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Good to be back. Also interesting to see that my baseline has changed.
Went out last weekend and did a very indirect approach. Non-existent man-to-woman frame, but she was the one who opened me, and her friend pushed both of us to trade numbers. I think that may have helped. Plus some luck.
Date was pretty straightforward. Basic touch, and focused conversation to interesting sex talk lite topics. Lot of female mentality pacing and made sure to get her buy in and qualify her on what I thought mattered.
My main criticisms here are that while discussing these, I may have pumped my value too much, and as a result got firmly boyfriend framed. There were some other interesting things, namely that the girl demonstrated some levels of inexperience, and associated sex with love a lot.
Conversation keeps flowing, and I may be waxing too philosophical haha. I go through purity gambit, submission gambit, and run my usual stack, adding some small physical escalation. I do like that I was making assessments in the moment and calibrating what I thought I needed to add as I was talking. A good sign that a lot of date basics have been internalized and I can spend more mental energy focusing on larger date strategy and analyzing what needs to be fixed. Because I didn't think far enough ahead (and probably because of some rust) I didn't realize I was slotting myself into boyfriend territory until too late. I tried to turn this around with some other frames promoting casual sex and its benefits.
I seeded the pull a couple of different ways throughout the date, so that was pretty simple. Once home, I LMR once I start trying to take off her pants. She stops me saying that she is the type of person who becomes very clingy post-sex and can tell that I'm not that kind of person. I try to assuage that a bit, but I'm not very successful. Eventually she leaves, and I can tell she's a bit disappointed, since I think she was attracted to me (as a boyfriend).
Not posting as much analysis on this one since I did the date mostly for shaking the rust. I think I did fine and it showed that I have a much higher baseline than I used to. I basically did one approach after 2 months away, and almost effortlessly got her home and making out on my bed.
Good sign of things to come.
Went out last weekend and did a very indirect approach. Non-existent man-to-woman frame, but she was the one who opened me, and her friend pushed both of us to trade numbers. I think that may have helped. Plus some luck.
Date was pretty straightforward. Basic touch, and focused conversation to interesting sex talk lite topics. Lot of female mentality pacing and made sure to get her buy in and qualify her on what I thought mattered.
My main criticisms here are that while discussing these, I may have pumped my value too much, and as a result got firmly boyfriend framed. There were some other interesting things, namely that the girl demonstrated some levels of inexperience, and associated sex with love a lot.
Conversation keeps flowing, and I may be waxing too philosophical haha. I go through purity gambit, submission gambit, and run my usual stack, adding some small physical escalation. I do like that I was making assessments in the moment and calibrating what I thought I needed to add as I was talking. A good sign that a lot of date basics have been internalized and I can spend more mental energy focusing on larger date strategy and analyzing what needs to be fixed. Because I didn't think far enough ahead (and probably because of some rust) I didn't realize I was slotting myself into boyfriend territory until too late. I tried to turn this around with some other frames promoting casual sex and its benefits.
I seeded the pull a couple of different ways throughout the date, so that was pretty simple. Once home, I LMR once I start trying to take off her pants. She stops me saying that she is the type of person who becomes very clingy post-sex and can tell that I'm not that kind of person. I try to assuage that a bit, but I'm not very successful. Eventually she leaves, and I can tell she's a bit disappointed, since I think she was attracted to me (as a boyfriend).
Not posting as much analysis on this one since I did the date mostly for shaking the rust. I think I did fine and it showed that I have a much higher baseline than I used to. I basically did one approach after 2 months away, and almost effortlessly got her home and making out on my bed.
Good sign of things to come.
