Hey everybody,
Just had a splendid date that didn't end out the way I hope for. I've realized that most my 1st date success is with experienced girls that are up for it so after this one I'm looking to bridge the gap and figure out how to land the more virgin-like ladies.
Meet/#:
Met her on a bus, I came in after her and sat down the single seat in front and opened by the window. We chatted a bit and I got her #. A few weeks went by because we were mutually busy and then I get a text out of the blue saying we can meet up this weekend.
Phone:
I'm getting very efficient with these, and I feel that I've finally got it down. Lots of smileys and every sign of a yes girl, this is looking good. We agree to meet at the corner by my neighborhood and take it from there.
Date:
I go see here and within a minute can tell that she's more on the inexperienced/shy side, so I tailor my interaction to get her engaged because I can tell that she's a bit nervous. We go to a convenience store and pick up some wine/chocolate, cross the street for some peaches, and head back to my place a block away. We get our glasses and head up to the sunroof, which was unexpectedly closed so I take her down to the pool.
I get her opening up, standard date really, only things of note were that as she wasn't as worldly as many of the girls I've been used to she talks a lot about her friends/acquantainces as a way to relate her views on the world. We don't have too much in common but we make a good connection anyhow and after we finish our drinks I take her back upstairs to finish the bottle and teach her some tango.
The tango is the best way to break the touch-barrier, every girl I've had on a date loves it. It gets her used to my touch and physically excited. I dance her towards my bed and after hitting it she immediately bounces out. I can tell that either she's nervous or otherwise something is amiss, so I dial it down a bit, we study the city map, relate a good bit, and decide to leave and grab a coffee. I realize it's against my agenda but I was down for a walk and I felt that it'd be a good thing.
We walk over to the Starbucks and have a swell time, there's no bad tension in the air and it feels that we've been together forever. After the snack we head back. She proposes to walk further but I tell her it's going to rain soon so we go inside instead. We look over the balcony and though I feel its a moment to kiss her, I let it go to come back in and sketch each other to let it simmer some more. We're just having a good time. This may be where I dropped the ball, though I feel I may have never had it in the first place.
When I feel that she's ready to move on, I take her to the bed to start some massages. She doesn't play ball, so I tell her to sit down for a minute. She refuses again, and says she has to go even though it's pouring out. She did tell me earlier she had to be somewhere and it does match up well. I realize I don't have a play so I act the gentleman and help her out as we make tentative plans to cook a dinner later in the week, but it doesn't feel too convincing.
Reflection:
I'm positive we both had a great time, but she left me scratching my head over her intentions. I get the feeling she doesn't know what she wants, as she knows I'm not going to be around for very long yet wasn't gung-ho on moving towards sex. I've learned that if you make an experienced girl want you, she will practically make the moves herself. But with girls I know are less experienced, I find it hard to get them in a position to lead towards intimacy. I feel that if I got her in a position where I could kiss her, I'd have a chance to escalate well. But she didn't play ball, and nothing happened. I complimented her enough that she should know I like her, but she was really shy in reciprocating anything.
Looking Forward:
Is this a textbook case of a girl who's not interested? She's a very submissive lady and makes me feel that I can be comfortable knowing deep down that things are well on track, but in terms of results she's not complying when it matters. She looks down when responding to me, and it really turns me on, but I can't capitalize on it. I actually believe she's a virgin, as instead of talking about her own past dating/romance experiences she constantly refers to those of her best friends when she has to make some input.
Does that sound like a more likely situation? I feel that it is, and a girl like that is convinced that she needs a boyfriend and knows she can't get that with me, whereas a more experienced girl would accept it for how it is and jump in without looking back. Casual sex is not in her vocabulary.
I enjoyed spending time with her regardless, and it's refreshing to have experiences with women who aren't dead set on jumping your bones. I find it very feminine and endearing, yet frustrating at the same time ;(
Any kind of opinions or insights would be awesome
Thanks for reading,
- TR
Just had a splendid date that didn't end out the way I hope for. I've realized that most my 1st date success is with experienced girls that are up for it so after this one I'm looking to bridge the gap and figure out how to land the more virgin-like ladies.
Meet/#:
Met her on a bus, I came in after her and sat down the single seat in front and opened by the window. We chatted a bit and I got her #. A few weeks went by because we were mutually busy and then I get a text out of the blue saying we can meet up this weekend.
Phone:
I'm getting very efficient with these, and I feel that I've finally got it down. Lots of smileys and every sign of a yes girl, this is looking good. We agree to meet at the corner by my neighborhood and take it from there.
Date:
I go see here and within a minute can tell that she's more on the inexperienced/shy side, so I tailor my interaction to get her engaged because I can tell that she's a bit nervous. We go to a convenience store and pick up some wine/chocolate, cross the street for some peaches, and head back to my place a block away. We get our glasses and head up to the sunroof, which was unexpectedly closed so I take her down to the pool.
I get her opening up, standard date really, only things of note were that as she wasn't as worldly as many of the girls I've been used to she talks a lot about her friends/acquantainces as a way to relate her views on the world. We don't have too much in common but we make a good connection anyhow and after we finish our drinks I take her back upstairs to finish the bottle and teach her some tango.
The tango is the best way to break the touch-barrier, every girl I've had on a date loves it. It gets her used to my touch and physically excited. I dance her towards my bed and after hitting it she immediately bounces out. I can tell that either she's nervous or otherwise something is amiss, so I dial it down a bit, we study the city map, relate a good bit, and decide to leave and grab a coffee. I realize it's against my agenda but I was down for a walk and I felt that it'd be a good thing.
We walk over to the Starbucks and have a swell time, there's no bad tension in the air and it feels that we've been together forever. After the snack we head back. She proposes to walk further but I tell her it's going to rain soon so we go inside instead. We look over the balcony and though I feel its a moment to kiss her, I let it go to come back in and sketch each other to let it simmer some more. We're just having a good time. This may be where I dropped the ball, though I feel I may have never had it in the first place.
When I feel that she's ready to move on, I take her to the bed to start some massages. She doesn't play ball, so I tell her to sit down for a minute. She refuses again, and says she has to go even though it's pouring out. She did tell me earlier she had to be somewhere and it does match up well. I realize I don't have a play so I act the gentleman and help her out as we make tentative plans to cook a dinner later in the week, but it doesn't feel too convincing.
Reflection:
I'm positive we both had a great time, but she left me scratching my head over her intentions. I get the feeling she doesn't know what she wants, as she knows I'm not going to be around for very long yet wasn't gung-ho on moving towards sex. I've learned that if you make an experienced girl want you, she will practically make the moves herself. But with girls I know are less experienced, I find it hard to get them in a position to lead towards intimacy. I feel that if I got her in a position where I could kiss her, I'd have a chance to escalate well. But she didn't play ball, and nothing happened. I complimented her enough that she should know I like her, but she was really shy in reciprocating anything.
Looking Forward:
Is this a textbook case of a girl who's not interested? She's a very submissive lady and makes me feel that I can be comfortable knowing deep down that things are well on track, but in terms of results she's not complying when it matters. She looks down when responding to me, and it really turns me on, but I can't capitalize on it. I actually believe she's a virgin, as instead of talking about her own past dating/romance experiences she constantly refers to those of her best friends when she has to make some input.
Does that sound like a more likely situation? I feel that it is, and a girl like that is convinced that she needs a boyfriend and knows she can't get that with me, whereas a more experienced girl would accept it for how it is and jump in without looking back. Casual sex is not in her vocabulary.
I enjoyed spending time with her regardless, and it's refreshing to have experiences with women who aren't dead set on jumping your bones. I find it very feminine and endearing, yet frustrating at the same time ;(
Any kind of opinions or insights would be awesome
Thanks for reading,
- TR
