I think you get what I am trying to portray. I simply do not understand the process here and it wasn't elaborated on in the article either (or I have missed it).
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I want to add by the way. Some of these chicks rebound REAL fast after the implicit/explicit rejection and hound you after barely some time has past which makes me even more cynical about what they are trying to do. It makes it seem even less genuine/ more AW.
Chase I have a question about this article... Herein you make a distinction between two kinds of girls.. Girls who are shunning you out of awkwardness/uncalibratedness, but also girls who went hostile on you due to social ladder climbing or because you have maneuvred them into a precarious position.
The girls who went hostile I understand their motives and how to handle them.. Honestly I find them EASIER to handle than the first group, since the first group is much more ambiguous.
When you make a move on a girl and she rejects you implicitly or explicitly, at the very least enough to feel awkward themselves about and you go neutral on them and show that you are not occupied with them, as clockwork they will come up to you, this has been my experience too. Here is where things start to become vague. The girl has rejected you. You have reversed the status frame by putting them on a backburner. You don't "care". Then they come up to you again.
If you make a move here, you are in a big position to get rejected again, strengthening the first rejection. She might even believe that you have been waiting for your golden chance. In the article you have mentioned that girls start "hinting" that you should get together... but usually it is flirtation (which we know can be used for attention whoring as well).
What I want to ask is, what is the ideal process to handle these girls. Where and how do you decide that you should give them a second chance at getting with you.. How much chasing from their part is "enough". Because the risk is going for it too fast, or overcooking it because you do not trust them to be sincere. I am not sure what to look for here, simply because of the initial rejection frame which was strong enough for a subsequent awkward phase on their part.
I don't know if I have articulated this in a way which makes sense, but given your way of reading minds I think you get what I am trying to portray. I simply do not understand the process here and it wasn't elaborated on in the article either (or I have missed it).
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I want to add by the way. Some of these chicks rebound REAL fast after the implicit/explicit rejection and hound you after barely some time has past which makes me even more cynical about what they are trying to do. It makes it seem even less genuine/ more AW.
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