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Connecting With Girls On An Emotional Level

HellAtlantic

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I'm an excellent conversationalist but one thing I've noticed I have a struggle with is connecting with girls on an emotional level. We've all read that as guys our natural inclination is to connect with ppl logically or take the logical/reasonable approach to things but the way to creating attraction with girls is strictly on an emotional level. In my case I'm really good with deep diving, I have the conversation part down pat, but i don't know how to push a girl's emotional buttons and connect with her that way without having a platonic deep conversation - I want to have an emotional connection with girl's that leads things towards sexual vibe/convo as opposed to deep diving convo.

Any ideas?
 

pks391

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https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-b ... connection
https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-b ... lationship
https://www.girlschase.com/content/emoti ... -your-life

Building an emotional connection is about relating to her emotions in a masculine manner during the conversation. You pick up a tiny tidbit from the conversation which you can sense she is passionate about, talk about it in depth, show her that you understand her passions, that you understand her heart's desires. That you can relate to what motivates her, what drives her to be happy, cheerful,uplifted. Then you keep that thread of topic going on for a while.This also requires a little bit of knowledge on her subject from your side. Although, this method is a pretty basic one to emotionally connect.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UQkbq-OC7PU -----Watch the video from 2:00 to 2:40.....watch how Zac Efron connects with the girls. You would want to be doing something similar with the girl you're talking too
This video is not a perfect example per se and i dont think you should overdo this thing because too much of it and you start looking like you're wearing your heart on your sleeve and too much of a nice guy. Do it when the time and moments seem correct. Remember, maintain the masculine behaviour for the majority of the time. You wouldn't want to overdo it.
As far as leading the emotional connect towards a more sexual level, i think Chase's articles are more than enough to get you through on that front. If you ask me, its all about learning her inner sexual passions and telling her that you recognize it and think that its amazing for her to have those.
 
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pks391

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HellAtlantic said:
Thank you for those links! Much appreciated.
Hope you find them useful :)
 

Drck

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Good articles. There are also many other things to consider, don't even know where to start...

Avoid too much logic when possible (while with girls), logic kills attraction. That doesn't mean that you should be stupid, simply being silly or say silly things here and there can spike the emotions (as she feels more relaxed)

Avoid too much anxiety, avoid being uptight, avoid being too controlling, avoid being too judgemental. Learn to be relaxed, in good/positive mood while around girls. Simply learn to feel good being in your own skin, be comfortable and confident, say what you want to say without putting other people down. She will then simply "copy" your mood and feel in similar way as you. If you can feel comfortable and sexy around her, well, it won't take that long and she will feel the same...

Talk about sexy things (without sounding creepy). Talk about vaginas. Talk about having sex (you having sex or other people having sex), talk about relationships, ask her how does she see good emotional connections. By thinking and talking about it while with you, she will actually create such connection with you. It is kind of covert skills that some PUA are using, but it doesn't have to be perceived in mischievous ways if you have good intentions. You are simply talking with that girl on more intimate level...

See primitive yet very powerful game, hot and cold... For example, you invest lots of emotions into one girl (go crazy, let yourself go, unleash your emotions), then you slowly cut down the interaction into minimum. If done correctly, you will feel the effect even after couple of years, she will be chasing you for long time...

Many other times, showing your emotions might help you a lot. On one side you are this mysterious and distant guy (great fundamentals), and on the other you show emotions, even some weakness. She will go crazy as she doesn't know what to make up in her mind about you...
 

HellAtlantic

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Drck - what you wrote was gold. Thank you. The part about not injecting logic into the convo is key. I think that's where I've gone wrong in the past. When you inject logic then you can go "too deep" and it turns into an introspective/philosophical convo. Your post make me think it might be necessary for me to keep a running checklist during a convo: "is what we're talking about right now resulting in happy/positive vibes?" - if yes, proceed. If no, change the topic.
 
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