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Hello! First post...
Here's the story:
I went out with a girl, on our first date. Things went incredibly well: great conversation, her buying my drinks, her inviting me to her house, and finally sleeping with her. Great right? It seemed that way.
The confusion:
The girl texts the next morning explaining how she never intended for that to happen, and how she thinks that we should be friends first before getting into anything serious. I tell her that I wouldn't consider commitment after one date anyways, so no worries. The issue is that due to: first a lot of schoolwork, and second a surgery in which she had to recover at home (3 hours away), we haven't been on a second date. It seems that she is a little aloof now. At first (after the first date) we texted pretty consistently, but it almost seemed like she was maybe a little less chatty (which I attribute to the schoolwork that needed to be done, and the worry of surgery).
After the surgery she did not text much (probably too messed up on meds). I decided to text less, as she was not reciprocating the way that I felt she should and although she did text more after she started feeling better. After a text break of two days, I send her a text about a book that I know she likes, that I just finished. She responds promptly, and I respond back, but she sends nothing back. She doesn't seem to try to contact me, even with a 4-5 day hiatus from contact. However, she almost seems to contact passively, through snap chat (if I send a snap to everyone, or have a snap story, she seems to do the same). I should include that last Saturday she saw snaps of me with some girls, at the bar, and it seemed like a good thing for her to see that, so she sees competition. Maybe she is angry about that? The no response came after this, so maybe.
So to summarize (and hopefully this long post wasn't too much):
This girl suggested that we be friends, after a great date/we slept together, and she says it is how she rolls (being friends first), but to me it seems strange how she is more aloof. Is it that she does want something more, and seeing me with other girls (on my snap story) actually bothered her? Hands down the most confusing girl I have ever dealt with.
The plan is to text her tomorrow and try to get her out again (as she is back in the city). Any thoughts on what is going on would be very helpful, because from the stuff that I read from this site (great stuff BTW), it seems that I did everything right (her buying me drinks, sleeping together, and inadvertently showing her that she has competition). Thanks!
Here's the story:
I went out with a girl, on our first date. Things went incredibly well: great conversation, her buying my drinks, her inviting me to her house, and finally sleeping with her. Great right? It seemed that way.
The confusion:
The girl texts the next morning explaining how she never intended for that to happen, and how she thinks that we should be friends first before getting into anything serious. I tell her that I wouldn't consider commitment after one date anyways, so no worries. The issue is that due to: first a lot of schoolwork, and second a surgery in which she had to recover at home (3 hours away), we haven't been on a second date. It seems that she is a little aloof now. At first (after the first date) we texted pretty consistently, but it almost seemed like she was maybe a little less chatty (which I attribute to the schoolwork that needed to be done, and the worry of surgery).
After the surgery she did not text much (probably too messed up on meds). I decided to text less, as she was not reciprocating the way that I felt she should and although she did text more after she started feeling better. After a text break of two days, I send her a text about a book that I know she likes, that I just finished. She responds promptly, and I respond back, but she sends nothing back. She doesn't seem to try to contact me, even with a 4-5 day hiatus from contact. However, she almost seems to contact passively, through snap chat (if I send a snap to everyone, or have a snap story, she seems to do the same). I should include that last Saturday she saw snaps of me with some girls, at the bar, and it seemed like a good thing for her to see that, so she sees competition. Maybe she is angry about that? The no response came after this, so maybe.
So to summarize (and hopefully this long post wasn't too much):
This girl suggested that we be friends, after a great date/we slept together, and she says it is how she rolls (being friends first), but to me it seems strange how she is more aloof. Is it that she does want something more, and seeing me with other girls (on my snap story) actually bothered her? Hands down the most confusing girl I have ever dealt with.
The plan is to text her tomorrow and try to get her out again (as she is back in the city). Any thoughts on what is going on would be very helpful, because from the stuff that I read from this site (great stuff BTW), it seems that I did everything right (her buying me drinks, sleeping together, and inadvertently showing her that she has competition). Thanks!
