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Greetings, friends!
Firstly, I hope the US readers enjoyed a happy Thanksgiving with their loved ones, and the rest of world had a great weekend just the same.
On to the report, I went out last night to a dance bar (I'm not sure what the official name is for spots like these where the interior looks like a conventional bar, but there is a DJ playing loud music and has wide open space to dance... like a club without the pretense) in my continued effort to really master the game.
Since my adventure a couple weeks ago (https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=8657), I've been so jazzed up by the prospect of moving faster and having sex (or at the very least making out) the night I meet new a woman that when it doesn't happen, it really takes the wind out of my sails. I liken it to a dog that gets a taste of human food... once they have it, its hard to go back wet kibble. It also didn't help that my two of my buddies that I came out with were intensely tongue wrestling all night with their beautiful ladies, though it should be noted they've all met each other a week ago and had plenty of time to establish rapport in between.
Regardless, I used to dance quite a lot in my younger days and I'm not ashamed to say I'm good at it too. I have no trouble getting compliments, forming circles between cheering crowds and having women come up and dance with me. However, I only every really learned how to dance in clubs for the attention/social proof... I've never been able to leverage this ability to getting women to take a romantic interest in me, especially in the context of the "Move Faster" doctrine. In recent years, I care much less about dancing and clubbing than I do about using my conversational skills to engage women and I try to put myself in environments where that sort of communication is the most feasible, but I'm finding that's the exception and not rule, as most of my fun friends with strong game prefer the loud bar and club scene and adaptability is critical toward success in anything, especially in the pursuit of women.
Case in point, a fun bunch of cute girls caught me doing my thing and practically sprung on me out of nowhere and took turns dancing with me practically the whole night, but any attempt to engage in some level of "conversation" (ie: yelling over the music) with each girl was rebuffed with nonsense, joke-fueled banter with most of them just interested in dancing with their friends, and one in particular was VERY interested in staring at my buddy lip locking with his girl than what I was doing or saying to her. The only one I had some semblance of a "connection" with supplemented with very mild kino took a LONG time saying goodbye when they all were leaving the bar at closing, and while I'm fairly sure sure wanted me to ask for her number, I wasn't sure how to follow up with that in a way that would have went somewhere meaningful at a later date (read: in bed with me) considering that our only claim to kismet was having more than 2 consecutive minutes of exchanging humorous nonsense as opposed to the 30 seconds compared to her friends.
The above is a familiar conclusion to a familiar story in my dating life and one of the main reasons I haven't been so keen on loud bar/club pickup. It's no secret that I'm thick as bricks when it comes down to reading situations and intentions. Might the seasoned Lotharios among you offer any suggestions on what I might have said and/or done differently in that environment to improve the quality of my results? If I have gotten that girls number, how would one parlay that ridiculous interaction into something good, if at all?
Thanks in advance for reading!
Firstly, I hope the US readers enjoyed a happy Thanksgiving with their loved ones, and the rest of world had a great weekend just the same.
On to the report, I went out last night to a dance bar (I'm not sure what the official name is for spots like these where the interior looks like a conventional bar, but there is a DJ playing loud music and has wide open space to dance... like a club without the pretense) in my continued effort to really master the game.
Since my adventure a couple weeks ago (https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=8657), I've been so jazzed up by the prospect of moving faster and having sex (or at the very least making out) the night I meet new a woman that when it doesn't happen, it really takes the wind out of my sails. I liken it to a dog that gets a taste of human food... once they have it, its hard to go back wet kibble. It also didn't help that my two of my buddies that I came out with were intensely tongue wrestling all night with their beautiful ladies, though it should be noted they've all met each other a week ago and had plenty of time to establish rapport in between.
Regardless, I used to dance quite a lot in my younger days and I'm not ashamed to say I'm good at it too. I have no trouble getting compliments, forming circles between cheering crowds and having women come up and dance with me. However, I only every really learned how to dance in clubs for the attention/social proof... I've never been able to leverage this ability to getting women to take a romantic interest in me, especially in the context of the "Move Faster" doctrine. In recent years, I care much less about dancing and clubbing than I do about using my conversational skills to engage women and I try to put myself in environments where that sort of communication is the most feasible, but I'm finding that's the exception and not rule, as most of my fun friends with strong game prefer the loud bar and club scene and adaptability is critical toward success in anything, especially in the pursuit of women.
Case in point, a fun bunch of cute girls caught me doing my thing and practically sprung on me out of nowhere and took turns dancing with me practically the whole night, but any attempt to engage in some level of "conversation" (ie: yelling over the music) with each girl was rebuffed with nonsense, joke-fueled banter with most of them just interested in dancing with their friends, and one in particular was VERY interested in staring at my buddy lip locking with his girl than what I was doing or saying to her. The only one I had some semblance of a "connection" with supplemented with very mild kino took a LONG time saying goodbye when they all were leaving the bar at closing, and while I'm fairly sure sure wanted me to ask for her number, I wasn't sure how to follow up with that in a way that would have went somewhere meaningful at a later date (read: in bed with me) considering that our only claim to kismet was having more than 2 consecutive minutes of exchanging humorous nonsense as opposed to the 30 seconds compared to her friends.
The above is a familiar conclusion to a familiar story in my dating life and one of the main reasons I haven't been so keen on loud bar/club pickup. It's no secret that I'm thick as bricks when it comes down to reading situations and intentions. Might the seasoned Lotharios among you offer any suggestions on what I might have said and/or done differently in that environment to improve the quality of my results? If I have gotten that girls number, how would one parlay that ridiculous interaction into something good, if at all?
Thanks in advance for reading!
