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Hi guys, so I think this has been probably my best outing to date.
The gym
Did an approach to [A] in the morning in the gym although unfortunately did not use direct, I think she was a bit nonplussed when I suggested we go for a run together the following day, I might have been a little eager but anyway...she wanted to get together at the gym get-together that night however I declined (as you do) and suggested Monday and ended up number closing so we will see what happens there. She's attractive enough although not a stunner (however I have been trying to tell myself to do more approaches to those of my own race so have to start somewhere). I also suggested to my personal trainer that he be my wingman for an outing, I've been asking him about his social life & love life every week for the past 8 weeks and it sounds pretty boring, he claims he's not actively looking for a girlfriend but I think he just doesn't know how to, and I'd like to get him started... plan is to take him out and explain some basics (about how to do an approach and why wingman is useful when approaching pairs of girls in bars/clubs) and then do a few approaches in front of him so he can see what an approach looks like... once I've got my target to the hook and the friend is starting to get bored and tetchy he should come in and engage her... then if he is receptive I'll get him to swap over and he can try an approach, although I suppose he'll probably fuck it up until he gets to a point of being relaxed about them.
The warmup
Then had a bit of stuff to do, housework followed by dentist followed by more housework as I was keen to close the deal with [L] who I was meeting in the city at 5.30pm, anyway so I went in to uni to do a bit of admin and made an approach in the street to [E] going direct, she liked the compliment and talked with me for some time, she's also a student and I suggested a coffee date but may have done so before the hook. Things improved a lot when she mentioned she's studying speech pathology and we started discussing stutters and diaphragm breathing, I was trying to get her to put her hand on my diaphragm so I could demonstrate something, hehehe but I guess she still wasn't keen, had LOTS of laughs though. I was kinda thinking I didn't want to be awkward or lacking momentum for the date and this was why I thought it'd be good to get some approaches in beforehand to get warmed up.
The date
I was a bit early for the date, was keen to do some more approaches but realized this could backfire (particularly if I re-approached [L] by accident) so cooled my heels a bit, luckily she was early too, I had sent a reminder text and this enabled us to hook up a bit earlier. So the date: Well it started off pretty well, we went to sit down on the library lawn and talked for some time, I asked the usual questions about boyfriends and dating and got in some chase frames although they were a little halfhearted. I did discover she's from [X] which has been problematic in the past, they're super conservative and also don't drink -- two black marks... anyway so eventually got going to restaurant, it was a bit cold so we swung by my car to get my coat (and I thought it would be a good idea just to implant in her mind that I have a car and let her get used to it)... this is where things went a little tricky, she had basically failed all of my screens or required extensive help to pass them (for example she can only cook soup and eggs but luckily I love soup and eggs)... she also does not like Italian food and unfortunately I was taking her to a street chock full of Italian restaurants... suggested meat, would she like a steak.. she said OK pretty unenthusiastically... so I went through various other options... drive in the car to Little [X]... other cuisines... refused all of them... was getting a bit frustrated, I ticked off all the options we'd tried on my fingers and then said well help me out here... so eventually we went to have steak. She liked her steak well done but the restaurant wouldn't do it, we compromised on medium but had to send it back to the kitchen to go back on the grill... hmm... so it was difficult to get any real sexual framing in there or anything since I was having a lot of trouble just getting the date to run smoothly, however I DID DO SO, and got the conversation back on track etc, had a pretty enjoyable meal and persuaded her to come and play darts since my previous plans of getting her home via a lounge bar were dead since she doesn't drink and isn't into clubbing or dancing etc... my previous experience with girls from [X] is if you persuade them to have a drink they will then fell into your arms and become a deadweight for the rest of the night hahaha so I wasn't keen for that to happen. The darts started off a bit badly, I tried to help (in a most physical manner) but discovered I'm also not the greatest darts coach, however after the first game I diagnosed the problem (how she was holding the dart) and things improved markedly, she won the second game and was pretty chuffed. So I felt things were in good shape for a 3rd game followed by some icecream, and said so, but she'd been saying for a while she wanted to go home and wanted to get 20:15 train... hmm well she missed it thanks to my agencies but anyway I walked her back to the station, was still walking with her when she suddenly said bye and left, no kiss or anything... I wished I had closed things out on my terms. Anyway I do not really think she was gaming me or anything of that nature, she's just unbelievably direct (something I had picked up in text message communications already) so I'm not upset but it was a pretty crap date from my point of view, I still like her tho. She was starting to warm up to me and had grabbed my arm once or twice, so it might've been promising if she hadn't bailed. Mainly I was frustrated at being in the city at 20:30 with nothing to do, having cleared my schedule for all the hot sex I'd be having that night... hehe.
The insta-date with [M]
So I thought fuck it, I'm just gonna approach girls until I can find a replacement date since the first one bailed out on me, and set about doing so. I was a bit hesitant to try daygame in the nighttime (I'm more comfortable with daygame) and eventually decided to go to a bar to get warmed up, I knew a place which is pretty cheap and low key and went there, I may have done one or two approaches on the way, cannot remember exactly but no results there. Anyway I bought myself a drink (non alcoholic of course), had a minor problem with bartender over my order but stood my ground. Anyway that's when I saw a group of 3 (or should I say "set"...haha)... a girl [M] and what looked like a couple although I found out later that he is gay and they are just 3 friends. Went over to the girl who looked pretty hot in a conservative kind of way (very understated clothing and jewellery but overall very nicely put together) and said something like hi there, I noticed you look unbelievably cute, introduced myself and everything, she looked extremely hesitant but overall receptive. This is where things got good, I chatted to her for a while while her friends got drinks and sat down at a table, [M] then invited me to sit with them and I said I would be delighted to do so. The friends also looked pretty hesitant and suspicious, I talked to [M] for a while feeling like a bit of an intruder and then turned to her friends, mainly the guy, and set about getting them on my side which went quite well (a miniature deep dive about their work, life, etc)... eventually turned back to resume the conversation with [M] having made things a fair bit more comfortable, and this is when I started throwing in some sexual frames, she is in accounting and finance and we were discussing the idea of opening own business and problems of managing people when I asked if she also dominates in bed, and she was I think slightly surprised but overall receptive, it only got more hilarious from there, I had already got the basics from her and the conversation was probably 75% sex and 25% deep diving from then on, the friends were listening to the conversation and absolutely kacking themselves, I think it was a bit of an eye opener for them to see their very conservative friend happily conversing on sexual topics hahaha... it did start to go a bit pear shaped when asked her about being hit on by guys in clubs or whatever and has it happend that she'd sometimes just go along with it because it was easier to do so... once she understood the question after my explaining it several times she was happy to answer it but the guy was getting pretty antsy and basically saying girls from my country [Y] don't do that and it's offensive to ask them and so on, but I easily disarmed him by explaining the context to the conversation which was that she'd asked how many boyfriends I had had, or at least I'd thought that's what she said (I have a hearing disability) and I had said none at the moment, and when pressed had eventually explained that although I am not gay I have had club makeouts with gay guys in those circumstances being asked about & was trying to put it in a familiar context for [M] and this was cool with him, especially as he is gay himself. Anyway so we were getting on like a house on fire, I was pretty determined to set up a date even though she'd already told me she had a boyfriend and she was in love with him and he wasn't just some guy who happened to be around because nothing better was available... so I said to her I had a problem I needed her to solve (we had a running joke about solving problems since I'd said that's what I do for a living and we'd agreed that's what she does too as an accountant since she was having trouble explaining the specifics in the noisy environment)... the problem is that when I meet a really stunning girl and then find that we are hitting it off and the conversation is flowing freely then I almost always set up a time to continue that conversation... and also that when said women often tell me they have a boyfriend usually I do not believe them... but she seems like a very straightforward and honest girl and so I do believe her and I feel I shouldn't hassle her... what should I do about this problem... she smiled and said she would take my number
I couldn't get hers but I do believe she will probably contact me, I don't think she enjoyed herself so much in a very long time, but will have to see... I took another 20min or so to close things out on my terms (I had lied to her in the first place that I was meeting friends who were on the way to the city and had a bit of time to kill as a result), they would have been totally happy for me to stay with them for the rest of the night I'm sure, but I could smell cockblock from the friends [since they are from a conversative country Y] so better to get her alone later on. Didn't want to muck things up or lose the intrigue as I'm keen for her to contact me, she could definitely be girlfriend material if I play my cards right. My only regret is I wasn't able to move her, again due to the friends, so I'm not sure if this counts as an insta-date but it sure felt like one. We exchanged a kiss on the cheek when I was leaving and she managed to put a fair bit of meaning into it...
The insta-date with [P]
I was going to the toilet after leaving [M] and doing several more direct approaches which were quite well received but didn't result in long conversations... when I noticed an absolutely stunning black girl [P] in a very stylish outfit who was in a quiet part of the shopping centre / entertainment complex just charging her mobile... I told her she looked absolutely gorgeous and introduced myself and said I was going to the toilet but if she was there when I got back then I would keep her company whilst she charged her mobile. She was! So we probably talked for a good 40min during which I got a solid number close and a suggestion of coffee (she's at another uni in the city near mine), she's interested in fashion and does volunteer work in aged care whilst studying business (I think)... she seemed pretty young, younger than I thought originally, maybe early 20s... but very receptive so I'm hopeful. The only problem with this interaction is my sexual frames were not really on point unlike the previous one, I think I was a bit exhausted by this stage. Closed things out fine although it wasn't on my terms exactly, she had been waiting for a (male) friend to arrive in the city from an outer suburb and went off to meet him (apparently its not a boyfriend though) so we walked through the centre some way and then exchanged a kiss on the cheek (2 in one night) which also seemed to be heartfelt on her side... so I'm hopeful! Again, it's a shame I wasn't easily able to move her, since she was charging her mobile. But this did not really seem to matter too much.
The text
I then noticed I had a text from [L] "Im home now..thanks for taking me out..I had fun when Im with u" or to that effect.. I replied (with a delay of course) "Hey [L] no-girl you are quirky. in a good way. sleep well". Apparently her friends call her no-girl and this figures from the way she refused just about everything I suggested and failed screens. Hmm, maybe she's keener than I thought? I think just a bit clueless in not realizing I'd be upset at being dumped so early...
The last few approaches
So did a couple more direct approaches in the shopping centre including one to a stunning and tall girl of my own race (normally I find this difficult), unfortunately cockblocked by her friends I think, she seemed to be saying goodbye to them or they were saying goodbye to each other or something when I made eye contact, having done so I had to approach immediately or it would have been weird so I just pulled her off to one side and said I couldn't help noticing that you are absolutely stunning, and we introduced ourselves, she was up for it but unfortunately it did not lead anywhere, I invited her to come and have a drink with me but she stayed with her friends. I decided to start walking back to my car since it was getting on for 10:30ish and I was kinda tired and have a big day planned tomorrow, but I did another approach on the way outside a club, I had just considered opening her friend, had decided against it and walked behind them for a bit when they stopped and the friend collected her boyfriend and they started milling around a bit, in the process the target came up behind/beside me and I was a little surprised but managed to get an opener out, "hi! you are extremely good looking!" whilst looking into her eyes and speaking quite slowly. They then moved to go into the club and this is where I dropped the ball, I asked if they were going into the club to buy a little time and she said yes, and instead of joining them I just said have fun whilst touching her shoulder/back and sent her on her way, I guess maybe I wasn't in a clubbing mood, or maybe it looked like too exclusive a club, or maybe that they were entering in the VIP entrance or re-entering without the queue or something... but these wouldn't have been problems if I'd just gone for it and done something. The problem was the situation called for a split-second decision. Considered going back and entering the club and reopening her but decided it would be too weird. So kept going, direct opened another girl on a street corner but this didn't last as she was with 2 guys who I hadn't initially noticed, one of them almost certainly her boyfriend, she was flattered with the compliment though and not unreceptive. My final open for the night was a girl [H] I saw crossing the street when I was nearly back at my car so I basically ran up after her and then casually pulled alongside and said "Hi there! I saw you crossing the street in front of me and couldn't help noticing that you are extremely cute", got introduced and established that she lived close by, and was returning from a work drinks function, and her work is fundraising (cold calling and the like). Walked her a block or so to her home (past my car, she was wondering what I was doing in the area and I pointed it out and jokingly offered her a lift home which got some laughs), tried to persuade her to come for a few more drinks (in the Italian restaurant precinct which basically goes all night) but she was already pretty drunk. What would have been much better would have been to suggest sitting down with her to drink some coffee until she sobers up but I suppose basically she wasn't into me and was showing strong signs of wanting to leave so eventually I let her go.
The pub
As I was driving home I stopped off at a pub and checked out a number of other venues in walking distance, there was actually someone totally hot in the pub but I blew it, had noticed her and her friend earlier and happened to glance over and maybe meet eyes with her while her friend was in the toilet and thats when I should have approached, anyway they then swapped over (target went to toilet while friend minded the drinks) and finally they came over towards me. Target was however weaving in a rather strange way, I was about to open her but was a little confused and basically just stood there with my mouth open thinking how fucking hot she was while the friend circumnavigated me from the other side, probably established a creepy eye contact and so decided to leave it, anyway looked after them and noticed target had a prosthetic leg, damn, she would probably love to have a guy come over and tell her she's totally hot and get a bit of validation that having a prosthetic leg doesn't make her any less hot, I wanted to run after them and open her but was concerned they might see it as a sympathy move & not sincere. Hmm. Wish I'd just acted a bit faster but anyway I started to feel I was losing my momentum and getting tired, I checked out one other bar which was pretty dead. There were some opportunities but I would have needed a wingman. Well, as mentioned earlier I'm working on this.
Overall: 8 approaches (approx) of which all but 1 were direct. One solid number close [P]. One medium number close [A]. One pretty flakey number close [M]. Lots of laughs, lots of fun had by myself and my targets
The gym
Did an approach to [A] in the morning in the gym although unfortunately did not use direct, I think she was a bit nonplussed when I suggested we go for a run together the following day, I might have been a little eager but anyway...she wanted to get together at the gym get-together that night however I declined (as you do) and suggested Monday and ended up number closing so we will see what happens there. She's attractive enough although not a stunner (however I have been trying to tell myself to do more approaches to those of my own race so have to start somewhere). I also suggested to my personal trainer that he be my wingman for an outing, I've been asking him about his social life & love life every week for the past 8 weeks and it sounds pretty boring, he claims he's not actively looking for a girlfriend but I think he just doesn't know how to, and I'd like to get him started... plan is to take him out and explain some basics (about how to do an approach and why wingman is useful when approaching pairs of girls in bars/clubs) and then do a few approaches in front of him so he can see what an approach looks like... once I've got my target to the hook and the friend is starting to get bored and tetchy he should come in and engage her... then if he is receptive I'll get him to swap over and he can try an approach, although I suppose he'll probably fuck it up until he gets to a point of being relaxed about them.
The warmup
Then had a bit of stuff to do, housework followed by dentist followed by more housework as I was keen to close the deal with [L] who I was meeting in the city at 5.30pm, anyway so I went in to uni to do a bit of admin and made an approach in the street to [E] going direct, she liked the compliment and talked with me for some time, she's also a student and I suggested a coffee date but may have done so before the hook. Things improved a lot when she mentioned she's studying speech pathology and we started discussing stutters and diaphragm breathing, I was trying to get her to put her hand on my diaphragm so I could demonstrate something, hehehe but I guess she still wasn't keen, had LOTS of laughs though. I was kinda thinking I didn't want to be awkward or lacking momentum for the date and this was why I thought it'd be good to get some approaches in beforehand to get warmed up.
The date
I was a bit early for the date, was keen to do some more approaches but realized this could backfire (particularly if I re-approached [L] by accident) so cooled my heels a bit, luckily she was early too, I had sent a reminder text and this enabled us to hook up a bit earlier. So the date: Well it started off pretty well, we went to sit down on the library lawn and talked for some time, I asked the usual questions about boyfriends and dating and got in some chase frames although they were a little halfhearted. I did discover she's from [X] which has been problematic in the past, they're super conservative and also don't drink -- two black marks... anyway so eventually got going to restaurant, it was a bit cold so we swung by my car to get my coat (and I thought it would be a good idea just to implant in her mind that I have a car and let her get used to it)... this is where things went a little tricky, she had basically failed all of my screens or required extensive help to pass them (for example she can only cook soup and eggs but luckily I love soup and eggs)... she also does not like Italian food and unfortunately I was taking her to a street chock full of Italian restaurants... suggested meat, would she like a steak.. she said OK pretty unenthusiastically... so I went through various other options... drive in the car to Little [X]... other cuisines... refused all of them... was getting a bit frustrated, I ticked off all the options we'd tried on my fingers and then said well help me out here... so eventually we went to have steak. She liked her steak well done but the restaurant wouldn't do it, we compromised on medium but had to send it back to the kitchen to go back on the grill... hmm... so it was difficult to get any real sexual framing in there or anything since I was having a lot of trouble just getting the date to run smoothly, however I DID DO SO, and got the conversation back on track etc, had a pretty enjoyable meal and persuaded her to come and play darts since my previous plans of getting her home via a lounge bar were dead since she doesn't drink and isn't into clubbing or dancing etc... my previous experience with girls from [X] is if you persuade them to have a drink they will then fell into your arms and become a deadweight for the rest of the night hahaha so I wasn't keen for that to happen. The darts started off a bit badly, I tried to help (in a most physical manner) but discovered I'm also not the greatest darts coach, however after the first game I diagnosed the problem (how she was holding the dart) and things improved markedly, she won the second game and was pretty chuffed. So I felt things were in good shape for a 3rd game followed by some icecream, and said so, but she'd been saying for a while she wanted to go home and wanted to get 20:15 train... hmm well she missed it thanks to my agencies but anyway I walked her back to the station, was still walking with her when she suddenly said bye and left, no kiss or anything... I wished I had closed things out on my terms. Anyway I do not really think she was gaming me or anything of that nature, she's just unbelievably direct (something I had picked up in text message communications already) so I'm not upset but it was a pretty crap date from my point of view, I still like her tho. She was starting to warm up to me and had grabbed my arm once or twice, so it might've been promising if she hadn't bailed. Mainly I was frustrated at being in the city at 20:30 with nothing to do, having cleared my schedule for all the hot sex I'd be having that night... hehe.
The insta-date with [M]
So I thought fuck it, I'm just gonna approach girls until I can find a replacement date since the first one bailed out on me, and set about doing so. I was a bit hesitant to try daygame in the nighttime (I'm more comfortable with daygame) and eventually decided to go to a bar to get warmed up, I knew a place which is pretty cheap and low key and went there, I may have done one or two approaches on the way, cannot remember exactly but no results there. Anyway I bought myself a drink (non alcoholic of course), had a minor problem with bartender over my order but stood my ground. Anyway that's when I saw a group of 3 (or should I say "set"...haha)... a girl [M] and what looked like a couple although I found out later that he is gay and they are just 3 friends. Went over to the girl who looked pretty hot in a conservative kind of way (very understated clothing and jewellery but overall very nicely put together) and said something like hi there, I noticed you look unbelievably cute, introduced myself and everything, she looked extremely hesitant but overall receptive. This is where things got good, I chatted to her for a while while her friends got drinks and sat down at a table, [M] then invited me to sit with them and I said I would be delighted to do so. The friends also looked pretty hesitant and suspicious, I talked to [M] for a while feeling like a bit of an intruder and then turned to her friends, mainly the guy, and set about getting them on my side which went quite well (a miniature deep dive about their work, life, etc)... eventually turned back to resume the conversation with [M] having made things a fair bit more comfortable, and this is when I started throwing in some sexual frames, she is in accounting and finance and we were discussing the idea of opening own business and problems of managing people when I asked if she also dominates in bed, and she was I think slightly surprised but overall receptive, it only got more hilarious from there, I had already got the basics from her and the conversation was probably 75% sex and 25% deep diving from then on, the friends were listening to the conversation and absolutely kacking themselves, I think it was a bit of an eye opener for them to see their very conservative friend happily conversing on sexual topics hahaha... it did start to go a bit pear shaped when asked her about being hit on by guys in clubs or whatever and has it happend that she'd sometimes just go along with it because it was easier to do so... once she understood the question after my explaining it several times she was happy to answer it but the guy was getting pretty antsy and basically saying girls from my country [Y] don't do that and it's offensive to ask them and so on, but I easily disarmed him by explaining the context to the conversation which was that she'd asked how many boyfriends I had had, or at least I'd thought that's what she said (I have a hearing disability) and I had said none at the moment, and when pressed had eventually explained that although I am not gay I have had club makeouts with gay guys in those circumstances being asked about & was trying to put it in a familiar context for [M] and this was cool with him, especially as he is gay himself. Anyway so we were getting on like a house on fire, I was pretty determined to set up a date even though she'd already told me she had a boyfriend and she was in love with him and he wasn't just some guy who happened to be around because nothing better was available... so I said to her I had a problem I needed her to solve (we had a running joke about solving problems since I'd said that's what I do for a living and we'd agreed that's what she does too as an accountant since she was having trouble explaining the specifics in the noisy environment)... the problem is that when I meet a really stunning girl and then find that we are hitting it off and the conversation is flowing freely then I almost always set up a time to continue that conversation... and also that when said women often tell me they have a boyfriend usually I do not believe them... but she seems like a very straightforward and honest girl and so I do believe her and I feel I shouldn't hassle her... what should I do about this problem... she smiled and said she would take my number
I couldn't get hers but I do believe she will probably contact me, I don't think she enjoyed herself so much in a very long time, but will have to see... I took another 20min or so to close things out on my terms (I had lied to her in the first place that I was meeting friends who were on the way to the city and had a bit of time to kill as a result), they would have been totally happy for me to stay with them for the rest of the night I'm sure, but I could smell cockblock from the friends [since they are from a conversative country Y] so better to get her alone later on. Didn't want to muck things up or lose the intrigue as I'm keen for her to contact me, she could definitely be girlfriend material if I play my cards right. My only regret is I wasn't able to move her, again due to the friends, so I'm not sure if this counts as an insta-date but it sure felt like one. We exchanged a kiss on the cheek when I was leaving and she managed to put a fair bit of meaning into it...The insta-date with [P]
I was going to the toilet after leaving [M] and doing several more direct approaches which were quite well received but didn't result in long conversations... when I noticed an absolutely stunning black girl [P] in a very stylish outfit who was in a quiet part of the shopping centre / entertainment complex just charging her mobile... I told her she looked absolutely gorgeous and introduced myself and said I was going to the toilet but if she was there when I got back then I would keep her company whilst she charged her mobile. She was! So we probably talked for a good 40min during which I got a solid number close and a suggestion of coffee (she's at another uni in the city near mine), she's interested in fashion and does volunteer work in aged care whilst studying business (I think)... she seemed pretty young, younger than I thought originally, maybe early 20s... but very receptive so I'm hopeful. The only problem with this interaction is my sexual frames were not really on point unlike the previous one, I think I was a bit exhausted by this stage. Closed things out fine although it wasn't on my terms exactly, she had been waiting for a (male) friend to arrive in the city from an outer suburb and went off to meet him (apparently its not a boyfriend though) so we walked through the centre some way and then exchanged a kiss on the cheek (2 in one night) which also seemed to be heartfelt on her side... so I'm hopeful! Again, it's a shame I wasn't easily able to move her, since she was charging her mobile. But this did not really seem to matter too much.
The text
I then noticed I had a text from [L] "Im home now..thanks for taking me out..I had fun when Im with u" or to that effect.. I replied (with a delay of course) "Hey [L]
no-girl you are quirky. in a good way. sleep well". Apparently her friends call her no-girl and this figures from the way she refused just about everything I suggested and failed screens. Hmm, maybe she's keener than I thought? I think just a bit clueless in not realizing I'd be upset at being dumped so early...The last few approaches
So did a couple more direct approaches in the shopping centre including one to a stunning and tall girl of my own race (normally I find this difficult), unfortunately cockblocked by her friends I think, she seemed to be saying goodbye to them or they were saying goodbye to each other or something when I made eye contact, having done so I had to approach immediately or it would have been weird so I just pulled her off to one side and said I couldn't help noticing that you are absolutely stunning, and we introduced ourselves, she was up for it but unfortunately it did not lead anywhere, I invited her to come and have a drink with me but she stayed with her friends. I decided to start walking back to my car since it was getting on for 10:30ish and I was kinda tired and have a big day planned tomorrow, but I did another approach on the way outside a club, I had just considered opening her friend, had decided against it and walked behind them for a bit when they stopped and the friend collected her boyfriend and they started milling around a bit, in the process the target came up behind/beside me and I was a little surprised but managed to get an opener out, "hi! you are extremely good looking!" whilst looking into her eyes and speaking quite slowly. They then moved to go into the club and this is where I dropped the ball, I asked if they were going into the club to buy a little time and she said yes, and instead of joining them I just said have fun whilst touching her shoulder/back and sent her on her way, I guess maybe I wasn't in a clubbing mood, or maybe it looked like too exclusive a club, or maybe that they were entering in the VIP entrance or re-entering without the queue or something... but these wouldn't have been problems if I'd just gone for it and done something. The problem was the situation called for a split-second decision. Considered going back and entering the club and reopening her but decided it would be too weird. So kept going, direct opened another girl
The pub
As I was driving home I stopped off at a pub and checked out a number of other venues in walking distance, there was actually someone totally hot in the pub but I blew it, had noticed her and her friend earlier and happened to glance over and maybe meet eyes with her while her friend was in the toilet and thats when I should have approached, anyway they then swapped over (target went to toilet while friend minded the drinks) and finally they came over towards me. Target was however weaving in a rather strange way, I was about to open her but was a little confused and basically just stood there with my mouth open thinking how fucking hot she was while the friend circumnavigated me from the other side, probably established a creepy eye contact and so decided to leave it, anyway looked after them and noticed target had a prosthetic leg, damn, she would probably love to have a guy come over and tell her she's totally hot and get a bit of validation that having a prosthetic leg doesn't make her any less hot, I wanted to run after them and open her but was concerned they might see it as a sympathy move & not sincere. Hmm. Wish I'd just acted a bit faster but anyway I started to feel I was losing my momentum and getting tired, I checked out one other bar which was pretty dead. There were some opportunities but I would have needed a wingman. Well, as mentioned earlier I'm working on this.
Overall: 8 approaches (approx) of which all but 1 were direct. One solid number close [P]. One medium number close [A]. One pretty flakey number close [M]. Lots of laughs, lots of fun had by myself and my targets
