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Hey, everyone!
I am putting this in the beginners board because I can't consider it a field report...it's kind of pathetic actually
And realistically, I'm a beginner although I'm 30...i'm getting back in the game after failed 10+ year relationship and out of my stupid little bubble in which i was living for far too long....anyway...on to the story....
So, in the last couple of months,after work I enjoy going solo to this little caffe (which is in another part of town from my apartment) after work, sit on a terrace , drink coffee and put my earphones on, smoke some cigarettes, just chill, observe people(body language, stupid shit they talk about, etc. or just read something.
Last week a new waitress comes...she's in her 20's, not classic hottie, but she has that little cute attractive something I like...smile, hair(big thing for me, overall cuteness and happiness about her.
Since I've been reading Girls chase and about social dynamics and stuff I said to myself:"Time to stop reading and start acting...Go say anything and get her name at least!!"
The owner of the caffe was also there so I knew she would probably be nervous talking around him, so I waited for the right moment when he gets up and starts walking around(like in the Xbox games like Splinter cell where you have to time your every move or you're screwed...i went in to pay for coffee...as i entered our eyes met and she smiled immediately...I asked her if she is the new waitress...she said yes but only for the weekend...i introduced myself..
she had wet hands from washing cups and glasses and she quickly started looking for a towel to dry them so she could shake my hand...I interuppted and said it does not matter and extended my hand(her hands were really wet....she looked in my eyes, said her name and looked down behind the counter shyly while I was counting money to pay for coffee...I said see you and bye...it seems like a small step but it was a really big one for me!
Went there again two days later as I knew she will be there...there were a lot of guests in the coffe shop so I just commented "busy day, ha?" as she came to take my order....she brings me my drink, puts it on the table and proceeds to put the bill on the table and I notice it is wet from her hands(and I think to myself...interesting ...so I immediately tease her about it to remind her that she also had wet hands when I introduced myself to her...she makes the cutest embarrased smile and turns away
I had a 600 page work related documentation with me which I have to learn for the exam I want to take...i was reading it while drinking coffee and smoking and listening to music on my headphones...she came couple of times to change the ashtray for a clean one(Yes, I sometimes smoke way too much...but I overdid it on purpose this time...second time she came I took the earphones out of my ears as if to speak to her and she immediately asked me what I was learning(very interested like)...and I explained to her that I was learning to get certificate and to be able to get a better payed job etc...she seemed very interested and she said that it was very cool that I was learning and stuff ...and we chatted for a couple of minutes
I decided to ask her for the number...I was really nervous but i decided that I'm gonna do it no matter what happens....I thought of a cool "excuse" that I would use so it didnt sound just like plain "give me your number"....I wanted to say something in the sense "give me your number so i take you for a drink and celebrate when i pass the exam and get my certificate"....I call her over to pay the bill, ask her if tommorow(Sunday) will be her last day working here(answer : "no ...I will be here next weekend also"... and just as I want to ask her for the number and start pulling my mobile out of the pocket, some girl comes in the coffee shop says hi and the waitress turns around and tends to the girl that just came in...I couldn't believe it...I pulled all of my courage to ask for the number just to be cockblocked by some girl and her coffee I said see you and left!
So...that was my little story....I wanted to go there on sunday(today) also but I didnt want to seem to eager to come there every afternoon and then ask for the number...it would look as if im there just for her and to get the number(me chasing?)...so i decided to wait for the next friday and weekend to ask her for the number and work on my eye contact, voice, posture and fundamentals in the meantime ...get my inner game more solid and try to relax more and stuff like that!
Even though I would like to get her number and see her outside her work, I dont feel the preassure of possible failure and rejection(I kind of like the buzz of adrenaline that kicks in just as i go in to say something....I see it more as a game and exercise for my own self development!
So ...what do you guys think? Any advice?
I was also thinking of writing my number on paper and giving it to her but asking for it seems more bold and "manly"....I'm also thinking of how to handle possible rejection, or false "I have a boyfriend" line...to say something witty and fun to light the possible tension she might feel at that moment!
...this ended up much longer then I expected it to be
I am putting this in the beginners board because I can't consider it a field report...it's kind of pathetic actually
And realistically, I'm a beginner although I'm 30...i'm getting back in the game after failed 10+ year relationship and out of my stupid little bubble in which i was living for far too long....anyway...on to the story....
So, in the last couple of months,after work I enjoy going solo to this little caffe (which is in another part of town from my apartment) after work, sit on a terrace , drink coffee and put my earphones on, smoke some cigarettes, just chill, observe people(body language, stupid shit they talk about, etc.
or just read something.Last week a new waitress comes...she's in her 20's, not classic hottie, but she has that little cute attractive something I like...smile, hair(big thing for me
, overall cuteness and happiness about her.Since I've been reading Girls chase and about social dynamics and stuff I said to myself:"Time to stop reading and start acting...Go say anything and get her name at least!!"
The owner of the caffe was also there so I knew she would probably be nervous talking around him, so I waited for the right moment when he gets up and starts walking around(like in the Xbox games like Splinter cell where you have to time your every move or you're screwed
...i went in to pay for coffee...as i entered our eyes met and she smiled immediately...I asked her if she is the new waitress...she said yes but only for the weekend...i introduced myself..she had wet hands from washing cups and glasses and she quickly started looking for a towel to dry them so she could shake my hand...I interuppted and said it does not matter and extended my hand(her hands were really wet
....she looked in my eyes, said her name and looked down behind the counter shyly while I was counting money to pay for coffee...I said see you and bye...it seems like a small step but it was a really big one for me!Went there again two days later as I knew she will be there...there were a lot of guests in the coffe shop so I just commented "busy day, ha?" as she came to take my order....she brings me my drink, puts it on the table and proceeds to put the bill on the table and I notice it is wet from her hands(and I think to myself...interesting
...so I immediately tease her about it to remind her that she also had wet hands when I introduced myself to her...she makes the cutest embarrased smile and turns away I had a 600 page work related documentation with me which I have to learn for the exam I want to take...i was reading it while drinking coffee and smoking and listening to music on my headphones...she came couple of times to change the ashtray for a clean one(Yes, I sometimes smoke way too much...but I overdid it on purpose this time
...second time she came I took the earphones out of my ears as if to speak to her and she immediately asked me what I was learning(very interested like)...and I explained to her that I was learning to get certificate and to be able to get a better payed job etc...she seemed very interested and she said that it was very cool that I was learning and stuff ...and we chatted for a couple of minutesI decided to ask her for the number...I was really nervous but i decided that I'm gonna do it no matter what happens....I thought of a cool "excuse" that I would use so it didnt sound just like plain "give me your number"....I wanted to say something in the sense "give me your number so i take you for a drink and celebrate when i pass the exam and get my certificate"....I call her over to pay the bill, ask her if tommorow(Sunday) will be her last day working here(answer : "no ...I will be here next weekend also"
... and just as I want to ask her for the number and start pulling my mobile out of the pocket, some girl comes in the coffee shop says hi and the waitress turns around and tends to the girl that just came in...I couldn't believe it...I pulled all of my courage to ask for the number just to be cockblocked by some girl and her coffee I said see you and left!So...that was my little story....I wanted to go there on sunday(today) also but I didnt want to seem to eager to come there every afternoon and then ask for the number...it would look as if im there just for her and to get the number(me chasing?)...so i decided to wait for the next friday and weekend to ask her for the number and work on my eye contact, voice, posture and fundamentals in the meantime ...get my inner game more solid and try to relax more and stuff like that!
Even though I would like to get her number and see her outside her work, I dont feel the preassure of possible failure and rejection(I kind of like the buzz of adrenaline that kicks in just as i go in to say something
....I see it more as a game and exercise for my own self development!So ...what do you guys think? Any advice?
I was also thinking of writing my number on paper and giving it to her but asking for it seems more bold and "manly"....I'm also thinking of how to handle possible rejection, or false "I have a boyfriend" line...to say something witty and fun to light the possible tension she might feel at that moment!
...this ended up much longer then I expected it to be
