Course of action when she is holding sex over your head?

[Brentwoodbam]

I have a question regarding the psychology behind women holding sex over your head. To elaborate while still being concise, I work with an HB9+ who I F-closed about a month ago. We had a good time, and we often bring it up and laugh about it in private. Currently, she is "seeing" another guy but we still talk about potentially fucking and how when I get my new place (I currently live with parents, but end of July I will be in my own place, oh the joy) she will come spend weekends with me etc. Now, I feel like I have tried many times to logistically arrange sex (at her place unfortunately) and she continues to deny claiming that the guy she is currently seeing wouldn't want her to. But, on the other hand, when we see eachother at work I will grab her ass and she will grab mine, we'll flirt and dirty talk and discuss sex and that bullshit.

So, with that being said, is she holding the prospect of sex over my head to shift the power into her favor? I am almost 100% sure she is, but I'd like to hear feedback. Where we work, things spread quickly and most people know we hooked up so I think she is trying to re-gain frame control as I currently look like the badass to most of our co-workers for F-closing this brazilian HB9.

Thanks guys,
Brentwood

 

[Richard]

A little tough to say man, I had an x want to continue fucking even after she had another man because of the passionate feelings and the vivacity I brought to the sex. In your case, it sounds like she's keeping you as a Plan B sex guy, she gives you reminders of sexual activity to keep the idea in your head in case she needs a quick fuck and her new man isn't around. That's just my gut feeling though, Id like to hear what the veterans have to say on the matter.

 

[Brentwoodbam]

I appreciate that insight, Zphix, and I actually think you have it exactly right. With that in mind, I think my course of action will be radio silence and aloofness while keeping a powerful frame. The way I bedded this girl the first time was radio silence after she friend-zoned the AFC me and I re-initiated after a long bout of self-improvment. Aloofness FTW!

Thanks,
Brentwood

 

[Richard]

If my gut feeling is right, then I would combat here frame exactly as you plan to. By not responding to her sexual hints, or her sexual attention she'll be losing a lot of her power, to suddenly be be frozen by your lack of sexual attention back, I imagine she'll come around to her true intention which may be to fuck again, or stop playing her game.
Enjoy yourself man,
Richard

 

[Sly]

After reading your short description of the situation I do believe she is potentially interested in round 2.

It seems though she is hesitant and stand-offish to your current requests to hang out, as she feels like you are too attainable. You seem to be chasing her (not overly, but passively) and wanting to have sex with her more than she wants with you. It should be the opposite. Put yourself in her shoes. A hot Brazilian girl who has many guys in her life, with one in particular constantly flirting with her and waiting to have sex with her when he moves places. To me you seem like your average horny guy who wants some action. To her you seem desperate. You've completely flashed your entire hand. There is no intrigue in her eyes.

Flip the frame as you suggested by being aloof and stop with the sexual comments and advances and she'll be shocked. It may take some time and patience but I'd bet any money that if you do it long enough, she will be the one chasing you and begging to come christen your new bed at your new place. Keep us updated!

SLY

 

[HalfGuard]

I agree with everyone here , even if a girl already gave you sex if you start actively asking for it they feel they have power over you and lose interest in fucking with you , but the moment you stop seeking it they will be shaken up and start looking for it , so I think your plan will work I'd just be careful to not appear to be butt hurted, also my advice for when you regain the sex is to don't ask her for the sex and just passionately take it from her.
Good luck
-HG