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HellAtlantic

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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How would you handle this situation (I'm not saying whether or not I'm in this situation):

• you are friends with your female worker (40s ish and single and pretty but not drop dead gorgeous
• you've wanted to bang her for about a yr or more
• you have been in some situations where you definitely feel you could have kissed and then banged but neither happened
• you hang out with her a couple times a month for after work drinks and stay out pretty late drinking and getting high
• she has said on multiple occasions that she thinks you're good looking
• you're married (but are willing to turn a blind eye to that for this girl and have indicated to her in a roundabout way)
• you've heard from a semi reliable source that she's said she'd bang you even though you're married but the circumstances would have to be right (without knowing what the circumstances are just presume/assume drunk + high + the married guy would have to initiate I guess so she could tell herself that she's not a home wrecker)
• you're gonna hang out again this Thursday to drink and get high
• she knows you're sexually attracted to her (because you told her) and knows you really like her as a friend (because you told her)
• you do some beta stuff like doing nice things for her but since she's your friend it kinda falls under the "he does nice things for me cuz we're friends and not cuz he's an orbiter"

Assuming you get high, buzzed and have ample one on one time at the bar what would you do? The relationship is somewhere between friend zone and light sexual tension because you've both told each other how attractive you find the other person.
 
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Cro-Magnon Man
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It depends how your feel about her compared to the relationship your in with your married partner.

Personally my default is to just enjoy (and appreciate) the time you spend with other (like minded) people. If you feel like having sex would make your life better then so be it, otherwise don't bother.
 

HellAtlantic

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Normally regret would be felt if something outside the marriage was done but this is certainly a case where not hooking up with this girl is gonna be the bigger regret. Also not sure if this is an issue of being friendzoned and there's no chance or if the fact that one of the ppl is married weirds her out and makes her hesitant. Just don't get married and stay young forever, that's the moral of the story.
 
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