Correcting inaction

[Teparus]

So, I'm pretty new here, haven't even done my newbie assignment. Since I've signed up, I've passed up quite attractive women who were fairly obviously interested in me. One intentionally signalling interest the other unable not to.

How the heck do I choose to act, in the moment? It's strange, I have a hard time making a move unless I'm intentionally looking to...I don't often just walk into a day to day situation and take the opportunities given to me, but that's what I really want to do.

Anyone else struggle with this and get over it? Is there some material on how to handle it already? What methods did you use to force yourself to action? How did you disincentivize inaction?

 

[Nuncle]

My advice would be to not worry about seizing opportunities to start with. Just get used to doing cold approaches by doing a load pretty much at random. Once you get comfortable with approaching women, know what to say and when and lose your fear of them that is when you will naturally become able to seize opportunities.

Personally I preferred to start in clubs rather than do the newbie assignment - its just less daunting for a beginner.

 

[Teparus]

That makes a lot of sense; build yourself up to the point where it's no big deal, then act accordingly.

 

[Mr.Rob]

You can still do the newbie assignment in clubs just change it up a bit to fit the scene correctly.

I know one day says ask 4 women how their day is going, or something like that. Errhn. Ask 4 women how their night is going. Boom baby you done it.

Yeah I do feel where you're coming from Haraklus it's like you know that girl wants you to approach her but you don't know how and your ego gives you a 1001 excuses of why you can't/shouldn't. I have to agree with what Nuncle said go do a shitload of approaches and beat back your approach anxiety to the point where opening one single girl isn't that big of a deal if you haven't planned on talking to women that day.

I've been approaching for over a year now and I still have that voice in the back of my head saying "oh well you didn't come specifically out to meet girls today so you probably shouldn't go talk to her". You just have to ignore it and go see who she is anyway. I find these are some of the best most natural approaches.

Also once you get to a certain level meeting women is so fun it becomes a reaction and you can't stop yourself from going to talk to her.

Hope this helped.
Cheers.
-Rob