Date Ideas For Potential Relationships

[Smith]

Hiking, movies, rock climbing, restaurants, any activities, the zoo..etc. The list goes on. It doesn't have to be over the top, but do things YOU would like to do. If you want to go swimming, invite her along. Start simple =)

 

[Franco]

Fox,

I'm assuming you're talking about casual relationships here?

At some point -- and that point, on average, is usually around the 3-month mark -- a girl will start pushing for you to do things that work toward commitment on your end. The trick is to never really take the girl out on "dates" to begin with; I usually won't even see a girl outside of my own place (or hers) until at least the three month mark, and then from there, if I like her, I'll maybe start taking her out to a bar, or a movie, or a club (or whatever). The only dates that happen prior to the 3-month mark are the dates that we went on before I bedded the girl.

Don't worry too much about dates. Dates are for the process that lead UP to sex; once you've had sex, the only dates you should really care about (and the ones she cares about) are at your place ending in sex. If she starts pushing for dates later on in the casual relationship, and you really like her to the point where she's a potential long-term candidate, then you can start doing more things together (and you'll have plenty of options because you hadn't been taking her on tons of dates up until that point).

- Franco

 

[Franco]

Fox,

We are on month 3. Is taking her to this little festival thing going to ruin your game plan that you've laid out and I've been following? I was kind of assuming something so small wouldn't really be a big deal.

If you haven't been taking her out into public at all, then for her, it's going to be a big deal. To her, it's like, "YAY! He's willing to walk around with me in front of other people in public!!!"

This is all fine of course assuming you want to keep this girl around, but if you're wanting to keep things strictly sexual, then it's going to lead to her pushing for more "little" things like this. Next week, she'll suddenly want to go to the mall or see a movie with you. And then after that, she'll want to go out for dinner one night instead of stay in, or go to a bar to drink instead of buying a bottle of wine for home, etc. Again, all of this is okay if you're attempting to move her into a girlfriend-type role or something that is more serious than a friends with benefits role.

So just make sure you know what you want with this girl before deciding what actions to take with her. =)

- Franco