Hey guy’s kind of a different post, it’ll be pretty alarming to any skeptics such as me.
Anyway I recently had a job interview with this girl around my age. She’s not my usual type at all but recently i’ve been having intrusive thoughts about her.
During the interview there was light flirting and it felt less like an interview and more like a casual conversation. There was some tension brewing between us and I know for a fact she was attracted to me wanting to jump my bones.
Don’t get me wrong though I’m sort of a flirty personality and i’m always flirting atleast nonverbally. So the tension is always there with girls who are atleast a little attracted.
But like I said this girl isn’t my usual type so I wasn’t wowing over her plus we were wearing masks.
To make a long story short I’ve been having thoughts about seeing her again and seducing her etc. I’ve lost interest in other girls I talk to and in seeing other people in general.
I’ve even thought about dating her and anyone who knows me knows i’m not monogamous in the slightest.
Don’t get me wrong I absolutely think she was a cool girl but these thoughts i’m having are very irrational. I even find myself wondering if she talks to other people in which I know the obvious answer.
To be honest i’m a little concerned because I cant find the motivation to talk to new women or even respond to the ones I know.
I remember her telling me that she was into new age spirituality and i’m starting to think she might be casting spells on me (dead serious). It sounds silly but this is not how I usually operate.
Any thoughts ?
Sounds like you may be in an emotional rut, and this girl is offering you a particular kind of 'emotional support'.
One thing I have noticed is that it's extremely easy to become attached emotionally to girls who appear offering validation when we are in the dumps. We develop a sort of fixation on them as a means of validating ourselves and finding ourselves worthy, a type of 'salvation' if you will.
This is the trap of low self esteem, and the problem is that she can easily lose interest (since she doesn't usually feel the same attachment) and leave us even worse for wear.
I suggest working on understanding what is making you unhappy or lethargic and taking it out before taking your fixation on any girl seriously.
