Lately I've been struggling with one belief that I feel I have held on to for years. And it is this belief that women aren't independent creatures.
I've been living my life believing that when a woman goes to bed with me or gets into a relationship with me that she can't think on her own. I got his thought in my head after having a messy break up last year.
I basically broke up with the girl because I honestly didn't want to be in a serious relationship. I like sex but am not all that interested in a monogamous relationship right now. So, I revealed that to her and she, along with many others including my friends and family, couldn't understand my thinking.
They all thought "Hey you've got this great girl why leave her?" never really understanding that a relationship wasn't what I wanted in the first place.
So, now a year later I've come to the realization that I don't treat women as individuals. And it forces me to overthink everything. I don't move fast because I'm a afraid a woman won't understand what I want even after I've made things clear. Then the times that I do lay with a woman I freak out because I believe she will fall in love and get attached.
Which is a very real possibility I'm assuming especially with the way CHase teaches us to seduce women. My reason for this thread is to get you guys view on my current mind state. Am I crazy? Am I overanalyzing things, am I on track here lol!
THis stuff has been plaguing me for the last year and I would really like some clarity. Also is there any tips you all have to help cultivate a mindset that I am not responsibility for a woman's thoughts about me?
I know that on some level I am especially if I'm straight out lying but I believe that me holding onto the responsibility for everything she thinks can't possibly healthy can it?
I've been living my life believing that when a woman goes to bed with me or gets into a relationship with me that she can't think on her own. I got his thought in my head after having a messy break up last year.
I basically broke up with the girl because I honestly didn't want to be in a serious relationship. I like sex but am not all that interested in a monogamous relationship right now. So, I revealed that to her and she, along with many others including my friends and family, couldn't understand my thinking.
They all thought "Hey you've got this great girl why leave her?" never really understanding that a relationship wasn't what I wanted in the first place.
So, now a year later I've come to the realization that I don't treat women as individuals. And it forces me to overthink everything. I don't move fast because I'm a afraid a woman won't understand what I want even after I've made things clear. Then the times that I do lay with a woman I freak out because I believe she will fall in love and get attached.
Which is a very real possibility I'm assuming especially with the way CHase teaches us to seduce women. My reason for this thread is to get you guys view on my current mind state. Am I crazy? Am I overanalyzing things, am I on track here lol!
THis stuff has been plaguing me for the last year and I would really like some clarity. Also is there any tips you all have to help cultivate a mindset that I am not responsibility for a woman's thoughts about me?
I know that on some level I am especially if I'm straight out lying but I believe that me holding onto the responsibility for everything she thinks can't possibly healthy can it?
