Confusion in kind of topics to discuss during seduction.

[Searcher]

Deep diving concept is about going in depth and making people talk about things they are passionate in.

However my confusion is that if the topic the person is passionate about is something I don't know much then wouldn't it make me look lower in value?

Because I recently came across a video by Todd v where he says to always divert towards topics (similar or otherwise) where you are higher value than the other person to make yourself seem higher value.

For example talking about the field of medicine with a doctor when you aren't in the field will make you seem lower value and talking about the topic of travel or music will make me seem like a higher value when the girl doesn't know much about it.

Now the confusion arises as to whether this is better or deep diving?

What are your opinions?

 

[topcat]

For example talking about the field of medicine with a doctor when you aren't in the field will make you seem lower value and talking about the topic of travel or music will make me seem like a higher value when the girl doesn't know much about it.

Not true. When faced with a girl who’s interests are in a topic you don’t know much about, simply ask her about it..

This is part of the point of deep diving - to get her investing in the conversation and divesting her inner world.

Have her tell you about the field, why she chose it, what it involves on a daily basis, what she loves about it, where she hopes to take it. Allow curiosity to lead you in these situations.

With some imagination you can find something analogous in your own life to relate to her experience.

Has nothing to do with ‘value’.

 

[Will_V]

Deep diving concept is about going in depth and making people talk about things they are passionate in.

However my confusion is that if the topic the person is passionate about is something I don't know much then wouldn't it make me look lower in value?

Because I recently came across a video by Todd v where he says to always divert towards topics (similar or otherwise) where you are higher value than the other person to make yourself seem higher value.

For example talking about the field of medicine with a doctor when you aren't in the field will make you seem lower value and talking about the topic of travel or music will make me seem like a higher value when the girl doesn't know much about it.

Now the confusion arises as to whether this is better or deep diving?

What are your opinions?

I think it's best to show 'high value' in some domain or other, but it doesn't have to be the one you're currently conversing about. Commonality is far more important than avoiding topics that threaten your 'value' - part of the skill of seduction is forming a bubble of commonality around things that are much more fundamental to the human experience than the technical details of some job.

For example, if she's a doctor, first you'd tease out why she likes it, e.g.
- She likes helping people
- She likes dealing with difficult challenges
- She's fascinated by the human body
- She likes mastering a very complicated topic

All of these offer potential for commonality, when you start pacing her reality by talking about these things in ways that you've experienced in perhaps a different domain.

If you are talking about the details of a job with a woman, you're doing it wrong. You need to talk about emotions, and emotions are shared between all kinds of different activities/experiences that seem to have little in common.

In the end things are not a competition, you are trying to stimulate her emotions. If she's passionately talking about something to you, she's already associating you with good feelings, and feeling closer to you. As long as she can continue to talk with you without you getting reactive or bored or not knowing what to say, she'll more than likely enjoy herself quite well.

I also find that admiring her physically, and enjoying watching her become animated and excited, is a very good way to maintain (and increase) chemistry while she's talking about something I don't really know or aren't interested in.

But she'll eventually want to hear something substantial from you, which is why you need to find that emotional commonality and reflect her passion back at her with something of your own.