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In my previous post,I wrote about how I met this Girl Jessica in My Hostel And I had asked her Out To Eat.We scheduled To have the date on Saturday
25/10/25 SATURDAY
At around 8 PM,I dress up in my black Full Sleeve Shirt,Blue Jeans,And Black Cotton Shoes.I put some Almond oil on my hair(It makes me face look Hotter).I call her And tell her"Hey Jessica,I am waiting downstairs." 5 Minutes Later,She came over Dressed in a cute white top,And Some Kind of Green Pants,She had her makeup on.I said "Hi,That Top looks pretty cute"I touch her shoulders while Saying It.I tell her,"Turn Around,I want to see what is written on that T shirt".She was kinda hesitant/Nervous as a lot of her Coursemates(Especially Some Guys who were Creepy to her) were present.(I didnt know this at that time).I persisted and She eventually Turned towards me and I read her T shirt.It was Just a way of getting Some Initial Compliance from her.
Then We walked over to a local fish Spot Nearby.We talked a lot.I think there is a lot that we talked-I wish I had recorded it..We talked about her college Stuff,College Life.Before going in,She told There is This Girl Called Abby,Her Coursemate,Who Apparently Saw me in the student hostel cooking,And She wanted to cook with me.But,I simply wanted to focus on this Girl Jessica,So I told her,I like to cook Alone.
We Sat in the Restaurant.I guided her about the special items(Since I am Local to the city).I told her,You need to try this special meal you'll love it.We Sat Down and begun to talk.She told me"Man,We need to talk something fresh.I am tired of talking about college.Thats when She begun to talk about guys,sex,relationships,her friends and her personal trumas.She began to talk about guys in her college that she wants to date but are very low class and arrogant and backward.She told me that She cried to Her friend Abby that morning,Because She wasnt able to get a boyfriend.And then she told me that Her friend Abby told me That I look cute because of how Calm I am.And then She showed me a pic of Abby.I guess Abby Likes me a lot.This Girl Jessica is very dysfuntional-She shares too much information too soon in a disorganized manner.Anyway,I didnt know How to Respond,I just nodded my head and acted empathetic towards her.Another Thing is,I am only 20,She must be around 26.She is doing her Mba but she has failed a year and has to repeat her subjects.I didnt know what to say to her when she told me,that guy over walking in the street looks so hot.I just didnt know what to say to that..I was fucking tired and didnt know How to respond to her telling stories of her ex-boyfriends,Guys in her class interested in her,And All That SHIT.I just tried to sound smooth.I kinda summarized whatever she told me and I repeated it with some sort of understanding comment.For Ex-She told me Guys that were her friends would try to sleep with her after she wears Crop Tops.I just said"That must have been creepy for you"But,I think SHE was bullshitting me.She is not that Hot/Sexy.She isnt even Properly Cute.She is a chubby girl,Looks A bit Cute at most.
In middle of her eating,I just went to wash my hands and paid for the date.I shouldnt have paid.She was even willing to pay.But,I wanted to be smooth and not make paying any big deal.I told her that next time we go out,You Pay.She told me"Hey,Lets click a picture."I take a selfie,I put my arms around her shoulders and take a selfie.She smiled and said"This is just like my friend Justine.He always used to touch me and treat me like a princess,always protective.Your just like Him"It seemed so crazy to me.Why is this Girl Talking About all the guys she has been with?.She also has a lot of experiences with guys-She goes on solo trips a lot,And She goes on solo trips with Guy Friends.It would be red flag is I were looking for a LTR.But,I am just looking for new experiences.Anyway,We went beyond my time limit for my date plan.I thought that the date would end at 9:00 Pm and We would be would walk to a different bakery near the hostel and end the date
.When we Reached the Bakery At 9:15 PM,And then she told me,"Lets go somewhere else,This bakery is not that cool I want to eat More".I wanted to be open minded and flexible,So I said,Sure,Let us just walk along and find something else.I guess that she felt that Bakery wasnt very romantic or cute.On the way from the fish spot to the bakery,A lot of her coursemates saw her(All her course mates live in the area).She told me people think That We are going on a date.(Her Guy friend was calling her persistently and asking whether we are on a date).She was kinda laughing about it.I didnt want to say that we are on a date.It would kill all the spontenity and ambiguity.So,I just said"It would appear so".And I moved the conversation to another topic.
By this Time I was fucking dead on the inside.All this while I could keep up my energy and good spirits,But After hearing her talk endlessly/truma dump for around 1 hour,I was dragging my feet while walking.Somehow I kept my energy up and kept walking and talking lightly.I didnt know how to handle her truama dumping,her talks about sex,her talks about ex boyfriends,Her talks about hot guys..She shared a crazy story where the guy she was talking to demanded her to have sex with him because he has mental illness.Somehow I handled it by showing curioisty and open minddness.I told her I am not judgemental and I tried to show myself as a liberal,non judgemental guy
.Anyway,We eventually walked for around 15 More Minutes and found a cute noodles spot.I told her that I was full,But i'll just eat a little to keep her company.Chubby girls eat a LOT.I prefer Girls who are in Shape and who maintain their shape through healthy lifestyle and discipline.Anyway,She kept pestering me to eat from her noodles so we eat it.And we drank milkshake from the same Straw(Well I Have to Kiss her eventually).I was facing some REAL TROUBLE in the Noodle place.I was completely Out of Battery.Even She sensed it.She told me,"Cmon Be more energetic,We are hanging out only once,You can sleep some other time,Live in the moment,Dont try to be perfect,Be who you are,blah blah blah".I told her I had A long day and I woke up at 5 am and had to work a lot.She bought that excuse.We click another selfie.
She keeps talking about guys,sex,about guys pursueing her a lot and Hot guys.I guess she was trying to frame herself as a pursued..She definitely does hook up with lots of mid guys.But,She isnt hot or sexy or pretty.Anyway,Even though my battery is at 0%,I still tease her,joke around,etc.At around 10:30 pm,1hour 30 minutes more time than the original plan to end the date at 9:15 Pm,We began walking back to the Hostel.
She told me Abby and her are going to a Pasta Spot later next week,And I can join her.I said Yes.And When we reached our Hostel,She told me Abby was sitting in the reception and SHE WIll introduce me to her.I was fucking Beyond tired,I told her I usually dont like meeting new people and I like to focus on existing friends and somehow touched her Shoulders and and said goodbye with a smile.
I am pretty happy because I acheived my Tiny goal that I had set for myself last week-To Take a Girl Out on A date and Break the touch Barrier.I was successfull in doing so and I Feel Pretty Proud of myself(Even though the girl is chubby and somewhat mentally dysfuntional) For taking this new step with girls.
Here is what Was Lacking in my Game-
-Sex Talk-Even Before She Had Framed Herself as a Girl who gets pursued by lots of guys,I could have framed myself as a sexually liberal and sexually knowledgable Guy.
-I could have Handled her Trauma Dumping better-Maybe steer the conversation somewhere else)
-Logistics and Planning(I could have made more realistic plan regarding how much time each location will take and what kinds of spots or actviity are cute and give romantic sexy vibes)
Here is my Key question-Why would Jessica Tell me about Abby?Does she want to set me up with her?
Abby is prettier than Jessica but still She is pretty chubby too..
I guess the next Tiny step I need to learn to take with girls is talk about sex,relationships and set positive frames around them,While on a date.
25/10/25 SATURDAY
At around 8 PM,I dress up in my black Full Sleeve Shirt,Blue Jeans,And Black Cotton Shoes.I put some Almond oil on my hair(It makes me face look Hotter).I call her And tell her"Hey Jessica,I am waiting downstairs." 5 Minutes Later,She came over Dressed in a cute white top,And Some Kind of Green Pants,She had her makeup on.I said "Hi,That Top looks pretty cute"I touch her shoulders while Saying It.I tell her,"Turn Around,I want to see what is written on that T shirt".She was kinda hesitant/Nervous as a lot of her Coursemates(Especially Some Guys who were Creepy to her) were present.(I didnt know this at that time).I persisted and She eventually Turned towards me and I read her T shirt.It was Just a way of getting Some Initial Compliance from her.
Then We walked over to a local fish Spot Nearby.We talked a lot.I think there is a lot that we talked-I wish I had recorded it..We talked about her college Stuff,College Life.Before going in,She told There is This Girl Called Abby,Her Coursemate,Who Apparently Saw me in the student hostel cooking,And She wanted to cook with me.But,I simply wanted to focus on this Girl Jessica,So I told her,I like to cook Alone.
We Sat in the Restaurant.I guided her about the special items(Since I am Local to the city).I told her,You need to try this special meal you'll love it.We Sat Down and begun to talk.She told me"Man,We need to talk something fresh.I am tired of talking about college.Thats when She begun to talk about guys,sex,relationships,her friends and her personal trumas.She began to talk about guys in her college that she wants to date but are very low class and arrogant and backward.She told me that She cried to Her friend Abby that morning,Because She wasnt able to get a boyfriend.And then she told me that Her friend Abby told me That I look cute because of how Calm I am.And then She showed me a pic of Abby.I guess Abby Likes me a lot.This Girl Jessica is very dysfuntional-She shares too much information too soon in a disorganized manner.Anyway,I didnt know How to Respond,I just nodded my head and acted empathetic towards her.Another Thing is,I am only 20,She must be around 26.She is doing her Mba but she has failed a year and has to repeat her subjects.I didnt know what to say to her when she told me,that guy over walking in the street looks so hot.I just didnt know what to say to that..I was fucking tired and didnt know How to respond to her telling stories of her ex-boyfriends,Guys in her class interested in her,And All That SHIT.I just tried to sound smooth.I kinda summarized whatever she told me and I repeated it with some sort of understanding comment.For Ex-She told me Guys that were her friends would try to sleep with her after she wears Crop Tops.I just said"That must have been creepy for you"But,I think SHE was bullshitting me.She is not that Hot/Sexy.She isnt even Properly Cute.She is a chubby girl,Looks A bit Cute at most.
In middle of her eating,I just went to wash my hands and paid for the date.I shouldnt have paid.She was even willing to pay.But,I wanted to be smooth and not make paying any big deal.I told her that next time we go out,You Pay.She told me"Hey,Lets click a picture."I take a selfie,I put my arms around her shoulders and take a selfie.She smiled and said"This is just like my friend Justine.He always used to touch me and treat me like a princess,always protective.Your just like Him"It seemed so crazy to me.Why is this Girl Talking About all the guys she has been with?.She also has a lot of experiences with guys-She goes on solo trips a lot,And She goes on solo trips with Guy Friends.It would be red flag is I were looking for a LTR.But,I am just looking for new experiences.Anyway,We went beyond my time limit for my date plan.I thought that the date would end at 9:00 Pm and We would be would walk to a different bakery near the hostel and end the date
.When we Reached the Bakery At 9:15 PM,And then she told me,"Lets go somewhere else,This bakery is not that cool I want to eat More".I wanted to be open minded and flexible,So I said,Sure,Let us just walk along and find something else.I guess that she felt that Bakery wasnt very romantic or cute.On the way from the fish spot to the bakery,A lot of her coursemates saw her(All her course mates live in the area).She told me people think That We are going on a date.(Her Guy friend was calling her persistently and asking whether we are on a date).She was kinda laughing about it.I didnt want to say that we are on a date.It would kill all the spontenity and ambiguity.So,I just said"It would appear so".And I moved the conversation to another topic.
By this Time I was fucking dead on the inside.All this while I could keep up my energy and good spirits,But After hearing her talk endlessly/truma dump for around 1 hour,I was dragging my feet while walking.Somehow I kept my energy up and kept walking and talking lightly.I didnt know how to handle her truama dumping,her talks about sex,her talks about ex boyfriends,Her talks about hot guys..She shared a crazy story where the guy she was talking to demanded her to have sex with him because he has mental illness.Somehow I handled it by showing curioisty and open minddness.I told her I am not judgemental and I tried to show myself as a liberal,non judgemental guy
.Anyway,We eventually walked for around 15 More Minutes and found a cute noodles spot.I told her that I was full,But i'll just eat a little to keep her company.Chubby girls eat a LOT.I prefer Girls who are in Shape and who maintain their shape through healthy lifestyle and discipline.Anyway,She kept pestering me to eat from her noodles so we eat it.And we drank milkshake from the same Straw(Well I Have to Kiss her eventually).I was facing some REAL TROUBLE in the Noodle place.I was completely Out of Battery.Even She sensed it.She told me,"Cmon Be more energetic,We are hanging out only once,You can sleep some other time,Live in the moment,Dont try to be perfect,Be who you are,blah blah blah".I told her I had A long day and I woke up at 5 am and had to work a lot.She bought that excuse.We click another selfie.
She keeps talking about guys,sex,about guys pursueing her a lot and Hot guys.I guess she was trying to frame herself as a pursued..She definitely does hook up with lots of mid guys.But,She isnt hot or sexy or pretty.Anyway,Even though my battery is at 0%,I still tease her,joke around,etc.At around 10:30 pm,1hour 30 minutes more time than the original plan to end the date at 9:15 Pm,We began walking back to the Hostel.
She told me Abby and her are going to a Pasta Spot later next week,And I can join her.I said Yes.And When we reached our Hostel,She told me Abby was sitting in the reception and SHE WIll introduce me to her.I was fucking Beyond tired,I told her I usually dont like meeting new people and I like to focus on existing friends and somehow touched her Shoulders and and said goodbye with a smile.
I am pretty happy because I acheived my Tiny goal that I had set for myself last week-To Take a Girl Out on A date and Break the touch Barrier.I was successfull in doing so and I Feel Pretty Proud of myself(Even though the girl is chubby and somewhat mentally dysfuntional) For taking this new step with girls.
Here is what Was Lacking in my Game-
-Sex Talk-Even Before She Had Framed Herself as a Girl who gets pursued by lots of guys,I could have framed myself as a sexually liberal and sexually knowledgable Guy.
-I could have Handled her Trauma Dumping better-Maybe steer the conversation somewhere else)
-Logistics and Planning(I could have made more realistic plan regarding how much time each location will take and what kinds of spots or actviity are cute and give romantic sexy vibes)
Here is my Key question-Why would Jessica Tell me about Abby?Does she want to set me up with her?
Abby is prettier than Jessica but still She is pretty chubby too..
I guess the next Tiny step I need to learn to take with girls is talk about sex,relationships and set positive frames around them,While on a date.
