Cynicism and rough times have killed my game, how to bring it back. Need to!

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I am in a tough spot guys. On one hand, I am in a world class city that is considered one of the best for game (NYC) but in the past few months, maybe even the past year my hunger and killer instinct for game died and I cannot bring it back and it sucks.

It sucks because when I was in a shittier city (Atlanta) where people were hyper-cliquish and cold approaching/night game were largely ineffective, I was actually going out even alone on some weekends doing approaches. Had no luck although did get laid through online dating.

Somehow my mind got more obsessed with status, being a bartender, and all of that other social stuff than the actual game to where it was still stuck on it.

Now I am in a world class city meant to be a young man's paradise and my mind is somehow stuck in this cynical stage. Like getting laid is something I would like but not the only thing I want out of game, I want the night life flash and the cool guy status instead of just the sex and I know it is costing me.

But my mindset after all the rejections and what has happened in the past few years has taken that approach machine mindset out of me and I am trying to bring it back....

What do I do?

 

[DarkKnight]

Work hard on your fundamentals
Look for approach invitations (if you want to get your confidence up this is better than just cold approach)
Escalate as much as you can
Analyze what went wrong or right

You are deliberating way too much. I'm willing to bet you're not working at your fundamentals properly.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Toby dude! I agree with DarkKnight, work hard on ya fundamentals and look fits AIs to help build ya confidence. If ya not getting many AIs or ya not noticing them assume attraction an approach.

A have read a lot of ya recent posts an ya are obsessed with status an definitely being a bartender. What ya want to achieve is up to yaself, if ya want status an social circle work on it, if ya wanna improve with girls work on it. Work on both at the same time if ya want success in both. One will help the other to grow anyway dude!

I can't shift ya mindset, ya focus, drive or paradigm. Only you can do that.

The first step of being an approach machine is wanting it. If ya have approach anxiety or lack of desire start with smaller goals. A just wanna introduce myself, I just want her number, I just want a date. Change ya comfort zone an look to grow dude!

Rejections mean nothing, it saves ya wasting time on a dead end. The shit that has happened has happened. Ya are where ya are for better or worse. Gotta go with it, keep striving for what ya want dude!

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Dude please don't say ya....