Contemplating Death for a better Life

[007]

Bonsoir Casanovas!

This is basically a copy-paste post from my journal but because I really sensed value in this I wanted to post it here since not too many people check journals.
I'm not too sure if that is against the rules so if You plan to take it off Franco (or any other mod) please delete my journal post instead of this one as i feel that there's a ton of value in this topic.

Thanks!



I know I keep posting this videos all over the boards so I just want to make sure that I'm not at all trying to advertise this guy's channel but I genuinely think his videos are extremely valuable. On my path of self-discovery I have found his deep-layered videos very insightful and inspiring. Like everything else though (take GC 4 example) the stuff You watch can only help you a limited amount unless You do the exercises and go out and apply this knowledge to real life.

So from now on I will either try to write more on how I applied this material in my life so as to help you or post the videos itself or sometimes if I have time even both.

Special thanks to MrCharming, who inspired me to add more value to the society. Thank You Mister!


I watched this video and did the exercise and I was like "WOOOW"...and I am already not that bad in terms of self-development but this gave me a whole new outlook.

LINK: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jK1EqqHIOqw

Do not let the tittle scare You...
I could not resist and read some comments and people.. and oh my.. Some did not at all get the intended (or at least what I think was intended) message of video. Some of them were saying that thinking of death makes them neurotic and that one should not think of death and regret at any point in his life, let alone at end of his life, etc.

I don't think (IMHO) that Leo wanted to convey that or scare us. What I feel he wanted to achieve was to contemplate our existence and the real value of our life and he used Death and the singularity of life (Big debate..afterlife/heaven/etc; You are very welcome to comment) to try to make us think of the way we are living.

Are we small-minded in this short existence? Are we happy doing what we do? Is a Ferrari/Money/Success/Fame a small-minded goal in life or not? Is helping the society grow and evolve a big-minded goal or maybe not? .... And so on.

Some people went into very narrow-minded debates on how You don't really die, how one should not be thinking about death, how death is better than life, how life makes no sense at all (sort of Nihilistic approach) and so on and so on.

It even made me think If what I do here --> write things down, break down stuff and think on paper - is what I am happy doing and I came to a conclusion that YES, this is aligned to my values and what I want to do in life.

But I say, go on.. watch the video on Your own... Do the exercise if You really want to get the very best out of it and comment. I would love to hear Your answers and thoughts about it.



If you promise not to copy (joking haha, feel free if You find it true to Yourself) I will post the questions from the exercise and my answers:


1. WHAT WOULD I MISS THE MOST ABOUT LIFE?
- Love, intimate connections, warmth of two (or more) loving bodies joined in a worry-free position of happiness (Am I talking about cuddling? haha).
- The experience of being conscious; being able to perceive and contemplate about all the little beautiful things that make up the world around us (scenes from nature, moments of joy, instances of deep connection, a music concert or even just a pleasurable harmony, ice-cream, etc...list goes to infinity).
- The ability to Understand, Unravel the mysteries and eternal truths of life and universe that are there regardless of our biases.

2. WHAT DO I WANT TO GET OUT OF THIS LIFE?
- As many intimate, deep, loving connections with living or non-living beings, be it humans, animals, plants or a fucking stone.
- Self discovery and higher-states of being. (Trough contemplating life, real-life experiences, meditation, lucid dreaming, ...)
- Live (and die) happy, knowing that my deeds carry a positive energy; satisfaction that my impact on the world has moved all Beings closer together and helped progressed towards a more unified but also diverse, loving, positive state of being; to contribute positively to the shared consciousness of the Universe (I think this will sooner or later be confirmed as spirituality and science move closer towards each other).

3. WHAT IS REALLY WORTH DOING?
- Everything listed above is worth doing.
- Everything and anything that makes me and the world around me happier is worth doing.
- Spreading what me and one of my best friends call 'The Light' (its basically all the positive, enlightening stuff listed above, moving towards the truth and happiness free of EGO and 'Darkness' or mind (dark force from Star Wars haha)). ---> Call me LUCIFER if You want

4. WHAT IS NOT WORTH DOING?
- Spreading negative vibes/energy; anything that leads towards 'Darkness'; anything not listed above
- All the things that do not help me and the world progress (kind of repeating myself now..)



So... this were the Q&A of the exercise.

What are YOURS?

Would You add any more questions? If yes, what?

Leo actually ask You to ask Yourself 2 more questions at the end of the video (the exercise is kind of in the middle, You'll see in the video):

(5.) HOW AM I BEING SMALL-MINDED IN THIS LIFE?

(6.) HOW CAN I REORGANIZE MY LIFE AROUND THE FACT THAT MY LIFE IS SINGULAR AND WILL SOON (not actually, but in the time perspective of the Universe) BE OVER?


POWERFUL QUESTIONS IF YOU ASK ME


He then asks You to do this little thought experiment/exercise every day for 7 days (I don't think it really matters for how long but 7 days seems good..more seems better)

Ask Yourself every day in the morning: "IF I WAS MORE CONSCIOUS ABOUT LIFE AND DEATH I WOULD ___________ ". And think of 10 things that You would do.

Example answers: have more sex, have better relationships, be a better father, become a writer, etc..


That's it Would love to hear from You people!


Peace and Love,
007

 

[Lover]

Yo 007

I was actually trying to contemplate my death last year. And while it worked back then to get me back on track, I can see that I'm slacking once again. I've wrote about it in my journal in the first part of this post if you want to take a look (the rest of it is garbage lol)

So I watched Leo's video, and I wasn't nearly as neurotic as when I was contemplating my death alone. I think all his points were valid and reasonable. You have to accept and embrace your death to really live your life. If you were to die tomorrow.. would you then be satisfied with how you had lived your life? Currently, no.

I do believe that most people would never do this - consider their death until their life is about to end. It's one of those topics you don't talk about out loud. I mean, cherish life, right? Screw dead, that mofo. He can wait.

But anyway, I answered the four questions and guess what? I'll post my answers down below for one simple reason: this assignment is what I need to further accepting and embracing death - and because of this I hope to set a clearer path for my future. Ironically, I have everything going for me besides getting girls. So after posting this, I swear it will be my last post until I can produce a FR/LR. And that would require me approaching first and foremost.. time is not on my side (if you know what I mean)

Well, onto the questions..

1. What would I miss most about life?
- Having great sex
- Eating great food
- Working out/taekwondo
- Socializing/bonding with people
- My family
- Nature. When I walk on grass or in the forest, I feel one with nature. It's like I'm in a meditative state of mind.
- Setting and achieving goals. This one in particular, because committing to goals truly make me feel alive.
- Travelling. I have only travelled to major European cities, Turkey and Iran. I want to explore more of the world. It's so full of mysteries and places to discover.

2. What do I want to get out of this life?
From the points made in question 1, I would want to get the following out of this life: satisfaction, joy, happiness, adventure and freedom.

3. What is really worth doing?
- Teaching others
- Working hard to achieve goals (that would include developing the skill to seducing women)
- Enjoy time with close people (and get new ones)
- Reading books
- Take care of myself and those close to me

4. What isn't worth doing?
- Wasting time on ridiculous shit (social media, porn, series etc.)
- Eating unhealthy
- Spending money on stuff I don't really need
- Sleep little
- Arguing with the wrong people
- Not doing anything when I'm being too much in my head
- Working for little outcome (in the long run)

One thought that popped up in my mind while writing my answers is that I know all these things already. But I never looked at them from this point of view. Some of the things in question 4, I don't do, and some of them I still do. Obviously I need to get rid of the bad ones and apply the good ones.

Also, I took a big ego hit being reminded of death once again. Maybe this should be under question 4 as well: egoism.

I loved the video and the assignment. For the next seven mornings I will write ten things down each day to the question "If I was more conscious aabout life and death, I would [blank]"

Can't wait to see others' responses!

Cheers, and stay positive!