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THE APPROACH
It’s after 7pm and I’m standing at the back of my favourite subway platform. I’ve positioned myself so people coming into the platform have to walk by me as they come down the stairs and spill out to my left and right.
Today, unfortunately, I’m struggling with my state. I’m low energy, barely coming across as dominant [despite working so so hard to pump it], and not horny at all. I’m also struggling with verbal fluency. Previous girls I’ve approached haven’t been all too interested in me. So I’m waiting for a girl to pass that arouses me…so I can enhance my sexual energy…and make myself more appealing.
I don’t have long to wait. Out of the corner of my eyes, I spot a hot brunette with a shiny black jacket and tight black jeans entering the platform. And as she walks in front of me, I notice she has an amazingly shaped ass….and I start feeling horny.
So I decide to approach.
I wait a few moments, then follow 20 feet behind her as she walks down the platform. She stops, and starts digging around in her purse, takes out her phone and stares at it. I walk up to her, plant myself in front of her, directly facing her and open:
She doesn’t pay me much attention and just stares at her phone, playing on it….but this is no issue, I’ll just talk till she does…
Finally she puts the phone down and we hold eye contact.
Ok, now she’s not bitchy anymore, but she’s still indifferent. At this moment, the train hurls into the station and cuts off our conversation.
GETTING ON THE TRAIN
I lead her onto train, and I continue talking.
I stumble through this, so she’s rolling her eyes a bit, but towards the end of the story she softens up [pretty common reaction], and gets stimulated! She’s way more gorgeous when she’s not snarling at me. Here she starts to invest a bit, asking about my friend and if she still lives at home. We quickly chat about this, then I move to qualify her using a dominant tone:
She continues to invest more, going on about how sports are a source of stress relief for her. I know where I’m headed next. I want to stimulate her here by providing a perspective...that sports is therapeutic because it makes you live in the moment [this ended up being a mistake].
TRANSFERRING TRAINS
While I’m saying this, the train is starting to slow down, and when it comes to a complete stop, she says she’s getting off. I make a split decision to get off with her, but it seems like I’m following her...and as we walk out onto the platform, I’m still talking, but I’m not holding her attention strong enough. I’m distant, not commanding and TOO philosophical.
And there’s a price to pay for this. We reach the busy escalator, and I plant myself on the right side, behind a long line of people who want to remain still while going up. I expect her to stand behind me, except she moves past me and starts walking up the escalator on the left side. I don’t follow. But when I get to the top of the escalator, I spot her walking onto the next platform, on her phone again. I walk up beside her and say:
She flashes me an actual shocked look, like I’ve completely caught her off guard. And then starts to qualify:
UNFORTUNATELY EJECTING
As this is happening, I notice the second train is already in the station with its doors open. We get on and she sits down. There’s no available seat beside her, so I stand beside her. And as I’m standing there I’m just feeling completely worn out from this interaction. I do re-engage her here briefly and she flashes me a sexually excited look but im in my head and its completely blank except for unhelpful thoughts...
...it’s way too late to get a number, I don’t feel like building to a new high point, im sick of the distractions, im too fearful to close right now...
These unhelpful thoughts get the best of me and I tell her to have a nice day, and eject.
MAIN LESSONS
1. Avoid the Bitch Shield
There were a couple reasons I got the shield. My state, pre approach and approach were off:
I started incorporating more listing into this sequence after this. Listing feelings ended up providing great reactions.
It’s after 7pm and I’m standing at the back of my favourite subway platform. I’ve positioned myself so people coming into the platform have to walk by me as they come down the stairs and spill out to my left and right.
Today, unfortunately, I’m struggling with my state. I’m low energy, barely coming across as dominant [despite working so so hard to pump it], and not horny at all. I’m also struggling with verbal fluency. Previous girls I’ve approached haven’t been all too interested in me. So I’m waiting for a girl to pass that arouses me…so I can enhance my sexual energy…and make myself more appealing.
I don’t have long to wait. Out of the corner of my eyes, I spot a hot brunette with a shiny black jacket and tight black jeans entering the platform. And as she walks in front of me, I notice she has an amazingly shaped ass….and I start feeling horny.
So I decide to approach.
I wait a few moments, then follow 20 feet behind her as she walks down the platform. She stops, and starts digging around in her purse, takes out her phone and stares at it. I walk up to her, plant myself in front of her, directly facing her and open:
She doesn’t pay me much attention and just stares at her phone, playing on it….but this is no issue, I’ll just talk till she does…
Finally she puts the phone down and we hold eye contact.
Ok, now she’s not bitchy anymore, but she’s still indifferent. At this moment, the train hurls into the station and cuts off our conversation.
GETTING ON THE TRAIN
I lead her onto train, and I continue talking.
I stumble through this, so she’s rolling her eyes a bit, but towards the end of the story she softens up [pretty common reaction], and gets stimulated! She’s way more gorgeous when she’s not snarling at me. Here she starts to invest a bit, asking about my friend and if she still lives at home. We quickly chat about this, then I move to qualify her using a dominant tone:
She continues to invest more, going on about how sports are a source of stress relief for her. I know where I’m headed next. I want to stimulate her here by providing a perspective...that sports is therapeutic because it makes you live in the moment [this ended up being a mistake].
TRANSFERRING TRAINS
While I’m saying this, the train is starting to slow down, and when it comes to a complete stop, she says she’s getting off. I make a split decision to get off with her, but it seems like I’m following her...and as we walk out onto the platform, I’m still talking, but I’m not holding her attention strong enough. I’m distant, not commanding and TOO philosophical.
And there’s a price to pay for this. We reach the busy escalator, and I plant myself on the right side, behind a long line of people who want to remain still while going up. I expect her to stand behind me, except she moves past me and starts walking up the escalator on the left side. I don’t follow. But when I get to the top of the escalator, I spot her walking onto the next platform, on her phone again. I walk up beside her and say:
FOG: I’m not done with you yet.
GIRL:[happily surprised to see me again]
FOG: what are you up to?
GIRL: im going to my boyfriends house.
FOG: I thought you lived a boring life.
She flashes me an actual shocked look, like I’ve completely caught her off guard. And then starts to qualify:
UNFORTUNATELY EJECTING
As this is happening, I notice the second train is already in the station with its doors open. We get on and she sits down. There’s no available seat beside her, so I stand beside her. And as I’m standing there I’m just feeling completely worn out from this interaction. I do re-engage her here briefly and she flashes me a sexually excited look but im in my head and its completely blank except for unhelpful thoughts...
...it’s way too late to get a number, I don’t feel like building to a new high point, im sick of the distractions, im too fearful to close right now...
These unhelpful thoughts get the best of me and I tell her to have a nice day, and eject.
MAIN LESSONS
1. Avoid the Bitch Shield
There were a couple reasons I got the shield. My state, pre approach and approach were off:
- My state had been crashing the past few days due to fapping, and despite a lot of work to get it back up through other means, I was still struggling to reach the appropriate energy I need to have successful approaches. So in general, I was dealing with a lot less receptivity from women around this time. Even though I had a shit state, I approached this girl like I was at peak state: I approached head-on, which is VERY direct and only works at peak state. Adjusting my pre-approach and approach strategy based on my current state is something I started doing after this.
- I also made a couple other mistakes like approaching her when she had low awareness radius and hadn’t seen me coming.
I started incorporating more listing into this sequence after this. Listing feelings ended up providing great reactions.
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