Coping with rejection after a 1 year dry spell

[SalsaChops]

Hi all, its been more than a year now since I've slept with a woman I found attractive who actually wanted to be with me for me. I feel like this dry spell is causing rejections and flakes to hurt more and more as it continues, and it seems to be killing my game with really intense feelings of neediness, frustration, and bitterness. Does anyone here on GC have any thoughts or suggestions about coping with this and mastering my state to reach true outcone independence? And before you mention escorts, I've tried that route, and they make me fell even less valuable as a man after I see them, not more. Seeing an escort, no matter how hot she is, drives my self-esteem into the dirt.

 

[Mr.Rob]

You're in a downward spiral. In my experience you have to break out of the downward spiral through shear will power.

Read books on people that have gone through extreme adversity (which when you do so you'll realize your problem is nothing in comparison) and see what they did to handle their trials/tribulations.

Break through by taking action. Get out there and just start meeting women. Do activities that make you happy and that you derive joy from. Eat good, exercise, meditate.

Best idea ever!!---------> Go give your time to someone who needs it! Do some charity work, volunteer to feed the homeless or build someone a house that's in need. Fuck, teach a homeless person how to clean a house with a brush, soapy water, and a touch of chlorine so they don't have to beg for change on the street.

Don't wallow away in the quicksand of self-pity. DO SOMETHING!

Good luck.

-Rob

 

[SalsaChops]

Hey thanks for the vote of support! Funny what a difference a day makes. I just had one of my best nights in weeks, with a kiss close and a number close. The number close is here from out of town, and I may see her tonight at the "resort" she is staying at. I've never stopped going out, just had hit low due to a failed Tinder date that went poorly when I wrote this post. Hopefully my "bounce back times will continue to improve. It used to take me much longer to recover and get back on my game.