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For context, I want to use this as a reference point for later on. Anyways I matched with this girl online and after about a week of talking we decided to meet up at a bar near her place. Over text I didn’t really sexualize at all and it was more just getting to know each other.
Anyways I get to said bar around 8 pm on a Wednesday and I’m a bit nervous. I purposely get there about 10 minutes before our scheduled time so I can scope out the scene and get a drink. After drinking some of my drink she says that she’s here and I meet her outside and give her a hug.
I have her order at the bar and I pay for her drink and then I guide her to a table In the corner. She initially sits directly across from me but I say sit over here and point to the chair next to me. She complies.
We talk for about 30 minutes and she’s pretty intellectual and asks me engaging questions. At this point, I’m thinking she’s like a 5.5/10. I complimented her appearance mid convo and then we went back to talking normally. Tbh, the only time I would be “physical” with her was when I complimented her and then also when I tried some of her drink.
After finishing my drink, I said are you ready to leave and she said yes. So we start walking and talking about where to go. At one point she asks where should we go. I tell her I don’t know so I ask her “where do u wanna go?” At which point she says “come on man up and pick somewhere”, from what I inferred from this is that she wanted me to say “let’s go back to her place”, which I did not end up saying either because I wasn’t that attracted to her or that I was too nervous about getting rejected.
We then walked past a bar and she said let’s go here. I said okay and we went in. This place was pretty packed for a Wednesday night as they were holding an event. We end up talking to a group of people that had a reserved booth and were nice enough to let us sit with them. After about 20-30 minutes of chatting with this group, I told her I had to work tomorrow morning so I should get to heading to home, to which she seemed disappointed but ultimately agreed. From there I left the bar and headed home.
As a side note, I’ll be moving out of my parents place and into a kickass apartment downtown that’s within a 5 minute walking distance to all of the major bars/nightclubs. I do truthfully believe that once I move out of my parents place it will be a lot easier to do “game”/ meet people instead of having to travel 40 minutes every time I go out. My initial plan is to go out solo on Thursdays to some bars and clubs and meet people and get both guys/girls numbers with the pretense that I’m new in town.
After the numbers start to accumulate and I have a decent social group formed, I’ll start inviting people to my place before going out/after the bars, which I think will make it a lot easier to get laid as I find it’s easier to approach when I’m with another person. In addition, I’m sure some of the people who I become friends with will also have friends who are attractive, at which point there’s a type of social connection between myself and the attractive friend.
Anyways I get to said bar around 8 pm on a Wednesday and I’m a bit nervous. I purposely get there about 10 minutes before our scheduled time so I can scope out the scene and get a drink. After drinking some of my drink she says that she’s here and I meet her outside and give her a hug.
I have her order at the bar and I pay for her drink and then I guide her to a table In the corner. She initially sits directly across from me but I say sit over here and point to the chair next to me. She complies.
We talk for about 30 minutes and she’s pretty intellectual and asks me engaging questions. At this point, I’m thinking she’s like a 5.5/10. I complimented her appearance mid convo and then we went back to talking normally. Tbh, the only time I would be “physical” with her was when I complimented her and then also when I tried some of her drink.
After finishing my drink, I said are you ready to leave and she said yes. So we start walking and talking about where to go. At one point she asks where should we go. I tell her I don’t know so I ask her “where do u wanna go?” At which point she says “come on man up and pick somewhere”, from what I inferred from this is that she wanted me to say “let’s go back to her place”, which I did not end up saying either because I wasn’t that attracted to her or that I was too nervous about getting rejected.
We then walked past a bar and she said let’s go here. I said okay and we went in. This place was pretty packed for a Wednesday night as they were holding an event. We end up talking to a group of people that had a reserved booth and were nice enough to let us sit with them. After about 20-30 minutes of chatting with this group, I told her I had to work tomorrow morning so I should get to heading to home, to which she seemed disappointed but ultimately agreed. From there I left the bar and headed home.
As a side note, I’ll be moving out of my parents place and into a kickass apartment downtown that’s within a 5 minute walking distance to all of the major bars/nightclubs. I do truthfully believe that once I move out of my parents place it will be a lot easier to do “game”/ meet people instead of having to travel 40 minutes every time I go out. My initial plan is to go out solo on Thursdays to some bars and clubs and meet people and get both guys/girls numbers with the pretense that I’m new in town.
After the numbers start to accumulate and I have a decent social group formed, I’ll start inviting people to my place before going out/after the bars, which I think will make it a lot easier to get laid as I find it’s easier to approach when I’m with another person. In addition, I’m sure some of the people who I become friends with will also have friends who are attractive, at which point there’s a type of social connection between myself and the attractive friend.
