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Socializing  Conversating for the sake of conversating (and being good at it too)

andyroutine

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Bout to drop some knowledge so hear me out fellas

A whole portion of the basics has totally been neglected and need to be added to improve the site and in my opinion finally make it close to perfect. This site is awesome with dealing with women and coming off as a suave slick male like James bond or Sebastian from cruel intentions which is a great movie, y'all should watch it, awesome character development going on lol, but anyway, what I've noticed is none of the articles discuss basic convo. All the conversation techniques are nice 'tricks' used to get to the female mind. But none of these tricks can be applied to a male, a kid, or your aunt. It can only be applied to that hot girl you met at the beach.

This isn't good for 2 reasons. Firstly it is absolutely necessary to have good convo with your family and your friends. I understand its hard to talk to kids because they can't speak English but you gotta do it every now and again to prove that u care about everyone. And secondly being able to have good convo with a girl will make getting her seem so much easier. It'll make it naturally happen like how we all know its meant to be but usually never work like that. It usually comes as, let me manipulate this girl for sex which is totally cool but is a lot of brain work that can be used to f*ckn solve can see, here we are wastong it on some beach h*e. And I sound rude but not all girls are awesome some of them are smart and cool and others are beach h*es.

Know that we have a basic idea of why basic is important let's learn what basic convo is. Its hard to explain but in general it's expressing your thoughts with someone in a back in fothe manner. Your probably thinking duh u just stated the obvious. But some people converse with question and answers like its an interview. Straight to the point guys give you one word answers, (I do this a lot), ex aunt says "did you like the food". You say "yah". Its correct but it isn't inviting convo. Then you see overly nice. He will agree with everything and is a b*tch. Ex how'd you like the food? You say "Oh my gosh you you cooking is amazing" aunt say "that has been in fridge for 2 days, I didn't even microwave it" you say "by the grace off god it still tastes good" aunt "shakes her head".

These are things we all do in attempt to conversate but thats not convo, that trying to be right or agreeable. This is convo

Aunt "Howd you like the food"
Me "it was good, I'm a big fan of pasta"
Aunt "your like my son, he only eats pasta... I don't know why but he can't stand rice"
Me "he's smart. What's the point of eating oily foods. It gets you super lazy, its bad for your skinlooooooool the time it doesnt even taste that great.
Aunt: it super hard to avoid tho. Every where you go its a mcdonald here, a Wendy's there... You know Wendy's got a dollar menu
Me:looooooool
And the convo continues.

The key thing here is know one gave one word answer or just agreed for the sake of agreeing. We gave whole answer to give each other something to work with. And we occasionally followed up answer with opinion on it just to give out or own personal identity in convo. You do t have to agree with that u just have to tell me what you think about it in a cool social savy way.

There is a correct way of doing this. And if its done what you'll get is situation where you friend a girl conversate for a period of time until she starts thinking woah we've been talking for this long he hasn't made any weird advances and he got his fundamentals down pact. Then she's gonna get closer and we all know what eventually happens when a guy and a girl gets closer.

Here you get the girl and its natural.

But the only way this can happen is if we employ it with everyone. You cant have wack convo with your male friends and suddenly have amazing convo with that girl. Obviously there will be slight differences with the way you talk to different people. But there are some obvious dont do's, nd things tht if you follow will make u a sociable person.

All of these tricks like deep diving, chase framing, eye contact, randomly licking your lips. All of these things should be the icing on your basic convo cake.

My final point is basic convo is hella hard to learn.

If a whole site can be based of icing. Imagine what else there is to learn. Things like how to have positive convo. How to successfully talk about nothing ( something girls do all the time but is a must know) and more. I dont know a lot of this stuff so I really need someone to help.

I'm halfway good at basic convo. and really good with girlschase content so I have a decent time with girls but then I find my self in situations where I don't even have much friends at school, i try hard to find one group of friends so i dont look like a loser. i make sure there a decently dressed not lame bunch and then thats it. i dont socalie with outsiders nd dont really contribute to much convo with the dudes unless its cracking some jokes or saying lets go pussy hunting. I have a couple of girls that I'm talking to and once I'm done with em I stop talking to em (I go to a big school so I can get away with this). And then u feel super lame like this girl thinks I'm cool but my social life isn't that awesome. But it isn't because you aint doing much or you aint good looking or nice enough. Its because you lack basic convo skills. That's what will get you female friends. That's what will get you male friends that don't play the same sport as you, and tbh those are the guys that will help you find employment. If you like money this is a good thing. This is what will make your family member like you. Its just f*cling awesome and we should all have the luxury of doing this naturally.
 

Yhaceed

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Hey,

Interesting! I guess you're better than me with conversation skills but it's also interesting what you do with yours like you said with your social life at school. I'm actually still figuring this out myself. But for me I've had many moments where the conversation seemed to flow and I don't know why that is but unfortunately it wasn't on a daily basis (just a small part of my life compared to the whole). And i guess I kind of lucked into it with about 5-10 people. Then after discovering this site it kind of helped making eye contact with people and someone else mentioned on a different site how that changed everything for him and with practice he got better and better. Another interesting thing is how health plays a role. For example when you drink coffee you become more alert and I've found if I'm drinking tea and eating right and exercising something seems to happen in my brain and I get sharper. Thoughts become clearer and conversation seems to be an easy thing but alas those moments never lasted long enough. I definitely wanna get good at this but it would be amazing if it happened in a "day" (or just a couple weeks). Just gotta start resting eating better etc. I don't know what really triggered it.

~Yhaceed
 
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