Dated this Christian girl, tells me she's not ready...

[stoiclover]

Hi everybody here's my story about how I messed up and accidentally developed feelings for this girl. My background: slept with about a dozen girls, never been in a serious relationship.

Before you say "Move on", let me tell you the gist.

I dated this girl for about a month(oct-nov) and things were going good. She'd initiate contact a lot via text when we weren't together, etc.
Never slept with her, never went past kissing. She's really Christian and she would end making out early.

Anyhow, all of a sudden I text her to go on another date, and she flaked and said we need to have a little conversation. Meet up the next day, she gives me the "I dont think we should be dating anymore" spiel because she's "not ready". Usually I take that as a polite-get-lost, but she's really religious, never dated before and maybe she's really not ready.

I know I have to move on. So I went cold on her, would still see her sometimes in class(we go to the same college) or something. After a couple of weeks, I saw her playing piano in one of the practice rooms in the music building. I waved hi and kept on my way. That night she texted me saying she can play piano for me sometime. I caved in and texted back and forth a little. Anyway, lately she's snapped me flirtatiously and sent me a text saying something along the lines of "i'm tired i like you byeeeeee"

Wtf is going on? Is she trying to friendzone me? Does she just not have boundaries?

Thanks haha. What a mess it is trying to find someone.

 

[ray_zorse]

She sounds like a time-waster. What I would do with a girl like this is text back and forth a couple of times and then invite her to hang out at my home. Usually she then beats a speedy retreat. Then I know she's a time-waster. On the other hand, nothing forces her to act this way. If she wants your value, she can come.

On the subject of her Christianity, girls tend to put up a lot of roadblocks... I've got my period, I'm a virgin, I don't do this on XXX date, I'm waiting for XXX, I'm Christian, ... if you take these at face value, you don't get the honey. If you use non-judgemental frames and qualify her as adventurous, then provided she is attracted and you move fast, she should put out. She's a woman first, women love sex... they'll just pretend not to, because the Church/society expects them to.

Ray

 

[stoiclover]

Even if she said she's "not ready for dating", I should try to hang out with her one last time and then I'll move on.

Her friend told me it might be a two year burn before I could even call her my girlfriend (how repressed can one girl be?!)

Lol, thanks for the advice