Cute girl doesn't text back...how to get her to reply?

[killerman]

ok so I approached this really cute Polish chick the other day. She was clearly flattered to have me approach her in the way I did, and she gave me her number. Sent her the initial text to which she said that she was pleasantly surprised with meeting me. 2 days later I text her but she still hasn't replied. I know she could be busy but let's say that she has seen my text but still hasn't replied, what do I text her so that I can reingage her? I know you have to come across as non needy, positive, upbeat and assume she's been busy but the thing is i dont know what to send her! how does this sound: "hey ****, just finished teaching for the day, and now cooking a delicious spicy curry, what's new with you? hope your job is not burning you out too much "

might be a pretty lame ass text, maybe it's good, i don't know. what do you guys think?

 

[Bboy100]

Whether or not a girl texts you back is determined by IRL interaction with her, not by your texts. You could send the most well crafted text ever, but if she didn't like you enough in person, she won't text you back. The opposite is also true. If she liked you a lot, you could send a pretty generic/boring text, and she'll probably be excited to chat with you. It's an 80/20 thing. (80% IRL interaction, 20% text game).

Based on what you wrote, it sounds like she probably went into auto-rejection, or otherwise lost interest in you cause you waited too long to text her. To avoid this, I like to text girls with a pre-decided purpose. That means that you'll ask her to hang out with you when you meet her in person. And you'll make plans to do a specific thing (ex. specifically ask her to get coffee with you or to grab a beer). That way when you text her, there's good context and you'll have to do nothing other than just plan out the date.

 

[killerman]

I don't think I waited too long to text her as I did what Chase said you should do ie send off the initial text 3-5 hours after first meeting her. dont text her the next day then text her the day after. do you think that's waiting too long or do you think my results would be better if i'd sent the follow up text the day after i sent the initial text?

 

[Zaxxon23]

As long as you followed the rules in the 20 ways to text women article, then it's pretty much time to next her. I usually try three times (assuming I like the girl enough), and if she wants to stay flakey then no big deal there's another girl right around the corner.

Sucks I know but that's women for ya. If you really like her, perhaps you'll want to take the step of actually calling her as detailed in the call rather than text article.

Another poster in another thread stated the only way to keep women from flaking is to sleep with them in your first interaction (and even then they might still be flakey lol). Honestly, I couldn't agree more nowadays and it's really reshaped my mental model. Once you get 100s of flakey numbers you lift the wool from your eyes and start to really push things on the first meet, and stop much giving a darn about getting numbers anymore.

On another note bboy100 is spot on. Don't text for the sake of texting. Text with purpose. You're a sexy and busy man who doesn't have time to waste with frivolous texting. If she wants to play that bullshit you'll just spend your limited free time finding another girl who wants to be with you in person. The only way to build rapport with you in the right way is in person, not over text.