Observations Culture? Bah... (2010)

[Chase]

Originally posted in the first Girls Chase Forum on Thursday, 12 August 2010

Just spent the past two weeks in South Korea, a country where the two guys I knew best there -- including them a guy I respect and know has slept with a lot of beautiful girls there -- ground it into my head again and again the last time I was there, and this time as well, that Korean women are reserved, super shy, and recoil at overly aggressive men.

The last time I was there, I had two girls trying to go home with me the first night. I didn't move fast enough and lost the lay; lesson learned. My last night out I had a gorgeous girl in a tight leather corset with her boobs popping out the top all over me; she'd been introduced to me by a guy who was hoping to get with her, so out of respect to him I ignored her and tossed her back to him. He ended up losing her later, to my chagrin.

This time, I had a date with a really cute girl I liked a lot whom I'd met on the bus the last time I was there. Seemed like a very nice, quiet, conservative girl. Things went SUPER well -- she told me about how she'd told all her friend at work about our date tonight, she bought me dinner, she proposed us meeting up again before I left, she bought me tea after, she showed me how to exchange my used metro cards, and then she drove me home. On the way back, she seeded for logistics -- I was a little surprised, since I'd been primed once again by my buddies to expect that Korean women were super conservative, especially professional women like her who seemed quiet and responsible. I made a half-assed attempt to get her up to my room, but could've done much better, and definitely would've succeeded. I kicked myself when I got upstairs for not pushing for it more, and I never saw her again or heard from her again. Escalation window missed with a girl I actually kinda liked and kept in touch with for 3 years and now she's disappeared... all because I didn't close the deal when I should have. Goddamn rookie mistake.

Didn’t game much in Korea because I haven’t been in the mood recently, but went out with my buddy and another friend of his on my last Saturday there. My pal told me how the women in this club were upscale and it was a really tough venue and all that jazz. Once again… probably the third girl I talked to, all over me. Telling me I looked like a TV star, was very handsome, very cute, holding hands with me, interlocking fingers, I had her up against my body grinding her pussy on my thigh on the dance floor almost immediately… really cute girl, too, with nice tits for an Asian girl (and felt really nice when they were pressed up against me). Tried to get her out of there but her friends were too fast for me, and eventually they dragged her off to the bathroom. She was a little drunk, but the next girl I talked to was stone sober and I did almost all the same exact physical stuff with, and it flew just as well. She dug it.

We left, and I said those girls aren’t reserved, they’re very compliant and nice. My buddy couldn’t explain it and said he thought it was just a really good night there or something.

My friends there are good guys, successful with women, and certainly know their shit, but I think I’m done listening to talk about how some women don’t like being touched, or this culture or that culture is really conservative and doesn’t hop in the sack fast. Not from what I’ve seen. From now on, I’m just going to keep gaming girls the way I gamed them in America. Seems to work fine.

Chase

 

[MonsieurLabrie]

I've been sleeping with this Korean girl for a year now.

What I learned about South Korean dating cultures:

• - South Korean women LOVE white men, but are more careful around Americans, especially military-type American guys, because of the rape stories of the past.
  - The women have a lot of contempt for the English teachers. They are considered losers.
  - They don't like black guys, latinos and Middle Eastern guys as much (sorry...) because the society is kinda racist. If you are, don't try to date a Korean girl. They will probably be ok with sleeping with you in secret though.
  - Korean men are the worst AFCs in the world. Hot Korean girls are everywhere, so this is probably not a hard place to get laid if you disregard that "Korean girls are too conservative" BS.
  - Korean college students have wild parties and lots of sex when abroad, but have to stay home and study hard when they're under their parents' supervision.

So basically, it's hard to have a Korean girlfriend, but I don't see how it could be hard to sleep with a lot of them. If you're a successful slick looking foreign guy, it should be easy.

 

[Chase]

M. Labrie, great to see you on the boards! Interesting insights here... I've seen a few of these too, although you've clearly got a better handle on Korean dating culture than I have:

- The women have a lot of contempt for the English teachers. They are considered losers.

Yes, this is so in most parts of the developed parts of Asia, from what I've seen. If you're an English teacher, you probably want to either get a new job, or pick up a hobby that pays you something that you can tell women you do instead.

Korean men are the worst AFCs in the world.

Some of their behavior is stunning. I haven't had any of them try it with me, but I've watched more "friendly-looking" friends of mine in Korea have Korean men try to "intervene" in their street or bar approaches. e.g., a friend street stopped a girl in a mall in Seoul, and out of nowhere this local guy walking with his girlfriend STOPS, TURNS, and walks over to my pal and this girl and asks, "Can I help you? Are you trying to find something?" my friend brushes him off, but the guy sticks around and keeps being annoying until the girl, uncomfortable, leaves.

I've had to run interference for other friends when these guys interrupted... they'll actually go up to girls talking to foreigners and whisper things like, "You're trash," in her ears in Korean. Pretty remarkable.

Korean college students have wild parties and lots of sex when abroad, but have to stay home and study hard when they're under their parents' supervision.

I've seen this too. It's like taking the cap off a soda bottle that's been shaken a bit too much... all that repressed sexual energy just explodes out the top. Korean girls are certainly some of the crazier ones, at least outside of Korea.

So basically, it's hard to have a Korean girlfriend, but I don't see how it could be hard to sleep with a lot of them. If you're a successful slick looking foreign guy, it should be easy.

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Fascinating cultural perspectives. Thanks for sharing, M.

Chase